IVF Cycle Buddies July/August

[BiscuitBill]

Hi all! I know there's a June/July thread but I've started this one as I'm so far behind everyone else and wanted to find others at the same stage as me!

We're due to start a FET after a failed fresh cycle in march resulted in a CP. We got 5 Frosties which I'm so pleased with and we're putting two frozen ones back this time.

AF came yesterday, so I'm booked in for scratch on 24th of this month and start DR on 22nd.

I joined a thread on my last cycle and it helped me so much as I am very private with all of this. So I'm hoping to find others to share with again 😊

Aw gamblers I'm soooooo sorry to hear this, u poor soul 😢 I can't even imagine what uv been through...virtual hugs 🤗🤗 no wonder uv not cried about it Hun it's totally normal just take it in ur stride and allow urself to grieve when u need to xxxxx

Sorry for the over share! Thanks Leanne.
I can't wait to hear everyone's good news when we get out the other side. We deserve it. 💪🏻

That's what we're here for...over share away!! We absolutely do deserve it and I prey it's works for us all this cycle xxx

Ah gamblers that is so tough, Im so sorry to hear that. You are incredibly strong to be going through this after all that xx

gamblers strong doesn't even start to describe you after what you've been through. We all grieve in different ways, some cry, some don't. And we are here to support you on this small part of your journey 😘

Thanks guys. Probably don't ever tell anyone that cos I feel I've had so much 'sympathy' and 'pity' over the last few years that i just want to get on with this.

Hurry up af so I can really feel involved!

Gamblers you are obviously one very strong woman! Keep pushing on, this support is really helping me and I hope it is you too.

Very much helping crying! So
Good to have you all who knows what it's like!

Wow gamblers, what a shitty time you've had 😔 such a good thing that you've finally 'said it out loud' though.. I hope that's helped even if only in the smallest of ways! You sound like an amazingly strong woman 💪🏼 when is AF due?
If my AF arrives when it's supposed to (Sunday) my ET will be on or around 22nd August!

I second what the others have said gamblers, takes a strong person to go through this as it is but with all of that on top of it wow!!! Is anyone else on stimulating drugs? I woke up in the night with pretty severe twinges in my ovary areas? Just about to do another jag n a bit scared I know they're supposed to grow but jeezo 😂

Leanne you're babies are being made!! Woop woop.

Wow so much to reply to!

@gamblers you must be so strong, and dont worry about having 'woe is me' moments, you have legitimately had a very very hard few years and deserve love and support from those around you!

In terms of drinking, I also had a 'well duh you shouldn't be drinking' chat with my nurse... Which is odd as the paperwork literally tells me to just be as normal, but obv now I've moved on to Stims I should stop!

@biscuit I hope jabs are going well - I think they'd be horrible no matter how used you are to them! I've never managed to be pregnant either, and if I go with my current coping methods, I will go into meltdown and stay there for ... Umm forever!

@leanne welcome! It sounds like you had a mammoth journey to get here, fingers crossed this cycle goes well for you!

@duck I started Stims today too! But I have a scan on day 7 (so the 2nd) just to check I'm not hyperstimulating. What dose are you on? I'm on 75iu of bemfola - slightly bigger needle and I do not like it!!!

@cho welcome!

@chivin don't move!!! You'll have your own soon - keep thinking positively!

Re: talking to other people, I've definitely told too many, but it explains my general shitness so at the moment it's helping, I'm just not looking forward to people asking after the summer hols how it's gone if it hasn't worked, or then if I miscarry... But also probably better some people know so that they're not insensitive!

Although if one more person suggests that I might get pregnant naturally after ivf, like that might somehow fix DH's poor sperm count... Or that if I relax it'll happen - yes relaxing will make me miraculously ovulate... Umm nope!

I also hate hate hate a baby bomb too, woke up this morning to scan pics from a good friend. I knew she was pregnant (two of my closest friends are) but still a shock. I've been trying to immerse myself in their pregnancies so I don't get all distant and bitchy, but anyone who's not a good friend can do one!!!

I also have an ongoing issue with my TA at work (I'm a teacher) who continually matronly asks when I'm having kids and another who waxes lyrical about how great kids are... Uhhh thanks for that (although much much worse are the people who complain about their kids like I wouldn't give my right hand to have my own!)

