IVF Cycle Buddies July/August

[BiscuitBill]

Hi all! I know there's a June/July thread but I've started this one as I'm so far behind everyone else and wanted to find others at the same stage as me!

We're due to start a FET after a failed fresh cycle in march resulted in a CP. We got 5 Frosties which I'm so pleased with and we're putting two frozen ones back this time.

AF came yesterday, so I'm booked in for scratch on 24th of this month and start DR on 22nd.

I joined a thread on my last cycle and it helped me so much as I am very private with all of this. So I'm hoping to find others to share with again 😊

So they just started me on buserelin today! No wait, just in it goes! And yes it does sting!
I'm now panicky about what time I should do it tomorrow, as today's was in the appointment (2pm ish) but not sure about taking meds to work especially as I'm a teacher and I'm pretty sure sharps are inappropriate so it won't be at the same time by any stretch of the imagination!
Will deal with that tomorrow though!
They also said I'm at risk of ohss because of pco... But they're on it so I'm hoping that will all be fine!

Where are you all stabbing yourselves? Today's was tummy but I'm thinking thigh might be less painful? Xx

All systems go now then floo! How exciting! I always did my thigh, I was never told you could do it in tummy, but yes I imagine that would be more painful! Not sure about times, I'd give them a ring if you're not sure! I remember the clocks changed when I did mine and I went into full melt down haha 🙈 they must get sick of me I ring them all the time with such silly questions!

Duck I cried to my OH the other day because my friends are starting to make plans as we all turn 30 in the next year & I can't commit to anything! I feel like my whole life has been on hold for the past 3 years and I'm sick of it. I feel like shouting at the world for taking having a baby for granted.

Welcome Thirty! I was the same, didn't understand what anything meant lol, just ask when you see one and I'll try my best to fill you in 👍🏼

@Biscuit I've decided to do it 30mins later every day until it's at a decent after school time! And the head let me keep my bag of syringes in her room today so I feel a bit better about it not being risky!
The first injection is horrible though - I went thigh and that was much less stingy, but it took me I minutes to gather up the courage to do it, sat on my own in the toilet at work really wished I had DH with me!
Missing out on things because of what might be is the absolute worst. I have put off or downgraded so many things over the past 2 years 'just in case' and obviously I could have actually just done all of the things, then I might be less resentful!
I am trying to say yes to things now, but with the proviso that I might cancel
Is anyone experiencing side effects from buserelin? I barely slept a wink last night but not sure if it's nerves or side effects... Then today felt sick, but wasn't sure if that was just because if the tiredness!
The things we go through!

Floofy that's good you've got a plan for the syringes. Good plan re the thigh, that makes it sound more manageable. Not sure how I feel about the belly!
I have prostap next Thursday and then have a 7 hour drive after it, is that do-able?

I've never been one to plan too far ahead (always been tricky in my field of work) but I've booked my partner tickets to the Crystal Maze(!!!) for his birthday the first weekend of November, its a team of 8 and Ill be devastated if I can't join in! And what reason do we give to our friends/team mates as to why Im not swimming my way around the aztec zone?!
We also have a wedding last weekend of October to attend but I don't drink as it is so that should be easily explained. I do have the fear that if we get pregnant I'll be too scared to leave the house. Erk.

I have a 2nd job interview tomorrow, currently self employed though on a long term contract, interviewing for a full time position and I feel like a bit of a fraud knowing I might be out of there in 9 months time.

Hi all

So started my buserelin injections today. This is my first ivf cycle and starting to feel so nervous about it all. Been having appointments for months but now it's time to actually get started.

Me and my wife obviously can't conceive naturally so have taken the decision to try ivf. We are both undergoing treatment. She will be having her eggs collected and then I will be having them transferred for me to carry. We are also donating eggs to another lady to help in her journey.

We have had to use donor sperm so have also had a longer process to arrange for this.

I've got 1 child from a previous relationship conceived naturally so hoping that things go smoothly and trying to be positive.

Looking forward to following all of your journeys.

Hi miss me, welcome.
Yikes floof- no warning, you just started! that sounds like a good idea, just that little bit less time stressing.

Any recommendations for a good meditation/hypno audio for IVF? I downloaded the mindful IVF app but im finding it irritating. The only other things I can find are cds, I don't have a CD player anymore! Whilst I can't do my usual exercise (dodgy back) id like something that I can listen to to manage my anxiety/hope/panic etc.

