IVF Cycle Buddies July/August

[BiscuitBill]

Hi all! I know there's a June/July thread but I've started this one as I'm so far behind everyone else and wanted to find others at the same stage as me!

We're due to start a FET after a failed fresh cycle in march resulted in a CP. We got 5 Frosties which I'm so pleased with and we're putting two frozen ones back this time.

AF came yesterday, so I'm booked in for scratch on 24th of this month and start DR on 22nd.

I joined a thread on my last cycle and it helped me so much as I am very private with all of this. So I'm hoping to find others to share with again 😊

@gamblers it is good to be excited!!! The end point could be absolutely amazing!
My lovely friends bought it for me and I did really like it, but I'm confused as to wether they had mfi as well or not - they had icsi, which is what we're having but it doesn't mention any of Mr McFly's SA results... And I want it to have been mfi too because then I can have hope that we might be able to conceive for free second time around!!!

My understanding was that there were no issues with him. Her life as a kid is like reading my own life back and that worries me that it's my anxietys that are frying my eggs!

We have been engaged for 3 years & id get married tomorrow if I could.. But as we are self funding I daren't spend anything incase it takes us a couple of goes! We're already 7 grand in! It really pees me off when people ask when we're getting married or having kids.

My OH hates the scheduled sex & also struggled massively with doing it in a pot! We had a bit of an argument because I couldn't see the big deal & that I've had numerous people poking around at my va jay jay for the past 3 years so he's got off pretty lightly!!!!! I don't mind at all it's all part of the process but had to tell him to suck it up 😂

Glad all injections are going ok, I start mine again next Sunday. Not looking forward to all the bruises again!

I'm determined to stay positive this time, even if I do sound like a deluded nut case! I keep thinking my negative thoughts may have effected it last time. PMA LADIES!!!!!

Aw biscuit do stay positive. I'm the same as you the vadge poking ha ha. They think they are so hard done by!
We keep getting why are you waiting so long to get married? I hate when people think it's money related though. I should just plead poverty and agree!

Hi everyone!

I got offered the job!! Weee. Well sort of, I applied for a full time role, quite a bit below my experience. I currently work 2 days a week from home & the company I interviewed with want to offer me 2 - 3 days a week for a different position, on a higher salary! All a bit complicated but I can keep my work from home role and do this. Just negotiating the salary but couldn't be better in terms of flexibility, being able to make all my appointments with no stress and the dog wont hate me for going back to work

How was your interview muddleduck ? love the relaxed approach!! The hot flushes weren't ideal I blame the underground.

I like the 50/50 approach of success. Our numbers were 69% pregnancy 54% to birth which seem like good odds. First cycle for us so who really knows. floo gamblers pleased we didn't have to go through the robotic sex stage eek. I would have lost the plot.

Follow up on Monday for test results, we think we know our hurdles already (blocked tubes) so hoping nothing else pops up.

Happy Friday everyone!

biscuit the things we have to do eh, big eye roll at the men and their pot problems. Serious side eye to my other half if there is a hint of moaning whilst we inject ourselves daily!

Happy Friday indeed thirty! Congrats on the new job. I'm ashamed to say I've had 2 drinks, I limit to 3 per week. Is that too much?
Hell im celebrating your promotion!

Sounds like you can still have one more gamblers!

We're away for the next 2 nights, off to find the hotel bar any minute now...

Phew! I'm not the only one!

Way to go thirty- that's great news.
I won't hear about the job until next week, thought interview was awful but panel member who's office is next to mine appears to think it was positive. It's way more flexible so fingers crossed!

I like the positive vibe today and the idea of allowing ourselves to be hopeful rather than preparing for the worst. I think I shall adopt the same attitude !

Oh wow @thirty they're great odds! I thought my clinic was pretty good but your odds are waaaaaaay better!
Still, any chance is a good chance!
@gamblers I had at least three drinks last night (and I definitely mean more like 9 - although they were only small glasses) for a colleagues leaving do. The clinic said to lead life as normal 😂
I'm very glad to have got over the injecting at work phase now but am dreading incoming af next week 😞
Still I plan to have a nice weekend - my friend who is official champion of me not having children and actually just being old grumpy and drunk is coming to visit!

Also great news on the job offer @thirty and fingers crossed for you @duck!

Hi everyone, am new here.hope am in the right place.
just finished the whole Ivf stuff.did a pregnancy test came out negative, and no menses yet.but the doctor said I should repeat it in a week time. Sooo scared. Praying it comes out positive.

Oh @sapphire that must be so hard! Try to keep thinking positive and good things might come
You're probably at least a month ahead of most of us here, and I know there is a June/July ivf group which might have more relevant I do than we do, but you are of course welcome!
@biscuit is on round 3 I believe (sorry if I'm wrong - i didn't check before replying) so may have some wisdom for you?
What round are you on? (Again sorry if you've said this already) do you know what you will do if it continues to be negative? My fingers are crossed for a bfp soon.

Welcome sapphire, I like this wee group. It seems more uplifting than others and more focussed on the emotional support.
Hope you get some clarity on what's going on soon.
I'm off to mass, I'm not married and actively trying to get pregnant by artificial means. If you don't hear from me again you'll know why!

Hi everyone, sorry to bring the mood down but I've just come back to our test results back and I'm upset and confused by everything.

Bloods for me came back with low platelet and low white blood. DR suggesting we wait a whole month and test again - Id JUST finished a course of antibiotics 2 days before testing for a dental abysses. Im praying that messed up my results and we can continue.

In addition my partners sperm came back very low count and very low motile sperm. Numbers arent shown, he is taking it very badly understandably.

Luckily we have an appointment tomorrow first thing with our specialist. I think Im just in shock.

