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[Jamon]

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Hep I bulk buy pregnacare in packs of three - 28 tabs in each. Every time they run out I think FML and have the same little joke with DH - I call them my making a baby tablets and say again how I'm going to write to the company as they are not working properly. Mega TTC lols

over Yeah I spot before for up to a week! Defo go day 2 then ☺️ I also had 21 on day 19 as my cycle is only 27 days max now.

Aw thanks for the cheering! I'll remind you in jan! 😂

hep I also use pregnacare! It makes my pee yellow but otherwise fine 😊jam where do you buy in bulk? X

Polka - you are more than welcome here, I know how you feel re the conception boards. I quickly began to feel out of place there. In fact, there are some women I know from the very first thread I joined who are now heavily pregnant with their second child. This thread is so much better. Everyone has different issues but the same goal (assisted conception), and even if you don’t need that route - we should be able to help you with any tests or queries you have. We could write a book on infertility between us...maybe we should.

Struggle - hope work provides the distraction you need right now, try not to worry okay? What will be, will be. And if it isn’t what you hope, you’ve got to come back fighting for round 2.

Plane - the last time I was in Cyprus, I swam out to Aphrodite’s rock and placed a pebble on it. It’s supposed to bring you healthy and successful fertility. I guess mine must have got knocked off by someone...

Flash - if it was me, I’d get a late day 2 appointment, especially if your in full flow already.

Hep - yes 😔 all the time - in fact I need some more soon too. I was taking Pregnacare but I might start using the Seven Seas one...save myself some money at least.

Kerry signing in!

33 - 34 in June and I HATE how this crap makes you dread your birthdays.

TTC since March 15 though more concertedly since Jan 16 after OH had adult circumcision to resolve some issues. This is officially cycle 22 with the miscarriage.

3xIUIs at local nhs hospital - second one resulted in a pregnancy, missed miscarriage happened at 9 weeks and discovered just before 12 weeks (thank the flying spaghetti monster not at my 12 week scan).

IVF next, hopefully kicking off by March at the latest.

I said to OH last night that we should take the time before IVF to reconnect sexually - by which I meant have sex when we FEEL like it, maybe involve some toys/outfits, and a LOT more orgasms for me rather than just the shortest route to getting sperm inside me.

Anyway he went on a mini rant about how he could see that I was hoping to be 'one of those people who get pregnant just before IVF'

That's now that I meant at all, I honestly don't think we're going to get pregnant without IVF. Maybe there's a 2% chance but we haven't gotten pregnant once on our own in 2.5 years of trying so it doesn't seem likely. I'm just annoyed that he took it that way! Will have to try and talk to him again tonight.

Kerry hugs. TTC sure can suck the joy out of sex, it's great that you want to try and regain some of the pleasure factor before starting IVF. Do you think he could have interpreted it that you haven't been enjoying sex and took that personally?

Or perhaps turning it around that actually he hopes you will be the person that gets pregnant before IVF and so got defensive? I know that seems mad but I often think the problem with lots of men isn't that they don't have feelings, but that they often cannot identify or understand them at all so they just deflect.

DH went and did his SA today! He wouldn't tell me which day, so I just got a text at lunch saying 'It's all done'. So we should have all our results by the end of next week... Just worked out I had a 23 day cycle this month. What a joke! Am I mad that I'm kindof pleased this cycle was representative of my normal cycle (totally messed up) rather than one of my occasional better ones, as I feel like the test results will be more representative?

Maybe Flash! I think he'd agreed all our sex the past year and a half has been 'get the job done' more than anything else. You could be right about the deflection though

Great about the SA!

Hello,
Thanks Jam for new thread.

I'm Baguette, 37, TTC for a long time, hate counting the cycles but I thought I'd be onto baby no. 2 by now. Ha!
No hint of a BFP, regular periods with hit and miss ovulation, ovarian reserve depleting as we speak, DH has good swimmers though.
Will be starting 1st IVF cycle soon.
DH is my only RL support for this, so this thread is a big help.
Better get back to work now so will quickly say Happy Birthday Basset and welcome to Polka.

Hi all, Can I join?

31 TTC #1 MFI and premature ovarian failure and starting ICSI in January. Also have thyroid problems and the lightest periods in the world - though no one seems very interested in this?

Never had a bfp and fed up with everyone I know announcing pregnancies!

