IVF Cycle Buddies August/September?

[meadowlark3]

Anyone starting a cycle this month? I know there's a July/August thread, but seems that they've mostly all started on their cycles. I'm due to start DR tomorrow and if all goes well will have EC at the beginning of September.

Have not shared our IVF journey with too many people in IRL so would love to have a bit of company here. This will be our first go at IVF, so quite nervous at the mo!

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Good luck for ec @Janefx40 I just saw now that it’s tomorrow!! That did go in fast. Sending you lots of love.

Prob another 2 weeks until my period starts. Tbh, I’m pretending that it’s not happening again 😞

Keep us up to date, and you too fox and ging

Hello ladies,
@Janefx40 how did the EC go????? 🤞🤞🤞
I had my scan yesterday and then midwife appointment. I feel like I’m back in school- I even came home with massive folder FULL of stuff.... anyway, scan went really well, and little one looks more like human now 😁 so cute, waving his little arms and kicking little feet. It was lovely. To be fair it still doesn’t feel real, not one bit, and I want it to...

Hi @Fox23 oh great news! I can appreciate that it doesn't feel real but it will feel very real soon enough! I'm so pleased all looks Fine tho.

I had EC yesterday. We got 8. I know that objectively that's a good number but last time I had 14 from 12 follicles and this time I had 8 from 11. So I felt pretty shit to be honest. On the plus side I feel physically fine. Last time I felt really bruised and battered.

I'm just nervous about how many will be left by the time fertilisation and dividing have happened. Last time we only had 1 that made it to Day 5 from 14 (plus 3 unknowns that were transferred and didn't make it). So I'm concerned we'll have nothing to transfer or that, even if we do, nothing to freeze for future attempts/ second kids (at 41 it's now or never). I was really hoping to be in a stronger position but we shall see what happens.

Thinking of you @janefx40 I hope you get some better news xxx

@Janefx40 that’s amazing!!!! Please let me know when you get that phone call from hospital!!! 8 is good! 🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞

Ah hi @Fox23 thanks for being so encouraging. 5 of our 8 fertilised but unfortunately we have had worse news since.

The hospital forgot to give us a vital drug - they switched our trigger to a non-hcg one because my estrogen levels were so high. But in order to enable implantation and prevent early pregnancy loss, they need to also give you a small hcg dose afterwards plus estrogen supplements. They forgot to do both. They are trying to save the cycle (or their own skins more likely) but in reality we will probably have to wait and see if any get to Day 5 and can be frozen for a future FET.

We just have to cross our fingers that some of them get to Day 5.

I have lost all trust in them and have now read every academic paper there is on how to have a successful pregnancy after the trigger drug they gave me. So if we do go ahead to fresh transfer I know what I will be demanding.

But a lot of stress and heartache has been caused.

So probably no baby for me this time x

@Janefx40 you really deserve a break! And now this??? I can not believe it! Please, keep positive, you never know, right? I will have everything crossed for you, and maybe this will be your turn! No, we have to believe that this will be your turn!!!🤞🤞🤞🤞💕💕💕💕💕

Thanks @Fox23 it really means a lot to have such support! You're right - it's not over yet. If even one gets to freezing we may have a successful FET. Or if we do a transfer that may work against the odds.

We have to believe it can happen!!

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@Janefx40 when will you find out? Tomorrow or Tuesday?
I’m so tired and feeling bloated that I’m off to bed now.

Good luck @Janefx40 I really hope that you get some good news.

I’m feeling ill again this weekend. I feel like healthy eating doesn’t agree with me 🙄🙄

@Beherenow32 I know what you mean. I tried s low sugar diet for a week and got sick!!!

So we had a very stressful meeting with the Dr who screwed up, the consultant and embryologist. For some reason they saw us in a surgical room so we have to wear gowns and hats which threw us off our stride a little.

They were full of apologies and "we're all in this together" but it look a while for me to feel that although honestly I felt quite sorry for the Dr who had screwed up.

Our embies are developing but very unevenly so they would recommend waiting for day 5 anyway. We have decided together that if on day 5 any can be frozen, we will freeze and do a future FET. But if none are suitable for freezing but some are still developing to a lower grade we will do a fresh as there's nothing to lose. But of our 5, 1 is slow, 1 has raced ahead and 1 is poor quality so we are likely to have a max of 2.

Keep fingers crossed xxx

@Janefx40 what’s happening with you? Haven’t heard from you in awhile, hope you are ok?

Hey @Fox23 how are you?

We're in the 2WW of sorts! We agreed that we would freeze anything we could because we can't be certain that I am able to carry a pregnancy after they messed up the drugs. We said anything not able to be for frozen we would transfer because there is nothing to lose.