Muddleduck, not ivf related but it do a lot of anxiety management at work and I would recommend a basic guided meditation. I'm normally in a trance by the time I reach my knees!
Miss- that's great that both of you can be involved.
Thirty, ear infection? I've had an 'ulcer' recently which has prevented me from going to my usual high impact exercise and having only a drink at a wedding.
I've got a weird inflatable maze race coming up, not sure if I'll be ok to do that?!

Hi Miss, we know a few couples that have done ROPA and they had a great experience with it. My fiancée and I loved the idea of it but didn't do it in the end because there's an age limit of thirty in the country we live in.
We are attempting to have overlapping pregancies though — she's 25w with our first — so that we can share breastfeeding and have overlapping maternity leaves.

Morning all!

@gamblers, what is a prostap? Is there anyone who can come on the drive with you?

@thirty, definitely use some sort of medical excuse, ear infections is a good one for not getting wet! Just imagine though the happiness if you can't!

Also with job - go for it! My head tried to not give me a promotion I've wanted for 2 years because she knew his year would be stressful for and/or I wouldn't finish it because of a baby - which I didn't let happen because anyone in a normal situation would not know that they might be pregnant, and certainly wouldn't have told an employer before 3 months! If I just pretend to myself it's a surprise I won't feel guilty! (And I wasn't letting her pass on this opportunity to somebody else!!!)

@miss did you do your own first injection, or did the doc do it for you? Also, syringe or pen? I'm jealous of clinics which give out pens!!!

@duck I've been using headspace just to try and get a little bit of quiet, and am starting a massive house sorting out project as soon as it's the summer holidays!

I managed to sleep last night, so feeling a lot more chipper - and hoping that I manage the injection with less ridiculous crying today! A bit panicky that we DTD last night though... DH was sure that if we need to use protection clinic would have said, but I don't think it was actually a good idea...

Floo, prostap is the injection the clinic give, the menopause one of you like. I'm going with my DP and sharing the driving or else he'll just drive, I get very travel sick if I'm not driving though.

Our clinic as is to use protection if we DTD and not to do it at all after egg collection/transfer. Can't imagine it's harmful though.

Hi all, lots to catch up on!
Floo that sounds like a good idea moving it half an hour every day. Bless you sat in the toilet at work on your own! The things we have to do hey 🙈 I had exactly the same sort of thing with a promotion at work, I kept rejecting it thinking they'd be so angry if I got pregnant t straight the way, but in the end just took it and thought about myself & my future! Our clinic said to use protection always.. and nothing at all after EC.
Gamblers I've never heard of prostap either.. but taking DP with you sounds like a good idea. Why do you have to drive so far for it?
Thirty crystal maze sounds uh-maze-ing (pardon the pun!) but a baby sounds a million times better! I was on a hen do during my 2ww last time, and had to tell them all I'd just had key hole surgery to have a cyst removed! I'm a terrible liar and felt so guilty but needs must and all that!
Welcome missmel! How nice that you can both be involved! And over lapping pregnancies sounds amazing James, I would absolutely love that!

Sorry if I've missed anyone out.. hope everyone is ok x x

@biscuit good on you! I think we have to not discriminate against ourselves! Otherwise we end up having our lives on hold for EVERRRRRRRRR! Once we've got babies we can always let responsibilities go! Although I plan to hold on to my new role with grim determination!
@gamblers I googled prostap and am I right in think it's an 'all-in-one' down reg as opposed to the everyday buserelin? I think you'll probably be ok - I've had a few cramps and been tired and emotional, but nothing major so far! As long as you have DP for back up! Why is it a 7 hour journey though!? Are you going somewhere after?

Floo might well be, I don't have burselin at all I think the next thing I have after the prostap is bemfola.
A wedding of a very close friend not really accessible via any other mode of transport.
Think I'm quite a bit behind everyone as won't start prostap until next Friday- don't leave me ha ha

Ah that makes sense! I thought it couldn't have been the closest clinic!!!!
You're only running a week and a half behind me! And they might collect eggs and then wait a cycle if I have ohss - my consultant seemed quite worried about it... So you could speed ahead!!!

God I really want this to work, I know chances are that it won't, but I just want it to over before September so I can start the new school year sensibly and not as an utter mess!

Ugh. I thought having a baby would be so much simpler!

What makes you think it won't work floo?
I've arranged and paid for my wedding, I could really do with everything work soon too. Starting to regret booking the wedding.

Ooooh when's your wedding!? Congratulations!

