Secondary infertility support group here!

[Annabellaboo]

Ladies-I hope we all find each other here from the original thread! I didn't realise we had ran out of room on the other thread! Shout if you are there!

Secondary infertility, ds is almost 7 years old. We are planning to try for ICSI any pointers for private London clinic?

Hi everyone! I'm not sure if you remember me or not, but I was on the old thread. I trailed off because I basically gave up.

A quick re-cap of my stats (as it were).
I'm 40
have been trying for 3 years
have a 10 yo boy
not even a glimmer of a squinter!

Firstly I just want to say HUGE congratulations to Annabellaboo for your success!! I'm so happy for you, and it's so nice to hear of success after a 3 year wait!! I haven't read the whole thread, so not sure who else is on here yet (I'm going to read now), but hope everyone else is OK too!)

We had basically given up trying, but I have popped back on mumsnet, as I'm recently having this really long cycle - currently on day 36. I'm normally 26 days, so this is pretty unusual. My longest ever has been 31 days. However, I'm only getting negative results on tests. It's frustrating, because when I look it up, I know it could mean it's actually just another indication of my infertility, but it also seems possible that it's not showing on the test yet. Some people seem not to get positive results until 1 week, 2 weeks...sometimes 6 weeks after missed period. Have any of you ever had this, or know anyone who has?! I'd really appreciate any advice.

In terms of symptoms, I've had quite a bad PMT headache the last few days, VERY sore nipples, and gas. But have all of those the last 3 years, so don't really believe they're "symptoms".

Any help or advice would be marvellous! X

Hi Hippy! Yes of course I remember you. Thank you for the congratulations.
That is a long cycle. I do remember having a freaky long cycle about once or twice a year and of course every time hoped it meant I was pregnant despite the bfn's. I hope it's not the case for you as yes I have read it can happen to some women but is rare. I think maybe the odd long cycle has something to do with our age but I never really knew.

Hi Annabellaboo! Thanks for replying! Yes, it's the waiting that is so frustrating. I keep thinking it's coming, esp the last few days, as I'm very crampy like I am before AF, but it still just isn't showing. Which of course makes me worried about what else could be going on down there. And I hate the idea it could be stress that i'm not really feeling, therefore don't really feel I can reduce!! Anyway. I suppose it will resolve itself one way or another with period or BFP, just hope I won't be kept waiting too long! How far along are you now? It must have been so exciting to finally get 2 lines!! Sorry you had such bad sickness. A colleague of mine recently had that and had to be signed off work for 3 months, and just leave her team wondering what was wrong with her! X

Hi Hippy- yes it was an unbelievable feeling when I saw those 2 lines, I just wept. Still can't quite believe I actually got here sometimes. The sickness is seriously awful though. I also was signed off for nearly 3 months. I still feel pretty rough with this pregnancy but am functional so that's the main thing. Have to remind myself it is only temporary and of course all worth it. Let me know when you get a result either way with your current cycle. The body can be so cruel!

Hi ladies,

I hope I can join in on this thread. I have had a read through and seems like there is lots of support and lovely ladies!

So I am 36- ttc for 2 years- have had 5 mc in that time, 6 months since the last. Have been seeing a consultant for mc- but my fsh has just come back as 15, which I know is high. I have ordered an AMH test from medichecks so hoping to get the result of that soon. Just now thinking that the mc are occurring because of egg quality.

Reading through the posts I think I maybe in a similar position to you Harry?

I guess I am anticipating that ivf will be suggested when I see the consultant next, we already have our lovely DS and I guess I just feel at a cross roads as to what we should do next. Any advice?

Thanks Harry- I just feel quite numb since seeing my fsh level- can't quite believe it and have now read just about everything I can on the internet. Not sure I am ready to just accept that it could just be the three of us in our family x

thanks Annabellaboo! It must have been amazing! Sorry your sickness has been so bad though...

I'm on day 41 now, and still no sign of AF. Did another test yesterday (internet cheapie), and absolutely no sign of two lines... I'll keep you posted. xxx

Hello everyone. Got my amh results today and they were 22. The fertility expert told me this was good. So no endo, no cysts, no early menopause... So I'm not the wiser. He wants more 21 day bloods then possibly clomid.

Thank you Harry. I was petrified by early men as a history in my family and I think that was making my stress levels even worse.

Hi all,

Just been reading thru yr thread and stories and wd love to join... Congrats Annabelle on your pg... Wonderful news!

Hippy, I hope you get some clarity soon... It's v tough that limbo! I guess you cd ask GP for blood test but I don't know if that picks up pg hormones any quicker than the sticks.

Starshine, sorry about FSH. I wd second the suggestion for getting AMH done. I was told recently that that, together with scan seeing how many follicles you have, is more accurate reading of ovarian fertility. (Though it still doesn't tell you about egg quality as opposed to quantity.) I think you can improve FSH thru lifestyle changes too. Have you come across 'All About the Egg' book.. I found that one helpful.

My story is I'm 44 with dc aged 5 and 3. Been trying for a third ever for 2 yrs now (as soon as cycles returned) and just had one early mc in that time.

I know it's v unlikely now given my age but still giving it a go. I had a hysteroscopy yday to remove a polyp so that may help us slightly. Undecided really on whether to just continue trying naturally or try low dose IVF. (Trying to find out if the latter increases our chances at all given my maturity/wisdom/lets just say age!!!)

Hi Clara. Have you got as far as having any tests done?

Hi love, yes I had AMH done and it was 9.3. FSH 8.5 and LH 3.6. I don't know how to work out whether IVF wd increase prospects or not..

Hi Clara
I don't know much about IVF....yet. I'm pretty sure it's our next step but probably going to wait till after Christmas.

I'm in day 33 and bfn.. anyone experienced bfp after bfn!

Fantastic news harry.
I don't get bfp barnacles I'm afraid hopefully somebody will be along with some advice soon.

Barnacles- there are exceptions but my personal experience with a random long cycle once in a while was bfn and when I did get my bfp it was before AF was even due. So for me it was weird cycles not late showing a bfp but of course there is always a chance. Fingers crossed.
Hippy- if you are there has AF turned up yet or a bfp??!!
Glad all looks clear Harry and you can move onto your next step.

Holy heck, I just watched Storks on Sky with my 4 year old and wept like a baby at the end! There's a little boy in it who asks his parents for a baby brother, but the Storks don't deliver babies any more so there's lots of people wanting babies, and at the end they all get one and it's just so relevant to our situation. DS was asking me why I was crying bless him.

Hi ladies. Thought I might say hello.

TTC 18 months now with 2 miscarriages in that time but both in the first 6 months. We've had nothing for over a year. In fact DH just shared a picture on fb from this time last year and I was (barely) pregnant in that photo, but that only lasted to 5 weeks.

Had sperm analysis but nothing abnormal. A slightly higher than ideal number of dead sperm but the other numbers are all above average so it's not that. Gynecologist won't look at me until the new year. We are booked in for genetic counselling in January too. Nothing to do but wait... And shag and wait and test and hope and repeat it all again. Currently in the fun denial stage of 'I've tested and it was negative but my period's not here yet so it doesn't count!'

I should be honest and say that my DS is from a previous relationship, he's 8, and would absolutely love a sibling. I've been rationalising recently that he will actually probably do much better with a large age gap because of his personality, but it's still hard. Of course all of my friends with kids his age are done with babies. So that's difficult too.

DH has childhood diagnosis and family history of balanced translocation but we don't know which chromosomes, hence genetic counselling.

Anyway hello. Hope it's okay for me to post given that I only loosely meet the definition of secondary infertility.