IVF SEP/OCT Part 2- Get your Stretchy Leggings here ladies!

[Minster2012]

IVF buddies September /October continued, heading into November & wearing VERY comfy stretchy leggings & trousers (perfect for Xmas too!!)

Rose do you count the day it went in? I think so don’t you? Cos it’s doing something on that day isn’t it?!

If so we are only 4dp4dt! Loads of time to go and also we are testing a day later than the full 2ww as in ET was tues we are testing a week next weds because that’s when we can all get together & it positive my friend will need more meds’ so she’ll have to come over to us to clinic over here.

Looooong time!!

6 is still great! Are you putting in 2 or 1?

Minster I guess you count ET day as a day? Although I have to say I don't really have a clue! :)

A week on Wednesday will fly around, particularly if you get cracking on Christmas crafts! :)

We are going to put 1 in. I think the NICE guidance is to only have 1 put in if you're under 37 and it's your first or second go? So I'll go with what the experts say...

The clinic just called to say that there are 3 front runners and have moved onto the compaction stage (whatever that means!), and a fourth that isn't far behind. One looked a bit weird, so they've taken that out, so we are down to 5. Which is still good, I guess - and i'm pleased that they monitor them so closely, so hopefully we get a good one tomorrow...

We are really hoping to have some left for the freezer, but will be happy if there is just one really good one. FINGERS CROSSED!

A random question: i was going to go out for a nice lunch tomorrow (and a relaxing small glass of wine!). Then on Sunday we were going to paint the kitchen. Does anyone know if you are meant to paint after ET? i know they were strict about perfumes etc at EC, but i'm guessing that once it's inside you, that sort of thing matters less? Or is painting a bad idea?!

rose 5 is still great, a compacting morula is what happens before it gets to blasts. So those should be blasts tomorrow, ours was out in as a day 4 compacting morula which is what they wanted & studies between ivf’s where embryos have been put back as day 4 compacting vs day 5 blasts interestingly have had the same rate of pregnancy but it’s better to grow on if u have enough embies. So we were v happy as we only had to thaw 1 of our 2. U should get some good blasts for the freezer

After ET they told us to rest up on day, then after no heavy lifting until after test, no hot baths, no swimming fit first few days, no high impact sport, eat healthy no alcohol & “be sensible & think like U are pregnant”.

U might be ok to paint the kitchen but personally I’d steer clear as I get headaches & the extra drugs might make u woozy & stretching can affect where the embryo is put in which can affect implantation. Just a them tomorrow.

Def have a lovely lunch & wine though, can’t hurt 😁

harry why is the foreign IVF messing up the early scan???

I’m in for my 3 weekly treatment today & my GP messed up my blood tests earlier in the week so I’ve had to go into the hospital 4 hours earlier then go into the local city to mooch around before my allotted time. Really annoying

Thanks for advice on painting minster And Harry. Maybe I'll leave it to my OH and the inlaws... 😃

And I'll defo have a nice day tomorrow. I read a study that said chances of success improve if you laugh immediately after ET, and drink a small glass of wine. Those are both things I can manage! 😁

I'll then be on the no booze wagon (hello alcohol free wine 🍷which I'm pretending is Ok, but actually tastes like sh*t Ribena)

minster sorry you've had a frustrating day. Hope your treatment is ok x

Harry I'm guessing you have already tried going to a private hospital/clinic near you? I do appreciate though that it might be expensive...

Just had acupuncture. Which I know isn't proven to do much, but I snored away and now feel very relaxed. Going to take the rest of the day off (gotta love being self employed) and do a bit of shopping and have a siesta.

Happy Friday 😀 x

Minster thank you so much for the advice, I also have read that FET can be better for the body, I hope that’s the case and it’s not something wrong with the embies genetically. Your right not every embryo will be perfect, I guess my worry is we’ve be TTC 3 years and nothing and I’ve never had a scare or been pregnant it just makes me think it’s me.
The countdown has begun for you eakkk! I hope the blood tests went ok for you.x

Rose 5 embies amazing go you! That’s a great number would recommend you leave the painting to the OH and in laws  chill after the ET tomorrow, will think of you at 10am tomz xx
I think acupuncture is supposed to be helpful right?
I’d love to be self employeed!

Aliona thank you for your kind words your right I need to pull my positive pants on and get ready for round two! If you go for FET in dec / jan we maybe doing it the same time! Xx

harry thank you, I hope you are doing ok! Xx

Scots thank you, DH is crushed but being supportive to me and doing his best , hope your ok! Xx

hardy - it’s so hard isn’t it! it was strange i’ve been so in tune with my body for so long I just knew instinctively I wasn’t within about 3 days of ET xx

Anyone know how to upload pics?

OMG so much has happened but I am so busy at work that I will have to get back to you all later sweeties

DBear please don't feel too crap honey pie, wait a few more days and see what comes out of the test. Be strong sweetie and look after yourself

Rose please don't paint sweetie, the smell of chemicals will get in your body. I wouldn't do it, but of course you have to chose for yourself. Whatever you feel your baby will feel

Speak later all!