I dont know what this all means for us.

Antibiotics lowers your white cells as it kills the infection cells which are the WBC
Hope Mr Thirty feels better tomorrow, will be a bit of shock. It sounds insensitive to say but it's not any easier when there "nothing" wrong in any tests. The end result is the same -ivf.
Have you people to talk to in RL thirty?

Sorry you're feeling down thirty. I don't really know too much about all that stuff, but if antibiotics brings you're white blood count down then fingers crossed for you for some better results tomorrow 🤞🏼
Welcome sapphire, I am on my 2nd round with a frozen embie after a chemical pregnancy in April. When is your OTD?
Hope everyone had a nice weekend, me & OH had a night out last night as we start injections next week and I won't be drinking again till it's all over (hopefully 9 months time!)

Oh @thirty that sucks!
I don't know white wbc will mean for you, but low sperm will just change from ivf to icsi I imagine. Is this something you're happy with? (Well not happy per se, but I know some people really do not want icsi, whereas DH and I don't care how it happens if we end up with a baby!)
I'm sure they will give you more detail tomorrow, although only the counsellor gave us actual figures really. IDF it helps my DH has a count of 3mill and had 0% normal morphology the most recent SA as well as low motility. Consultant seems to be pretty confident that it's of good enough quality for icsi so it might be better than it originally sounds?
I'm now in utter panic because my mum is coming over tomorrow (she is our cleaner - we pay her!) And I haven't told her I've started ivf, or even that we need ivf - I've only mentioned once that were having trouble conceiving... I'm really very open with most people, but very very closed with my parents, especially my mum. I told my dad and stepmum last week, and they were very matter of fact and normal and it was fine. Telling my mum makes me feel sick to my stomach though. So what do I do? Do I hide all the meds and keep my head firmly in the sand? Just tell her when/if I'm pregnant? Or do I leave it out so she sees to open the conversation?
I think I'm going for the hiding side... To be honest if she then finds it it's not like I was 'hiding' it, as I'm guessing normal people actually put away their box of sharps instead of leaving it all on the dining room table! I think my anxiety is just heightened because I know feel sick from about 4pm onwards everyday. (I was midway through cooking a roast, DH came home and I collapsed in years because I felt so sick and he had to take over dinner!)
Hope everyone has had a lovely weekend and we're all looking after ourselves!

Thanks biscuit gamblers Not insensitive at all dont worry, we just knew I had blocked tubes and naively hadn't really considered there might be other problems we didn't know about. Assumed it would all be fine and routine and we'd crack on I feel terrible for him but grateful we have a full picture of our situation.

I'm talking to my parents about it all but we aren't telling anyone else, though we had lunch with DPs family today and I was desperate to share.

hello sapphire welcome. Sending positive thoughts and crossed fingers your way.

floo ICSI seems fine to me though Ive not read into it, like you I don't mind how it happens, leave the science to the professionals! I'll just get anxious if I look into it too much. We're opting for the go with the flow, do what we're told and no googling approach I'm a worrier, attempting to be a warrior! The letter recommends injecting the sperm and freezing sample in case we 'dip to zero'.

Good luck with your mum tomorrow. My endo Dr abruptly said in front of my parents about 10 years ago that I was basically facing infertility (thanks, buddy) Perhaps don't do anything that might make you feel more unwell right now, my mum today was very matter of fact too but in a helpful balancing out my emotional response way :) . Hiding sharps is totally responsible and an easy conversation to wriggle out of!

Thirty I've never heard that phrase before but I love it. Worrier into warrior. Excellent!

Floo what an awful shame. There's nothing worse than being nauseas, remind me what stage you are at?

I can't decide if I'm being daft or all is ok but unlike most people on here I don't know an awful lot of our facts. The dr has used phrases like we are both 'fine' or 'within normal limits' and I've not questioned anything. I've had the bloods, the scans and the dye test but really didn't probe for any more info past them saying all was 'fine' I think that's why I'm just going Along with what they say.

They also suggested I ban reading mumsnet as I was asking lots of questions to which they said there are 30 different protocols they use so it's useless asking others what they are on and will only cause worry. At that point I've just used this for emotional support and general comradery.

@Thirty I also love the worrier into a warrior! Good motto!
I have decided to hide it all and luckily DH is on side (he likes to push me to talk to my parents, because he has a very different relationship with his, which is good, but I'm glad he accepted this!) So that's made me a little calmer!

I'm on day 6 of buserelin and norethisterone, so have one more day of norethisterone and then hopefully a period. I'm sure I've taken it before and it hasn't induced a period though. But I don't need to worry about that because I'm surrounded by knowledgeable medical professionals!!!!
I think the nausea might be as the drugs are working their way out of my body as it happens as it comes up to injecting time - bloody annoying though, an hour of feeling sick, followed by injection and then intense tiredness is actually not how I like my afternoons!
I've also put on 4pounds this week. FOUR. I am really hoping this will all be worth it!

Where is everyone else on their journey?
I keep losing track!!

Floo so the drugs you are taking is the equivalent of my prostap then? I get that Thursday and should have a period after a week.

Oh crap re the weight gain, I have terrible problems with my weight- when I say that. I'm healthy size 10 (more like 11 now) and I'm very fit in terms of excerice. I've gone for a size 18, down to a 10-12, then a 14 then very quickly down to a comfortable 10 where I've stayed for the last 3 years.
In the last 6 months I've gained half a stone which I've struggled to deal with. My DP thinks I'm obsessed and he's probably right. I just cannot be comfortable carrying weight. I feel so rotten with it on. I was very strict last week and managed to shift 4lbs so hoping I can be strict again mon-fri so I can at least feel comfy for the wedding.