Secondary infertility support group here!

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Ladies-I hope we all find each other here from the original thread! I didn't realise we had ran out of room on the other thread! Shout if you are there!

Hi can i join? I'm 34 and have a 2.5 year old dd, been ttc since Mar 2016.

Conceived with dd in 3 cycles and had bloods with nhs months ago (all fine) and just went privately for a scan. They found a polyp and large cyst. The polyp is probably the reason for failed implantation and has been there 2 years! Argh. Will see the obgyn asap and plan for the surgery.

I was so pleased there was an actual 'reason' but also so annoyed I've been wasting time ttc this whole time..

Good luck everyone x

Hi @tolerance we have almost the exact same story - chemical pregnancy, increase in spotting, heavy periods etc. Mines caused by this polyp i just posted about - gp said they prevent implantation, lead to early mc, and bleed so cause spotting. Can you have an ultrasound? Might be unrelated but at least you could have answers.

Hi syd, sounds like you have some answers and a plan which is good. Any dates for the surgery? Was it just a transvaginal ultrasound you had or something more specialised?

@tara04 are you still out there? How's things?

@harry78 you were scheduled for Ivf this month I think? Any news?

Hi
Not posted on here for a while.
Fast approaching2 years ttc2. So far sperm count fine, blood test show two ov, 1 possible and 1 defo not. Hysteroscopy and laparoscopy showed nothing.
I've been having reflexology and my cycles have lengthened from 23 to 26/27 days which feels much more normal to me.
I have an appointment at the hospital this week and they want to start me on clomid.
I am worried as I have heard very few success stories and there can be bad side effects. Does anybody have any experience of being on it?
Thanks

Oh and my amh is 22 so it isn't early menopause which terrified me.

Hi aura I still check in on yous to see if there's any news,sadly I lost my mum a few months ago she was only 54 so ttc is off don't know if il change my mind in the future but right now it's just not possible I lost my dad 8 years ago so it's worrying that I could go so young and makes me think what if I wasn't here to raise them she also looked after my ds when I was at work so iv had to reduce my hours to part time which leaves me in financial difficulties,it's still in the back of my mind but without her it's just a struggle I saw her everyday and she was the only one who knew about me ttc and my struggles,how are you?any further forward with testing or plans to go forward xx

Tara I'm sorry to hear you are having a tough time, I too lost both my mum and dad and i know how painful that is.
To give you some hope though after 2 years of trying I got a bfp today! Just as I was about to go on clomid. Only things I did different where weekly reflexology, bicycle legs after DTD and dtd whenever I saw ewcm not just when I saw the plus.
The fertility clinic told me I wasn't ovulating so they arn't always right.

Congratulations chocolate that's fantastic news,perfect timing just before the clomid you must be so nervous and excited at the same time xx

Oh brilliant chocolate! That's great news. Fingers crossed everything goes well! Good luck :)

So sorry about your mum Tara xx

Tara, I am terrified. After 2 years of trying I'm just trying to forget about it and hope 12 weeks comes quickly.

@tara04 I'm so so sorry to hear that how very sad. I really feel for you as I lost mine 6 months ago but your mum was very young it's awful. Only advise I can give you is to just hang on in there one day at a time. We are here for you if you need to talk about anything not just fertility xxx

Chocolate I'm so happy for you!

What is the bicycle legs? I'm thinking I can imagine it but what's the rationale?

Hi Auroras. Well (much to my oh amusement) I did a shoulder stand with a minutes worth of bicycling after we DTD. It was a complete passion killer but hey if it contributed I'll never know.

Haha chocolate I will try anything lol

It looks like the reflexology really helped you. The "just relax and it will happen" is THE worst thing to say to us infertile, but I think there really is something in it. I had a conversation with one of the better gps at my practice and they told me the amount of times her patients stopped trying then got caught was uncanny - she said she had seen some recent research which found that stress can actually cause the tubes to restrict or something preventing conception. Who knows!

Did the relfexologist tell you any findings?

