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IVF - A supportive group of ladies at various stages of the ivf journey.

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Dbear35 · 01/12/2017 11:16

A super group of women supporting each other and sharing their personal journeys and experiences during the IVF processs. All are welcome !

IVF - A supportive group of ladies at various stages of the ivf journey.
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Aliona19 · 27/12/2017 20:07

Minster 😭😭😭😭 you made me cry here. How amazing is that?!? I wish you all very best ❤️❤️ Please let us all have stories like that

Starlumiere · 27/12/2017 20:14

Awww Minster this is wonderful!! Thank you for sharing with us 😘. I am so happy for you!!! ❤️💫🌟✨🌹

Minster2012 · 27/12/2017 20:16

It’s fantastic, really really couldn’t have gone better, even one of my DSIL who wants to start TTC but her DH & her have decided to wait until after a big delayed honeymoon (who we thought would be more jealous), only he was there on Xmas day but I spent a lot of time yesterday with her explaining the whole journey to her & difficulties to try & make her see it’s not about anyone else to us it was always about just trying to see if we could & how hard it has been & letting her ask anything about it or my treatment & she sent me the most amazing message earlier saying thank you for taking the time to explain it and she thinks it’s the most brilliant thing.

It was v hard not telling someone else I’m really close to yesterday who knows about the IVF but we agreed.

We will no doubt be having loads of those conversations with ppl over the coming weeks as we just don’t talk about my treatment but it’s brilliant...

I want this feeling for everyone here 😍💕😁💕xxxxxx in the words of mine & DH’s family “isn’t science bloody brilliant”

Janefx40 · 28/12/2017 00:00

@Minster2012 amazing story! It's like a scene from a movie. So pleased your reveal went well.

@Dbear35 and @Aliona19 great that you are starting.

I think we're starting down regs on 4th Jan. have my midcycle scab tomorrow on monitoring cycle. I'm feeling super nervous about starting IVF but trying not to freak out. At the moment it all seems quite overwhelming especially the drugs and procedures. Good to have you guys here more experienced and with some positive results to keep me going. Been reading "get a life". Anyone else read that?

Good luck @Starlumiere tomorrow with your scan. Hope it goes well

Xx

RoseWrites · 28/12/2017 09:00

Oh my goodness minster that's amazing! What a great way to tell everyone! My plan was to Skype my mum with our 12 week scan photo... might need to try something more elaborate after hearing your story! :)

star is your scan today? Best of luck :) I'll be thinking of you xx

jane don't feel nervous, you'll be fine once you get going :) it's strange how quickly injecting yourself feels normal!

dbear yay to starting again! That's come around so fast. Im sure you can still have a small wine on NYE... Prof Robert Winstone says it helps you to relax. And we all need to be relaxed, right? :)

Hope everyone is staying well and warm? Xx

Dbear35 · 28/12/2017 10:31

Morning ladies!

minster like aliona said you made me cry your reveal sounds epic! It’s a shame you cannot share the video with us, I’m so glad it all went to plan this make my ❤️Melt! 😍

rose I know everything is all moving now it feels like I am doing something at last! I forgot how much buserilin distrups sleep but hey ho it’s worth it and i should start to get used to it again pretty quickly! A Skype reveal sounds great I bet you cannot wait! 😊 x

star please let us know how your scan goes will be thinking of you all day xx

jane I know I was pretty nervous when we were doing our first round and the drugs and plan and timings where a tad overwhelming but honestly you get used to it so quickly. Half way through mine I had 2 weddings and had no issue with popping to the loo to inject both times, you can’t hibernate or let it distrub your day. And as you say you’ve got us to talk too if you need anything.

atik dinks I hope you lovelies are both ok?xx

It’s a stunning day today I’m going to try and convince the DH to go for a walk somewhere (he’s currently at down with man flu but I think fresh air will help!) .

Xxx

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Starlumiere · 28/12/2017 11:57

Good morning ladies!!!

So came back from the Clinic and well, it does not look promising. We can see to sacs but a bit smaller than last time, so we have another scan next week as the Nurse said one might actually grow, but I know the truth 😬.

Yes I know, it is not great but I cried my eyes out yesterday as I started to bleed more and I am now relieved. I can now enjoy a few days off before going back to work. I have enquired already about the second round, it will probably be a short protocol as she said everything went perfectly.

Going through a pregnancy with problems would not suit me. The last week has been challenging to say the least and I am glad I now know - although losing twins is not easy. All of us on here has to go through our own challenges, this is now mine. I have been blessed in my life, truly I have been, and trust a better outcome it out there in the near future.

How is everybody hey?

Lots of love to all and hope I can count on you for my second round 😘.

😘😘😘

Dbear35 · 28/12/2017 12:28

star

Oh lovely you must be going out of your mind with worry, although you are sounding so strong.

all is not lost yet keep your fabulous positivity up you will not know when final outcome until scam next wk.🙏🏻🤞🏻

You of course can count on us ladies to be your support whatever the outcome will be 😘.