Looking forward to getting started pretty much as soon as the new year is here I start injections but slightly apprehensive - we've been told it wouldn't be impossible to conceive on our own with DH count but time is not on our side due to me so we're just getting on with it!

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Thank the Flying Spaghetti Monster? This really made me laugh 😂

It’s pretty awful that as my chronic period pains started just as I finished work, I’m considering myself lucky. This is the sliding scale I’m working to nowadays. Yes, I’m going to be writhing around in pain unable to eat or sleep all night, and possibly throwing up at 2am but at least I can do it in the comfort of my own home. Welp, I’m drugged up and ready to go. Wish me luck and see you all on the other side of this absolute shitstorm. 😂

Happy Birthday basset!!!!!! 🎊🎉🎁🎈
Please come back- we miss you!!!

jamon what are you like? 😘 I am sure needlegate will be fine!!!

kathrino after more than a year on the Seven Seas trying for a baby supplement I switched to the actual key vitamins so take Vitamin D, E, folic acid, co-enzyme q10 and occasionally vitamin C.
Oh and I used to take a vitamin B complex but I went through a phase when I started to itch everywhere and I dropped it. Now I rely on Marmite

plane OTD Wednesday next week!!!!

hep I get extremely depressed - the bottles go down fast...

flash what does the clinic say about the bloods?

plane I went to El Rocio in Andalucia in the summer of 2015... she is known to bless the infertile... clearly I should made the journey on foot rather than in a rental car!!!

Good luck with DH kerry he should be thankful you still want to get jiggy with him!

Welcome claire!!!

So I am off home to binge shop FRERs online!!! (And maybe get some Christmas presents too).

skipper I think it is rude, outrageous and insolent the way you suffer with your AF!!! 🤬🤬🤬🤬

BASSET
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Welcome newbies, all the ladies here are wonderful.* Xxxx

Ffs. Mumsnet is WANK.

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Oh Sk1pper I'm so sorry for your awful period pains. It's just not fair. I hope they go easier on you this month.

I started typing 'thank the lord' but as an athiest it felt wrong!

Argh - on hols so behind on the new thread (thank you @Jamon!) but wanted to check in. I'm geeup, 35, had slight MFI but now just unexplained. Been trying since July 2015 when I joined this thread . Lost count of cycle number but 30+ with no natural BFPs. Had two fresh rounds of IVF, both times I bled 6dp5dt, first round was BFN, second was BFP but quickly turned to a chemical. Start downregging for my first medicated frozen cycle in about a week ready for the transfer in early Jan hopefully. Please god let this one be it because I am so so over doctors, medication, dildocams, and the whole shebang... company on this thread is fab though and has kept me sane (just)

Plane boots does them 3 for 2!

Kerry that's a really rubbish reaction from your DH he needs to have a word with his elf

Flash fingers crossed for your results and well done to DH

Welcome Claire!

Oh skipper you poor love, did you try any mefenemic acid? I know it's not TTC friendly but the odd one or two seems like it might be worth a try

Kwick I seem to be a retard with needles. Let us know if you find FRER deals!

Happy birthday basset! 💖🥂

Thanks for the new thread Jam!

Quiet here
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Cycle 14 about to start I think (some spotting, expected by Sat)

Trying for a year, bugger all happened. Had initial bloods, fanjocam and SA for DH - nothing unusual came up.

Got a GP appointment in a couple of weeks to get referral ball rolling - and not looking forward to it.

Hi to polka and Claire - am another who's not yet started treatment or anything, so will be nice to have company.

mouse so glad you're sticking around - literally just quoted you today on the one other Conception thread I can bear about knowing other babies don't affect my journey - you've been such a source of positivity and understanding! xx

@geeup hope hols are going well!!!

jamon no FRER deals and Superdrug did not accept my voucher code online so I ended up with a Superdrug haul sans any FRER and then I went on to get in a Body Shop haul as I found a £10 off voucher.... THERE IS NO HOPE FOR ME!!!
of course there is the fact that I already have a stash of FRER

Oh my gosh- the new thread is so busy already!!

👋🏼 newbies and welcome!!

Bit on me: I’m 36, TTC for I actually do t know anymore - on cycle 20 think, have lost count 🙁 2 rounds of IVF, both failed. I have low AMH but that doesn’t explain why we couldn’t conceive naturally. However we found out recently that DH despite always having ‘excellent’ semen analysis has high sperm DNA fragmentation which means the IVF was never going to work 😤 Have since found out that he has elevated white blood cells which is the likely cause behind high fragmentation so has been put on course of antibiotics.