Thanks everyone for your kind words as I say il still keep popping on to see if there's any more good news.so sorry about your mum auroa just got to keep going.choclate can I ask how old you are just my gp wouldn't do anything till I'd been trying for 2 years I'm now in year 4 of it and it's only got worse I agree that I think stress can be a big part of it but in 4 years I have had times when it wasn't stressful I gave it a good year and a half of just dtd but nothing once I started really trying temping,opk ewcm sex every day every other day only on three days for best swimmers legs in the air diet vitamins herbs then I really went down hill from a normal cycle to short cycle then long cycle high prolactin no ovulation so I feel the stress is Defo a big deal but it's so hard to not stress,my friend has started ttc her first she came of her pill 2 months ago and has went to the doc cause she's still not pregnant .just think positive chocolate and enjoy your little gem xx

I am 34. My gp were very good and sent me for bloods after 9 months as my cycle was on the wonk.
I never stopped trying I just couldn't. I said to oh we will try till there is no hope at all.
The reflexology was weekly and oh wow did it help my stress levels. Even if it did nothing to my reproductive system it was a massive help to my body as a whole.
She said that your brain releases a chemical when you are stressed which will shit down your least vital organs like your reproductive system. She said you just need to trick your brain Into thinking that it is relaxed. She lengthened my 17-26 days random spotting cycle. To 27 days no spotting af.
You are right, just relax and it will happen is rubbish.

Omg shut down sorry for typo

Hi ladies,

Well I had my hysteroscopy at Serum and the results are scar tissue from an infection (hidden C) it was cleaned up and I have been given a protocol to follow and DH has been giving a sperm improving protocol as the semen analysis was below par, even though Nhs told me it was acceptable.

The bad news is one of my tubes is closed and the other one appears closed. I need a Hsg to check if they are blocked. If they are the only option is IVF which we aren't going to do.

So I've almost found the cause, which is fantastic, but it could be the end of the road for us, which is devastating.

Hi everyone, I'm sorry to hear all your stories, but such wonderful news for those who've got a BFP!

I'm 36 (37 in a few months), been ttc #2 for almost 7 years now. We delayed starting ttc as I had a PPM which left me slightly traumatised for the first 2 years after DS was born.
Last year I had blood tests and an ultrasound, and DH had sperm count done. Apparently all fine. After our GP said there was nothing more they could do, we've finally been referred to the fertility clinic and had our first appointment this morning. I've got to repeat the blood tests and then I'll have a Hycosy. DH has to do another sperm count. I feel really deflated now, apart from the Hycosy, we've already done everything else. I'm not sure what I was expecting them to do...
Earlier this year I had CBT treatment for anxiety, and have been feeling better, but in the past week or so, I've started to feel really down and anxious again. Also, a close friend recently announced she is pregnant again, and while I'm really pleased for her and sent her my congratulations, I've been avoiding that group of friends, as I'm worried I won't be able to avoid bursting into tears when the baby talk starts. I feel like a terrible friend, and a horrible person.
Today's appointment made me feel worse. We won't be able to afford IVF, and I have a terrible feeling that its never going to happen for us.

Sorry to be all gloom and doom, I'm feeling really low.
On the plus side, I've sent DH out to get takeaway and chocolate, so I can drown my sorrows in comfort eating. After all, healthy eating and exercise for 7 years hasn't worked

@harry78 that's fantastic I was wondering how you were getting on. I can imagine it's the worst tww ever! We are here for you! I have everything crossed x

Hello @cheesecakeandchips wow 7 years and you still haven't any answers but it sounds like you are very close! I feel like I've finally found our infertility cause. Although I've had a hysteroscopy I also need a HSG. It's frustrating because not one single test covers all basis. Is recommend the Greek infections test of you can afford it. Like you we are unable to pursue IVF but I really needed to know what the problem was so we can move on. Saying that I feel angry and depressed the nhs failed me and I now have to wait 6 weeks to get back in the system. Obviously I'm holding out for a miracle or closure by the end of the year. We are here for you to rant and moan or ask any questions, between us we have had every test under the sun x

Thanks Aurora. I'm sorry you have had a bad time with the NHS. I know what you mean about needing to know one way or another. I have to admit I spent quite a few years in denial, so we didn't go to the doctor for ages. I thought if I just chilled out and pretended it was all fine, something would happen.

At the appointment yesterday the nurse mentioned that I had a BMI between 18-19. I've started to wonder if this is the problem? According to the internet a BMI of 20-25 is best for pregnancy. I was definitely heavier when I had DS, and during the first month of being pregnant I lost almost a stone (couldn't stand food due to morning sickness!), so maybe my body knows it can't cope with a pregnancy in its current state. Perhaps I'm grasping at straws, does anyone else have any experience of this?