We had 1 blasto for freezing and one Day 4 morula. So we transferred it but as the embryologist said, although not impossible, this is really just for peace of mind.

So I'm trying to be realistic but also hoping that we can beat the odds.

Omg!!!! 🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞😁😁 this whole process is about beating the odds! Why not know? Plus at least you will not be wondering “what if” later on if it doesn’t work. so I’m keeping my fingers crossed and hoping for all the best for you! Please let me know how it goes!
I’m fine, started telling few selected people about me, but my lovely parents will find out on Tuesday. Feeling very very fat, and it’s 99% food baby belly- I just wish I could control my eating.

Thanks @Fox23 I got my message a bit muddled. Our little embie is a Day 5 morula so slow growing but maybe it was just taking it's time!

I'm feeling quite calm - obviously am desperate for it to work but I think I'm also ok with the idea of having another go in July x

@Janefx40 fingers crossed. One of ours that was transferred wasn’t splitting at the speed they needed, and seconds before we had to make a decision it just “woke up”. You have to be prepared for it not to work of course, but have some faith in this little one. You never know, sometimes the slow ones get there first 😁
And if it fails- you have prepared and will not think what if. I think you are amazing and keep at it! One day we will have a coffee with little bundles of joy making annoying noise and throwing food at other people 🌼

How are you both? @Janefx40 @Fox23? I’m finding it quite hard to keep up with that other thread, jane. Think it’s hard also, because there’s a few that have had their bfp. Obviously happy for them, but still hard reading. Have you been up to much? I know how hard the 2ww is 🙁

My period is coming... so, will he phoning the hospital to start again soon. I’ve been really run down, so need to build myself back up for going through the treatment! Xx

Hiya! Thanks for your message @Fox23 it really made me smile.

@Beherenow32 the other thread has changed quite a bit - that happens with big groups. Original folk have gone and different people appear.

I'm ok. Feeling quite positive about life. Obviously desperately seeking signs this has worked against the odds - no symptoms at all. I mean my boobs are huge but that is just the progesterone. We are testing on Saturday morning and then going straight off to a second viewing on a house - not sure it's a good idea - but then we thought it would be good to be doing something positive even if test is negative!

So are you starting again straight away? That is quite exciting.

Hate the progesterone @Janefx40 I had lots of cramping with it, but have also heard cramping can be a sign of pregnancy...

Yeah, will phone Hospital when my period starts (still waiting. I think it will come tomorrow). Then doing long protocol. Trying a different stimulation drug next rime 🤞
Going to try yoga, high protein and getting massages. Prob not going to make any difference, but will help me to relax a bit more anyway.

Hoping for the best news for you xx

@Janefx40 just saw your message on other thread quick about your worrying. It’s the worst part of all of this, and in my entire life tbh. The end of the 2ww 😢 thinking of you xx

Thanks @Beherenow32 it's been a hard day. No easier because I know I could test now if I wanted despite OTD being Saturday. Tomorrow would be the equivalent of my OTD from last time.

I have cramps getting stronger too

BUT I was just chatting to DP and feel I need to put it in perspective. We already knew this cycle had fucked up two weeks ago. We chose to give this a go anyway. We're no worse off now than we were then. Need to just suck it up and get on with it.

We're going on a second viewing of the house we like at 10:15 Saturday and the owners are showing us around so we need to make a good impression. Not sure how we'll handle it having just done the test but maybe good to be getting straight on with life?!

How are you? Where are you up to?

I understand your way of thinking @Janefx40, but you will obviously still feel apprehensive! I tried to convince myself last time that I wasn’t bothered about the outcome... I was happy to adopt. I was devastated, but like how you are now.. it’s a way of coping.

You need to let yourself feel however you do, because it makes us crazy and worried. It’s such a hard thing to go through.

I’m ok. Was really dreading starting ivf again. But I’m starting to feel a little healthier, and so trying not to worry. I’m eating well, and just going to look after myself!

I think it’s good that you have something positive with the house viewing. But cancel it if you don’t feel up to it! I couldn’t face anyone after test day without crying.

Your journey isn’t over tho! And still a little one to try for FET if needed xx

Going in on Tuesday for mock transfer etc. Found it really painful last time, so nervous about that xx

@Beherenow32 you poor thing. In what way was it painful last time? I had the odd twinge from the speculum and it was a bit tender when the sonographer pressed down on me. I didn't feel the rest tho.

My first transfer I felt nothing at all - they don't use a scanner at that clinic so no pressure on my tummy.

Deep breaths? It will hopefully be quick at least

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@Janefx40 I need gas and air for the transfer! I find it sooo uncomfortable! The mock, it was sore when they proded against inside my womb and then it brought on massive cramps. I’ll be off the rest of the day, so can go straight home.

Gas and air helps me. So, hope I can use that 😖

How are you feeling today? X