So my message to everyone is: Get a sperm DNA fragmentation test. Even if semen analysis is normal. Get it get it GET IT. If you go to spermcomet.com you can find out more about it and find a clinic near you that offers it.

Nothing much to report here - just doing a lot of reading to prep for interview on Tuesday!

Kerry - I’m atheist too and I will definitely be stealing this phrase. I didn’t realise there a whole “church” dedicated to him, I have just be googling it.

Jam - no I didn’t, but I’m planning on phoning my private health insurance to me seen by a gynaecologist there. They don’t fund infertility but I might be able to get round it if I mention my standard of living etc

So I did quite well, actually slept though till now before the real pain started. And it’s not chronic, it’s bad enough to wake me but I’ve been well enough to browse the internet and stay still in the spare bed (normally I’m wriggling around like something possessed or in and out of a hot bath). I just hope that doesn’t mean it’s going to ramp up at work. I did double my dosage of fish oil this month (supposedly it reduced inflammation) - so we’ll see. I’ve been drooling over the Nintendo Switch Black Friday deal on Amazon...DH doesn’t want me to buy it though but it’s calling to me.

Sk1pper - glad you've been touched by His Noodly appendage! :) It's all basically a piss take of how silly religion can be I think but you can follow the flying spaghetti monster on twitter which is quite funny.

Glad your period isn't too horrendous!

Pjs - I'm definitely going to ask about a fragmentation test when we go for IVF.

Well, talking to my OH about sex didn't go as planned, again. Firstly, apparently crossed wires were responsible for what I thought he said the night before and it wasn't what he said at all. Right-o.

Then his response to 'let's reconnect sexually before ivf because while it's going on it may be for months and months and not exactly super sexy' was 'great, in order to be more sexy to me I'm gonna need you to wear your hair the way I like it more and wear different clothes.

Context - he has said in the past that he dislikes certain things, like 'grannyish' cardigans and that he likes my hair down. I got rid of a few things he doesn't like and wear my hair down 95% OF THE TIME.

Anyway he'd had a few glasses of wine and did try to apologise this morning but I was too angry. I already feel inadequate enough as a woman with the infertility and miscarriage without him pointing out the ways my hair and clothes are crap.

Kerry - I’m sorry but what your OH said to you just isn’t okay. For you to be sexy you have to look a certain way? What the fucking hell?! I’m by no means a feminist or anything but I do not believe that women are put on this earth to please men with the way they look. Does your OH work out? Does he have a bit of a belly? I’d find some insecurity of his and get back at him in this way, fight fire with fire. But I’m possibly being a bit childish...

Kwick there is no hope. I love a bit of body shop action though. What's your Black Friday strategy?

The Flying Spaghetti Monster is here on this thread to stay 😅

Skipper 05:10 ugh you poor sleepy thing. Hope you are taking it easy today. Getting to a gynaecologist would definitely be a good thing - you need help managing this.

Kerry he sounds similar to my DH - he grumbles about my M&S undies etc. I think he should find me sexy in a bin bag but apparently underwear means more to some men than others 🙄 I know what you mean Skipper there is a feminist part of me too that inwardly groans at this but then there are definitely times I look at DH and find him sexy and times I think hmmm those jogging bottoms aren't the best - and I think that's okay if it works both ways.

Day 5 of stims today and I add cetrotide tonight. We're going to our next door neighbours for dinner so might have to nip home quickly to inject. Only problem is I kind of need DH as cetrotide is a faff with mixing powder and swapping needles. Our neighbours might just have to think we're weird and just have to go home very quickly to see the cat or something. Either that or I just do them all late! Had acupuncture this morning and cried a bit talking to her - she always asks how I am and just saying the words just brings the tears. Feeling calmer now though 🙏🏼 I love acupuncture.

Thanks ladies Sk1pper and Jamon - I think the reason he focuses on it is because he actually has body dysmorphia, and he can be very weird about his clothes/hair/body. He works out a HUGE amount and wears specific clothes (every few months he changes his mind about which clothes and basically buys a whole new wardrobe).

So I don't mention those things because I know there's a reason he's doing it and I don't want him to feel more insecure. I just wish he'd afford me the same consideration!

Also WINTER! Pjs! Cosyness!