Secondary infertility support group here!

[Annabellaboo]

Ladies-I hope we all find each other here from the original thread! I didn't realise we had ran out of room on the other thread! Shout if you are there!

Hi msjuniper, I saw Mr Davis at the Princess Grace hospital which is near Baker St. Here's the details -

www.theprincessgracehospital.com/our-specialists/specialist/davcol/mr-colin-davis/

I'm sorry, I have no personal experience of your situation so I can't help either. The book 'it starts with an egg' covers supplements that help with preventing mc. Wishing you the best of luck in taking the next step.

aurora thanks for asking, I'm OK, I'm still cramping, proper period pains which I nerves need as I never has this the first time, but it could be the cyclogest.... I hope. Having another blood test tomorrow to check progress so hoping for reassurance, definitely not counting my chickens yet.

Hello sofie I've not knowingly had a CP so I can't comment but I think a private clinic may be able to do something other than ivf to solve the issue. I don't know whether you read my earlier posts but my bfp didn't come from ivf so there's other alternatives.

I has really irregular cycles too (ie 22 to 36 days) and ovulated late, so luteal phase was too short. I has acupuncture which didn't get me pregnant but did sort my cycles (25-29 days with at least 10 days luteal phase), could be worth a try? I did it for 3 months with all the Chinese herbs as well. Good luck.

Hope everyone is well x

Thanks so much clueless and also ilove for your kind thoughts.

Hi Sophiependragan sorry your now on this thread the lady's here are all really welcoming and supportive.sorry for your losses I have had 1 cp that I know of about 6 months ago and it has put my hormones all out of whack I had high prolactin after it and was lactating then I had low progesterone of 1.0 so not ovulating I'm still trying to level out and not sure if I have ovulated since I have regular periods 28 to 31 days.maybe something is a bit high or low or later ovulation?could you call the doctor to get blood test to check hcg to rule it out?i would also go back to doctor before going private it could well be low progesterone causing the early losses so I would think they could prescribe progesterone to help although I think they only investigate after 3 misscarige as to why you keep loosing baby's.your levels are good to indicate ovulation but if it's not increasing when u get a bfp some progesterone cream could help.iv read so much about chemicals and they say that it actually happens a lot and people only know now because of testing so early and how sensitive tests are and we would just assume a late period.im sure the others might have some more helpful information sorry I can't be more useful.have you tried taking a baby aspirin?iv read that can help.i know it's hard to hear but try to relax and keep trying it can take a healthy couple 2 years to achieve a healthy viable pregnancy.but don't be scared to push your doctor to refer you for more help as you don't want to be using money for testing etc if you end up needing iui or ivf you'd rather have money towards that.xx

Hello missjuniper sorry can't give any advice but feel free to vent here we can listen even if we can't give any advice.did they find any reason for the miscarriages?did they give a reason as to why they want to jum straight into that before trying alternatives xx

Hi Sofie. I was put off going to private clinics to start with as they all seemed to talk about IVF which I was sure didn't apply to me as I'd had one easy pregnancy. (Back when I had no idea secondary infertility would apply to me too!). It's worth finding a clinic you like and booking a consultation, I think. Then you can ask all the questions and get honest advice.

Thanks all for the responses - sorry for not posting again earlier, I couldn't get Mumsnet to work properly yesterday!

I think I'll probably end up going to a private clinic, if only to try to get things moving a bit. I'll be 37 in July and can definitely hear the clock ticking.

Hope everyone else is ok!

Good luck Harry 78. I'm still waiting for Ov but I have a horrible feeling it will be same day as hubby sperm test where he has to abstain so think I'm out.
Then I think this is crazy loads of people fall pregnant not knowing their exact ov date.

Best of luck harry

chocolate your dh only has to abstain for 48 hours before SA (I think) so you can dtd 3 nights before and then in the evening afterwards and you should still be in with a chance?

Nice one Harry! Big pat on the back for giving it your best.

We have decided to stick with the original SA date and if the centre want to repeat it themselves then so be it! I'd rather miss a month TTC than start at the back of the queue again. It's definitely abstain 3 days before for us. So unless I ovulate late or hubby can produce twice in one day, I'm out too.

Any tips for male libido? Lol

Hi guys, I posted a few times in the old thread and have done some top quality lurking! I'm 31 and have been trying for 18 months. Annabelloo I'm so happy for you, you really deserve you bfp. I'm so pleased you've carried on posting and supporting all the brave ladies on this board. Just having a bit of a shitty day with it all tbh. After feeling quite sad about not getting pregnant I finally got to a really good place with accepting our future plus/minus another baby, when I got a bfp last week, but now bleeding and looking not so good. I just have had enough. My uterus has one fucking job! One! It's hard enough accepting having no control over when/if I get pregnant without chucking in a little taste of nearly getting pregnant and then having it slowly fade away. Sorry to be all mememe. Hope everyone here is ok big hugs to you all xxx

spotty I've been there and it's so shitty. On the one hand I felt relieved that I could actually get pregnant, but then having it snatched away was devastating.

Feel free to rant/vent if you need to

Aurora ours said you had to abstain for 2 days and must have "produced" within the last seven days too. Strange that different clinics have different rules.

ah spotty that's awful. our uteruses have one job so when they're not doing it they clearly like to cook up ways to mess with us :(

Ours says 3 days but I think I will Ov the day before test so DTD 2 days before Ov hopefully not completely out of the game.
Spotty- life can be very cruel and very unfair.
I have heard nothing from the fertility clinic about any blood tests or scan results, do they normally ring you or do you ring them?

Thanks for being understanding guys its so nice being able to have a little moan without having to explain what it's like trying for such a long time. black cherries I think you're totally right my uterus definatley sits there scheming about how to mess with me! Aurora, we took a month off trying a little while back and it actually made us both feel so much better, it's so nice to break the under pressure to dtd /2ww cycle and just think about other things. We both felt more up for dtd so maybe this will help with libido too!

Sorry to hear of your bad news Harry I would be pretty disappointed, I read that amh means how many eggs you have left not the quality of them. Try to keep positive there are still lots of options x

Aww harry not much help as I don't know what any of that means but just wanted to say vent away on here and try not to worry to much until they explain it all to you it may not be as bad as it sounds not great doesn't mean impossible xx

Hi Harry, your understandably upset but I don't think those numbers are disastrous more like low end of normal I think? On the positive side maybe you are closer to finding a reason. I can't think of anything worse than "unexplained" infertility.

Thinking of you x

Also hi to the recent additions to our little community! Spotty how's the bleeding now? Have you tested again?

Ps - we got one in before SA this week. I had ewcm and used a bit of fertile gel. The nice thing was, because we think this month is a write off, it was a no-pressure shag, no trying to keep it all in or legs in the air. It was just like it used to be before TTC took over and it was so nice as I had forgotten what that felt like...