Secondary infertility support group here!

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Ladies-I hope we all find each other here from the original thread! I didn't realise we had ran out of room on the other thread! Shout if you are there!

Wow blackcherries that is super exciting! its hard not to worry I know. I keep testing everyday so far just to keep seeing that like getting darker.

What dpo are you blackcherries?
Sorry auroras you are out of answers. I know exactly how that feels. When you can find the funds, keep exploring. Don't give up trying to find an answer! I refused to accept there was 'nothing wrong' and kept exploring until I got some answers. I didn't have a forceps delivery but I did have a long v painful labour and they internally examined me after which was excruciating and I have no idea why they did. I don't know if any of that is relevant, but when I saw the state of my uterus that the hysteroscopy revealed I keep wondering how did it get like that? Plus I had polyps. I have a hunch there was some damage done in childbirth.

Hi, this is 16 days following ICSI egg collection so 11 days post 5-day transfer. I am finding it difficult to stay positive tbh as have had more bleeding today and just want to know one way or another. Have contacted the IVF nurse who is calling back later.
There are lots of stories on the internet about bleeding and BFPs for IVF but I just don't know what to think. I've also got bad diarrhoea in that I couldn't leave the house yesterday so that plus bleeding means I don't even know the best place to put the pessaries!

I tried reflexology this weekend, the zones around reproductive areas didn't crunch although she worked on that area.

I know that it's meant to be woo but worth a go, lady was lovely and it was uber relaxing.

Thanks for advice re clomid, a female GP in surgery is lovely, will try for an appointment with her.

Black cherries fingers and toes crossed for you here

Annabelle tried to post on old thread and couldn't and just found the new one.congratulations that's amazing news!!maybe that's why your acupuncture said no more he could do lol I bet your on cloud 9 xx
Me
30 years old
Ds age 9
Ttc just under 4 years
Quick update to make an appointment to speak to doctor after my last blood test so bit worried as last two have shown high prolactin then the prolactin was fine but low progesterone at level of 1 so not ovulating but I think they test at wrong day for me
I take all the usual supplements and have just added macca powder this cycle xx hi to everyone else that has joined I will try to read up on every ones journey may this be the lucky thread for us all xx

Just updating to say mine was a chemical pregnancy. Gutted obviously but hoping to try again asap with a frozen embie.

So sorry to hear this BlackCherries.hope you can take a bit of time to do something nice for yourself these next few days. I don't know anything really about IVF myself so can't offer anything helpful except that I read something this morning, by chance, that frozen have a greater success rate? It's nice to hear you have a plan going forward. Where there's hope there's always a chance x

Hi Tara and thanks for your well wishes. Yes I am on cloud 9. Forgot I could feel this free and happy again. It really was a cloud looming over me for 3 years. Of course I am also worried it won't stick but am remaining optimistic and just keeping everything crossed. Sounds like you could have low progesterone. Are your cycles shorter than they used to be? You could definitely give progesterone cream a try after ovulation to keep levels up and lengthen cycle.
Blackcherries- so sorry it was a chemical I really hoped it would stick for you. On to the next as you say.
I don't feel very pregnant yet but I supposed it's early days. Had my hcg and progesterone levels tested on Friday, so far the hcg has come back and is showing 5 weeks (I am more like 4) so I guess that it good. I have no sore boobs or sickness, just a bit of insomnia. I actually feel great but maybe that's the steroids?!
Anyone else on the 2ww?
Closephine- how is your cycle looking now? I know you said it was all over the place since the Ivf drugs.

I'm day 3po and thought the crazy was at bay, as I always assumed before implantation there was nothing happening chemical/ hormone wise. However i read today that the day 3 conceptus produces hcg to let the body know it's there. That may explain why some people may feel pregnant so early. Who knows, it's all smoke and mirrors. Got a progesterone test day 6 and 7dpo so I have something to 'look forward' to ha!

Annabelle I can totally understand you must be terrified aswell after everything youv gone through it's totally normal to be worried before you know it youl be at your scan and seeing that little heartbeat they do say pregnancy helps with joint problems so maybe that's why you feel so good cause your little bean is there!my cycles haven't changed still regular but last free cycles have been brown blood then heavy clots but doc thinks it's been an ovulation cycles wich really sucks!!im in my 2ww I think lol I had my usual start date on the 4th but finished then had another full 7 day period 2 days after I used a caster oil pack twice suppose to help remove blockages and stuff so don't know if that was why I bled again so if I go from my first period I'm due 2morro but if I go by the second one I'm due next week kinda good not knowing first time in months iv not felt the need to test!i didn't get a positive opk either so doubt I ovulated but have to say it's the first time iv see Ewcm but didn't get a positive so not sure if macs helped that once iv spoke to my doctor and get my results if it says low I'm going to try progesterone cream iv been waiting 5 weeks now for an appointment for my scan but docs not rushing it as she's convinced it's just my hormones returning after the chemical.i really am so happy for you it's great when it happens for someone who's been waiting so long and it happens give me hope.
Blackcherie I'm so sorry to hear that but let's all hope you get that sticky baby this time round I had a chemical about 5 months ago I felt bad that I didn't feel overly upset I think it gave me hope that something happened and I did see that bfp even if it was only for two days just keep positive thoughts that it's your turn to get your miracle xx