Re: exercise - I run about twice a week, but am 2-3stone heavier than I'd like be... Polycystic ovaries make it hard, as does eating too much chocolate, but by and large I view that as I can run 10k happily I'm mostly fit and healthy! Lots of respect to those of you that exercise more regularly though!

Sorry if this has been super ranty! Reading through the last couple of days makes me realise that we're all on such individual journeys, but infertility is such a mountain no matter what your path to it has been!

floofy I'm sure you have been through all this, but we managed to get DH sperm quality improved quite a lot, through diet, vitamins and no alcohol. We had a set of tests done early in the process and I was scared by the results, but by his contribution time it had improved hugely. I'm sure everyone's reasons are different but wanted to give you some hope. And as our dr said the men have millions and you only need 1, and modern science means they can find that one a whole lot easier. We were also told that once the egg has fertilised (most likely through icsi) the original sperm quality is irrelevant. If only it was the same for our eggs 🤔Getting 6 eggs last time was hard enough, we'd be laughing if we had 6 million 😂

Floofy I get that when people say 'it might happen, u hear so meany stories of people getting pregnant before they have ivf'....yeah ok even with my husbands zero sperm count? Can't wait 😏

Chiv 6 eggs eek, fingers crossed for more this time! does anyone know what the average EC number is? Xx

Well thats the scratch over and done with, unpleasant but neccessary! The best part was sittting in the waiting room (its a general hospital and fertility is only a small section of it) with a lady moaning about how the weathers changed to rain and all those poor mothers who have to be stuck in doors with their kids in the school holidays. You have to laugh dont you!

Off to have an afternoon and evening out with DH now and try and forget about it all for a day.

Hope all those that are injecting at the mo are feeling ok. Leanne twinges are very normal, super exciting! Although if they are severe Id phone your clinic to check.

Hi floofy your TA sounds like a nightmare, you have my sympathy!

Amazing ChoChang gladnits over with and u can now go and switch off for a while! Have a fantastic day! I'm getting treated to lunch this afternoon too, this ain't so bad 😂😂 aw those poor mothers stuck indoors eh 😂

Leanne I'm definitely feeling twinges, especially in the afternoon, it feels like my ovaries are growing...which I guess they are.

Floofs- a day 7 scan sounds like a good idea. I'm talking 225 menupur, a relatively big dose I think, they thought my antral count was low at last scan. The clinic matron has just called and left a message so I'll check with her when I callback.

I'm with you all on the stupid things people say and their presumption that we/I must be fine because we put a good face on. My boss still this week is saying 'I wish I was you'. As I point out, no she really wouldn't want that.

That said, we are all here, moving forward and pretty damn brilliant!

Crying I'm glad I'm not the only one then, not felt much today but last night was definitely uncomfortable 😣 whatamuddle I'm taking 200iu of menopur in the morning and at night yesterday and today and just at night from tomorrow onwards! Definitely big doses xx

@Chivin unfortunately we believe DH's poor sperm is due to an operation he had when he was younger to correct an undescended testicle. Unavoidable and unchangeable, although I wish he'd been told it might affect fertility as we'd have started trying much much much earlier (we've been together since I was 16)!
I'm on a low dose of Stims due to ohss - but it is super low!!! I hope it works! No symptoms as yet, just suuuupper emotional!!!

floofy do they go in and get some? Is it similar issue to if had vasectomy?

I'm still on the pill phase and scan on Monday to see if start buserelin then. 200 twice a day leanne sounds painful!

I don't think there is a 'normal' number of eggs. In the last chat a few had more, a few had less. I think it depends on age mostly 😬

That's a pity you are feeling some pains already but at least you know it's working and it's making your follicles!

Hearing about the twinges etc has definitely confirmed for me that if I experience anything that's uncomfortable I'll take sick leave. As much as I'd rather be at work I'm not going to power through anything and put my body under stress.

@chivin he's got a count of between 3 and 10 million so not too bad (well, awful - but enough for icsi!!!) And I guess if I was ovulating we might eventually get pregnant! Just with both is very very unlikely!!!!
@gamblers I'm not at work and is actually driving me a bit mad - I have so much to do, but no motivation to do any of it, I think it might have been easier at work as you have to just get on with it... But depends on the job I guess!!!