XXX

Rose. Very best of luck with transfer tomorrow ❤️ I think you should stay clear of painting. Even if there is a slightest chance of harm, why risk it? If you can’t avoid it, then I guess make sure room is well ventilated.. but I would let someone else to do that.
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Dbear very possible )) really hope it will be good news for xmas 🙃

That’s lovely dbear, perfect picture loading, my friend also gave me one of those little hearts that has the message “sunshine always follows the rain” when I was diagnosed so similar sentiment. It’s not your fault 💕

rose massive good luck sticky & positive thoughts for tomorrow, hope you have a lovely night and it goes well (maybe have a hot relaxing bath tonight as then it’s tepid/warm ones after!)

I’m bored, I’m still at the hospital as my treatment was also delayed here this afternoon as the blooming bloods I had done earlier at my “UK /European leading hospital” their blood analytics machine broke so they couldn’t process my bloods for 3 hours instead of an hour (& I was there in plenty of time for 3 hours) but my Chemo needed to be prescribed & made & sent up. Bloody thing. So I got to th3 hospital at 10.30this morn for bloods, (which I also had on monday but there was a problem with those ones!) my treatment was meant to be at 3pm, it started at 4.15pm, it will finish at 5.30pm and it’s 1hour 45 driving home now in the dark, also picking up puppy from parents on way back so that’s an extra 30 mins, so I left my house at 9am this morning.

AND I was ill last night, & now will feel sicker on way home. So I will get back about 7.30pm feeling 💩.

And DH & DDog1 aren’t in today or tomorrow to cook for me they are shooting it’s me & puppy. Humph. Sorry. Needed to rant 😩😔

Minster2012 Awww Minster having meltdown ❤️❤️ It’s 5.30 so you should be heading home now. I reckon stay at parents for dinner and then chill and cuddle at home with puppy 🐶

Thanks for all the - as per usual! - very wise words. I shall skip painting and watch some box sets whilst my OH and his parents transform the kitchen 😂

I'll need to think of a good reason why I'm "unwell" and can't paint... his parents came to the house the evening I had ET and woke me up. I'd been asleep all afternoon and was super groggy. They looked at me like I was having a break down so I said I'd had a "procedure". I don't want them to know we are doing IVF, but then I don't want to spin a total web of lies..!

minster you read my mind about baths - I'm writing this as I'm submerged in hot water! I wanted a final hot bath before ET. I really hope you get home soon and can relax with gindog

dbear glad to hear you are thinking about FET. It's always good to have a plan (even if it's to take a break or so nothing) so that you feel more in control of the situation xx oh and being self employed is awesome - I highly recommend it! 😁

Right I’m back home preparing my frozen pizza, couldn’t eat at my parents as they go ballroom dancing on a Friday & had already eaten & were just waiting for me to turn up & leave 🙁 but enough of the pity party!!

Puppy & I will chill!

So glad you are having a bath rose enjoy! Can you tell the parents that you are having “women troubles?” Most ppl don’t then ask but if they do mumble about checking for cysts or something? If you got pregnant you could always mention the date & say “well I was starting to nauseous & we were nervous as it was still very early so I wasn’t going to paint was I ha ha ha!” They will be so pleased they won’t care!!

dbear honestly everyone does say that FET is better as it’s more controlled and good to plan 😁

And rose see picture!!

By the way @dbear35 you can do medicated or unmedicated FETs so you can ask about that? We are long protocol medicated so we could time it with the 6 months my embryos had to be in storage to be released for surrogacy to do it as quick as possible but a lot of surrogates use unmedicated as it’s much easier on your body but I don’t know anything about it. Tbh though my friend hasn’t found medicated hard & it sounds v similar to a lot of yours but ours is longer. You’ll feel a lot better when u know a plan &can think of it round Xmas!

Right off to bed night ladies!

Good morning all!

Good advice minster! I hope you enjoyed your puppy cuddles and have a nice day today 😘

I'm just about to have my soap free shower before egg transfer. EEK 🤞

Hope everyone has a lovely Saturday in the autumnal sunshine 😃 xx

Good luck Rose!!

Good luck Rose ! Thinking of you 🌟💫✨😘😘😘

Hello ladies!

I am at the hairdresser and have just finished catching up with the latest. Had a really busy week at work, but my boss won't be in for the next couple of weeks so I will be quite relaxed with my first injections and scans. I am very excited now, Tuesday my AF should be coming which means I will start injecting on Wednesday. It is nice to know I can finally do something about it 😍.

Dbear I am not sure whether I will be going to ski. It will depend on how I feel. I will be going with the flow and what I want. With everything we are going through we are entitle to be a bit of a diva! 😬. I hoe you are well and keeping positive despite your first state. I looked into PGS and posted a link on the last thread RE: adds up to IVF/ICSI and there is know scientific evidence that it helps/works. So I won't be doing it. Also Aliona did point out that it messes with the embryo, which was in the article. Keep us posted and thinking of you.