Hello all, we are travelling so just got caught up today.

blackcherries so sorry to hear your news; hope you are able to rest a bit now. Great that there are two ready for when you are ready again & sounds like you're so keen to get going - maybe a few weeks rest might be good too to relax? Xxx

This trip has been very relaxing and we all are chilled...so much so I was shocked to see my OPK positive on day 13! It's been much later for months. So there you go, everyone says stress takes its toll and now I'm convinced. Don't want to raise my expectations but it's interesting to see the difference. The time with our daughter has been brilliant. She's such a funny sweet and independent little lady!

Hope all are well xxx

Hi all well that's my ds 9 today can't believe he's getting so big so quick!
Cola bottle that's great your feeling so relaxed and got a positive opk while on holiday here's hopeing it works for you!!xx
Harry where are you on your in your 2ww xx
Auroras hi I was on the old thread was just trying to catch up on all the posts and read your one about the message can I ask what the consultant said about forceup delivery and long labour?i started pushing at 2.30 in the afternoon and was still going at 8 when they rushed me to theatre for forceups I was tore from front to back and 3 layers in so would be interesting to hear what they told you if you wouldn't mind me asking xx

Hi Tara, yes that sounds similar to my labour, pushing for hours and hours before being rushed down for forceps. I haven't seen a consultant yet still waiting for initial investigations from my GP. It was my Arvigo practitioner who told me that forceps and long labour can displace the uterus. She has been working on me to realign it (somebody grabbing your uterus is the weirdness feeling ever let me tell you!).

Harry 4 days to go how you holding up are u quite good at waiting for af?
Aurora thankyou for replying that does sound not so pleasant but I'd try anything lol xx

Good your not spotting yet that's a great sign did u try the progesterone cream?xx

That's good it's went back to normal my bloods keep changing high prolactin and progesterone was fine then prolactin was fine and progesterone was 1.0 I'm convinced I have high prolactin as I'm still lactating it's a lot less but still there I think they test on the wrong days for me xx

Sorry in advance for downer post. But it's beginning to hit me that this might actually never happen. And it could well bankrupt us and stop us enjoying years of DS's childhood. (I mean I'm really happy with him but there's no shaking the black cloud).

Trying naturally has a really really low chance, first round IVF failed, I was originally fairly pragmatic thinking we'll just do what it takes but now it's sinking in that this might be it. We've got 3 frozen embryos to try then who knows what. But if it takes longer than a year from now then I'm only going to get more anxious and depressed and not sure I can live like that!

Black cherries I know it's really hard and after youv just sufferd a loss but don't give up hope u still have another go before you need to worry urself where to go next!i know I could never afford ivf at all it's just impossible for us and I do think what if that's the only way it could happen but I just try to tell myself to keep trying stranger things have happened look at Anna after all she went through it happened naturally it it's not just a friend who tells you they know someone that took ten years and just relax and itl happen we've seen her journey on here.i know no words can make the doubt go away and we all just have to ride it out until we get our fight back to try again.i hope you feel more positive soon just give urself time to recover.xx
Aww harry sorry the spotting has started I got af today full flow but only had a Little brown blood yesterday instead of 3 days and no sore boobies so I'm hoping my hormones are starting to settle and I ovulate this month I'm not sure if the macca has helped but so far it's just really heavy but no huge blood clots yet!!are you going to try the progesterone cream xx

thanks, Tara you're right, I'm really lucky to be affording IVF and actually having the frozen ones means we can have more goes.

I'm just a bit all over the place at the moment, could do with 6 months off my job to be honest to be able to relax for a bit... (no chance though!)

Blackcherries I remember you from the other secondary infertility thread. I'm sorry to hear about your disappointment. I can appreciate the worry that it might actually never happen. My dh says to me we'll get there, but of course there's no guarantee. I think at least if you always feel like you're doing something towards your goal you can stag positive even if it is just eating healthily or exercising etc. Good luck with the next round, whenever you choose to embark on it x