Send you lots of love xxxx

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Minster2012 · 28/12/2017 12:55

star of course we are here for you, pleased you feel a bit more peace & have a bit of a plan for going forwards and as you said it all went perfect last time so there’s no reason you can have a good protocol & go smooth again

Lots of 💕& hugs and positive thoughts your way lovely lady xx

Hope everyone else is good

RoseWrites · 28/12/2017 14:28

star exactly like dbear and minster said :) I'm so sorry to hear this, but I'm so impressed by your positivity. All we can do is keep on keeping on. Your body did a great job on the first round at making eggs and embryos, and it will again if needs be. And we are here for you. We are all here for the long haul :) sending lots of love xxx

Janefx40 · 28/12/2017 16:52

@Starlumiere am so sorry it wasn't a better result from you scan. You sound very positive and clear about the way forward which is great - but if you do feel down or want a moan at some point, this is a good place to come xx

Starlumiere · 28/12/2017 21:00

Good evening everybody,

Thank you very much for your compassion, it is very much heartfelt 😁.

I have had a pretty good day, considering; went for a pretty long walk, a lot of meditation, great time my wonderful man and checked puppies online! My OH is sold, but I am seriously considering it!! 😍

Wishing you all a wonderful evening,
XXX

Aliona19 · 28/12/2017 21:02

Star stop telling porkies 😂😂 you spend all day talking yo me 😘😘

Starlumiere · 28/12/2017 21:14

Aliona 😂😂😂😂 you are such a nutter!!!

Minster2012 · 29/12/2017 08:38

Puppies all round for everyone!! Dogs help everything!!

We had a lovely crisp & sunny day here yesterday & took ours to the beach & it was puppy’s 1st time at the beach, she ran around like a nutter but came back to good recall, she loved it! It was fab...this zonked our picture was the result when we got home!! 🐶😁😍

DH has just said we have snow again now ❄️❄️

Janefx40 · 29/12/2017 11:30

Lovely puppies! Make everyone happy.

After my mid-cycle scan yesterday I've been told I'll be on a short protocol. Bit of a surprise as they had previously said if my results this cycle were similar to tests done by GP (they were) then we'd be in long. Waiting for a nurse to call me back and explain but now stressing about my fertility being worse than expected - and I'm 40 so hopes weren't high. But then I guess I am in the right place if there is a problem and suppose I have to trust the clinic. Anyone have experience of short protocols?

Starlumiere · 29/12/2017 11:59

Hi @janet,

I was on a short protocol, 2 weeks of stims and then had my EC, 3 days later ET - 2 of them. It is relatively quick. You are 40? I am 44 years old and got pregnant, despite what's going on now. Breathe through each step, as there are quite a few and trust your body will do what it needs to do. Let me know if you have anymore questions and it sounds like you will start very soon bless you! 😁

Try to stay calm sweetie 😘

dinksandbinks · 29/12/2017 12:28

Hello everyone,

Happy Christmas to all!! Hope you had a wonderful time,

Star I am so sorry to hear you didn't get the best news. That must be so hard to deal with - but I understand when you say you couldn't handle a complicated pregnancy. I hope you are being spoiled lots by OH! If you are looking at puppies I feel you must share pictures or at least ideas with us!

Minster It sounds like you had the most wonderful day! How creative you are too... I just texted my parents and siblings. So unromantic of me lol. Puppies on the beach!! That looks beautiful! Are you near the coast? I would love to live nearer the coast but the commute would kill me. I decided that when I win the lottery we will live near the coast.

Jane I was on short protocol too, and I was on it because of PCOS; long protocol gives a greater risk of overstimulation (which I got on short protocol anyway lol). It doesn't mean anything is bad, it just means your particular results suit this approach better. Maybe you have more follicles than they expected? Also, it is SO much quicker on short protocol! Fewer drugs, fewer injections... I couldn't handle long protocol I don't think. Exciting things are around the corner for you :)

As for me, I am still battling nausea and acid reflux. I have given up hoping that it goes away, because the disappointed expectations that comes with every passing week is really hard to stomach (haha bad pun). OH is really looking after me and I seem to have identified a lot of trigger foods that I know to avoid now (CHOCOLATE IS ONE OF THEM).

My appetite is definitely coming back as I had a sip of decaf coffee yesterday and thought "mm I missed this". Also sniffed OH's glass of sherry last night and wished I could have one.

Thank you all for the advice about the screening tests. Minster like you we always agreed that if there was a high risk we would do further tests and if a diagnosis was found then we wouldn't continue. I have some extra health issues (nothing like yours) that make life hard occasionally, and we decided that if I had a flare up, and we had a kid with additional needs, it would be too much for OH to handle alone.