Minster how are you doing after your treatment? Aww your friends feels things? Fingers crossed for you! 😘

Rose sweetie how did it go? ✨😘

Welcome Ella 😁

Scots I hope you will be feeling better soon sweetie. But there is a wonderful reason for it all ! 🌹❤️

Aliona next Friday? I hope it will be December for you sweetie but January is around the corner now. Not long honey! 🌟

Sorry if I forgot anyone. Have a lovely day ladies 🌟😘

Hi everyone. Sorry not been around here much. This chat moves so quickly! I have been thinking of you lot. Thanks for all the well wishes. The test lines are progressing well and I haven't really got much in the way of symptoms. Counting down to scan on 21st nov. Will try to catch up as best as I can

minster so pleased to hear you have one embryo on board. How's the 2WW going?

dbear sorry about the bfn. It's so heartbreaking. Are you testing again tomorrow?

dinks hope you're feeling better now.

rose good luck with transfer. As everyone else has said rest and relax! I wouldn't do any painting either just in case.

ella welcome. This is a really supportive thread so you're in good company

aliona how are you getting on? Are you looking for another job?

atik where are you at?

Sorry if I've missed anyone. 👋🏻 and hope everyone has a good weekend x

Hey Star. Good you being busy, otherwise time just stops. Hope your hairdressers experience was better than mine 😄 just little fed up with not knowing what’s going to happen. Don’t even have my passport at the moment so can’t travel anywhere. Frustrating 😩 as for injections I was getting up in the morning couldn’t wait to inject them 😅 just wanted things to go faster

Otters 👋🏼 not just yet. Waiting for my app on Friday and I ll see. To be honest I think I am just coming around and starting to enjoy my rest. Why can’t we just relax and live our life’s instead of this constant waiting and trying to speed up time to our app or scans 😅 so impatient

Hope Minster is feeling better
Rose how r u?

star hi! God your life sounds so jet set (skiing) & funky but zen as well with your yoga!! We went skiing for the first time for our honeymoon & I really badly injured myself so I will never try skiing again! DH can ski now as we basically had to get more lessons for him ever day I couldn’t ski so he has a free pass to go with mates but hasn’t used it yet! Yay to starting on Weds, that’s awesome, are you on short protocol so it won’t be long for EC?

rose we all hope it went well & u are “busy not being busy!”

aliona not long til Friday then u can get a plan & once u know that it will be better

otters so glad I are still progressing well & not getting bad pregnancy symptoms, that’s great I think u want to feel “normal” but have little thing growing away inside at this stage? Or is it reassuring to feel rough even when you won’t tell ppl?? I think that would be hard? Have u told anyone btw?

Also, for all really, do your families know about doing the IVF? I get the impression not, & u won’t tell ppl afterwards how a pregnancy happened, which is fair enough, we can’t exactly do that! My friend has already had questions of “so have u had to sleep with him?...er no, it’s their embryo, I’m just the host!” And people still can’t get their heads around it! It would make me want to face those questions sooner & get them over with & then enjoy it but I don’t know & my friend has said if she gets pregnant she needs a t shirt saying “it’s not mine, I’m just babysitting!” To explain away not having a baby at the end!!

All things I’ve been pondering already, and we’re only 5 days into 2ww. Least we haven’t told anyone so if it doesn’t work it’s business as usual, she’ll be gutted every time ppl ask her, that will be really tough 🙁

Hello all :)

I'm definitely being "busy being not busy"! 😀 i had a lovely lunch, came home to watch goggle box, and i've been asleep on the sofa with my two cats for the past 3 hours in front of the fire. Bliss!

The ET went really well. We were told on arrival that we only had one blasto and none for the freezer.

I'll admit that for a second i was a bit WTF and felt a wave of panic that I have sh*t eggs, and my mind raced to thinking that it won't work.

But I took a breath and reminded myself that we only need 1.

The embryologist was wonderful and said that so much of this is down to chance and those eggs that stopped dividing/looked uneven would be the ones on the month where we/and anyone trying to get pregnant, don't get pregnant naturally one month, you just don't have a camera tracking them to notice their faults!

I'm so glad that we could go to day 5 as on day 3 we had about six or so embryos that looked ok. So we definitely now have the best one.

The procedure itself was really easy and quite funny. I got the giggles a few times, like when I was told by the nurse that the (male) doctor "likes women up in stirrups and then tipped back" - bet he does, dirty buggar 😂

It was amazing to see the embryo develop over the time lapse recording, watching our DNA as two blobs, and then seeing it divide and change over the past few days.

By the time we had the procedure it had hatched too, which I think is good?

So for the next 12 days I'm doing to try and enjoy being the closest to being pregnant I've been before... And to do loads of sewing to stop myself going mental! 🙈

Thanks for all your kind messages. This whole thing is so much easier when you know people are thinking of you 😚 xx