Just the 40% success vs 60% not successful rates - I know 40% is a really good chance, but it's not 'likely'...
And then the risk of ohss as well which could push it all back a cycle.. just don't want to get my hopes up, but at the same time I keep thinking about how it could work and how to deal with that too...

I think I need a good night's sleep and a large glass of 🍷 wine!!!

It's so hard to be positive without coming across like we're naive and in denial.
I'm very negative, the clinic gave me a telling off and almost gave me permission to be excited. They kept saying it's a happy, wonderful experience.
Not until march 19, we' get married in a heartbeat but couldn't because of this and I needed something to look forward to so I booked it!

Hi everyone
Thirty: how did the interview go? Hope it went well. I have an jnterview tomorrow for a promotion/side move . I was super excited about it but it's buserelin day four and I could not give a damn. Hopefully my strangely disinterested attitude may work in my favour and they think I'm just really confident (rather than hot flushing , forgetful and slightly crazed).
Thanks for the recommendations on the mindfulness front- I'll give them a go.
I'm impressed by the DTD that's going on. No chance from DP, he's terrified of all things IVF related and would be too anxious to get anywhere near me.

It's really difficult knowing roughly what chance each cycle has of working isn't it! I remember seeing some one post that the chance is 50/50 I.e. it works or it doesn't. I quite like that idea- it feels like a less stressful way of thinking about it. Not sure if that helps anyone else though!

In nearly bought condoms today, they were £12! They went straight back on the shelf!

@floofy I did the injections myself with a needle not a pen was much easier than j expected.

I think it's quite hard to be positive as I'm the realist in our relationship but she is convinced it will all be fine I'm trying to prepare for all different outcomes she says there's no point in thinking negative until something negative happens. I wish I could be more like that!

Day 2 of injections going well & not as bad as I was expecting but I suppose there's plenty of time yet!

@thirty yes do let us know! I hope it went well for you!

@gamblers I know - need to find the line between not being so negative it actually damages our chances, and not being completely delusional! I also got advice to be positive from the clinic - I've been seeing the counsellor and she asked me if being positive now would actually make it worse if it goes wrong? And as it going wrong will be horrible regardless I kind of gave myself permission to be excited. But now I feel like I was too excited so I'm trying to pull it back!

We got married in may. Because I was being all high maintenance and stroppy over this fertility lark so DH gave me the go ahead in order to distract me. He probably should have made me wait longer, but we just did a little ceremony which took very little planning!

@duck GOOD LUCK! I think we just need to objectively emember what things we actually are interested in doing and keep them going - instead of just being all 'I hate the world, everyone go away' (which is where I am)! I actually need to not ruin work by being too negative though

My DH thought all his Christmases had come at once when we started DTD every other day about 2 years ago when we started trying, and now he thinks he's entitled... I don't know what he'll do after EC when he's not allowed for a few whole days! (Although in fairness that's because I have been really adamant that no sperm is ever allowed to be wasted and all must go in the correct place - now the correct place is a tub😂) condoms are so so ridiculous! I just think he should be withdrawing! With a sperm count of 3 million that should be an effective enough method of contraception!

@missmel glad injections are going ok! Yesterday's was easier for me in some ways as I knew what I was doing and really had to get back to class asap so had no time to dally around too scared to stab myself! I'm hoping they continue to get easier until it's second nature to insert sharp objects into our skin.
DH is also the chirpy and calm one in our relationship, but then I feel like I carry the burden of his hopes. He's been so unaffected by all the infertility nonsense, and then a few weeks ago he went on holiday at a family hotel, with his friends who have little ones, and realised that that's what he wants and he actually can't, and his realisation almost broke my heart. So now, if we can't have kids we're buying a boat and selling our house!

Sorry for the absolute essay! Apparently I can't write concisely to save my life!

Also so many apologies for my lack of line breaks - my app doesn't seem to understand that when I type enter, I would actually like a new line, not just a space, thank you please!

Floo don't worry, there are line breaks.
It's good to get it all out isn't it.

We are exactly the same, if it doesn't work we are just going to be really good to ourselves. We are fortunate enough to be happy just the two of us and have great family.

We are actually enjoying the break as robotic sex was not doing anyone any good.

Miss, glad injections are going well actually can't wait to start mine. Is it wrong that I'm quite excited in being involved in the process?

Ps if you haven't already read it I highly recommend izzy judds book, date to dream. It's excellent for semi light hearted ivf book!
The fella from Mc flys wife.