Having said that, we looked at all the stats and think that 1 in 200, although higher than we thought we'd get, is not worth spending the extra money for further tests. The NT test was fine, it's the PAPP-A and HCG that are high, but both of these can be affected by bleeding, which I have had. The scan showed my placenta is at the front, and may be close to the cervix and that could explain the bleeding (which still goes on, although much much less). So these things could explain part of the result. OH and I are both PhDs in stats-y subjects so we loved digging through all the statistics! I am going to be such a nightmare patient :D

Anyhoo, I think that's all my news. It is super snowy here today, so we can't get the car out. Going to go for a walk to the supermarket and get ingredients to make cinnamon buns. Snow means cinnamon.

I hope you're all ok. Love and hugs to all of you, especially you Star, we will all be here for you :)

xxx

Aliona19 · 29/12/2017 12:51

Dinks 😅 those cinnamon buns?!? 😅😅

Minster super pics, make me wanna go to he beach now. Although this shit bag hates water. Last pic reminds me of myself for last few days 😅 anyway as you nicely ignored my request earlier I will repeat myself 😅 when r u going to reveal yourself?

Star r you on the way to the breeder yet?! 😘.

So my drug company rang and delivering my meds on 4th. So i am stress free for a little while now 😅

IVF - A supportive group of ladies at various stages of the ivf journey.
Janefx40 · 29/12/2017 12:58

@dinksandbinks and @Starlumiere thank you for your responses and reassurances. Made me well up - I'm so emotional these days!

Sorry you're feeling sick @dinksandbinks - sounds like you are clear about the testing - what you say makes sense. All these decisions are so hard - I think it's just about being clear what is right for you which you are.

@Starlumiere hope you are still feeling ok-ish. Glad OH is being wonderful.

Loving this new Mumsnet gang. Lovely ladies and puppies. Perfect!

Janefx40 · 29/12/2017 12:58

Not sure why that was all in bold. Didn't mean to shout! X

dinksandbinks · 29/12/2017 13:15

Aliona YES those cinnamon buns!!! How do you fancy a trip to Yorkshire with the buns lol?? It would save me a trip to the shops Xmas Wink

That’s so exciting your medication is coming next week!! Time is going sooo fast. Hope you can relax a bit over new year :)

Jane I’m glad it helped. It’s such an emotional time, I cried buckets at random things just because. It’s totally normal, unfortunately! But we’re here for those times :)

Here’s a snowy picture for you (our back garden) and also the ratbags who could not care less about snow and have stolen my chair.

IVF - A supportive group of ladies at various stages of the ivf journey.
IVF - A supportive group of ladies at various stages of the ivf journey.
Starlumiere · 29/12/2017 14:01

@dinks and @jane - I am doing quite well, but last night woke up in pain and right now it is hurting and the bleeding is a constant reminder of what's happening. I am not somebody who dwells on negativity, although I do allow myself time to deal with what needs to be dealt with. The pain and bleeding make it hard to move on, plus the crying I find it all exhausting!!! But honestly I good 😁. I am just ready to move on, but the universe has other plans so, so be it!

Yes my love is taking really good care of me, he is doing everything and covering me with so much ❤️! I don't feel I need anything else at the moment, I am blessed.

@Aliona I will wait for next week and then see puppies yeah!!! 😍
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Dbear35 · 29/12/2017 18:57

Evening ladies!

star keep I am so happy that you are being covered in love and you know you have all our love from all of us. You truly are an inspiration with your positivite vibes and I hope whatever happens for me this next time that I can be a little bit more like you.😘💫

minster those puppy beach pics are gorgeous!makes me want a puppy even more so now (although nearest beach is 45mins away we have some lovely countryside) we are thinking of a cavapoo.

dinks lovely to hear from you I am desperate for snow but only rain for leafy Surrey unfortunately. Glad the sickness is easing ...however how unlucky chocolate is a trigger 😕. Those gorgeous kitty’s of yours have the right idea!

jane Being emotional is the norm I pretty much cried on and off for the wks before during and a wk or so after the drugs. It’s a scary time and a fear of the unknown but I promise it’s not as bad as you think and as long as you have a supportive OH and a few good friends plus us on here then your be fine 👍🏻. In regards to long or short I have no idea what I was on but it felt long! Lol every clinic is different in their approach so I’m sure they’ve selected the one that’s best for you.

aliona yay to finding out about the drugs, yours only just behind me then whoop! I have a 2ww buddy at least for a bit of it. 👏🏻👍🏻👯‍♀️

Nothing to report from me apart from the drugs are definitely taking an effect I’m irritable, short any tolerance whatsoever and sleep is a dream. but hey seeing as I’m trying to be a little bit like star I am good I have my wonderful DH and I have no adverse reactions to chocolate like poor dinks and I am still off work so I cannot complain 😁

Have a super evening ladies xxx

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Aliona19 · 29/12/2017 19:27

Dbear.. I am happy they arriving but the symptoms u talking about making me worried 🤨 I only use this drugs for my trigger 🤨🤨🤨 not happy
Lol sorry Dinks, this things don’t last here at all 😅 they wouldn’t survive the trip anyway. Hope you manage to find energy to go to the shop 😆