Secondary infertility support group here!

[Annabellaboo]

Ladies-I hope we all find each other here from the original thread! I didn't realise we had ran out of room on the other thread! Shout if you are there!

Hi Harry-sorry just saw this. The aquascan that I had the first day in Athens showed a couple of polyps so that was the initial reason for doing the hysteroscopy and then of course they saw more when in there so took care of it all accordingly. I am not sure about the procedure with the NHS. I didn't know anything about a hysteroscopy at the time. Can you ask your consultant/doctor if they would deal with any issues whilst in there if they found? Seems crazy that they wouldn't?! But nothing would surprise me.

Also, i was told 3 month waiting list for my lap and it was more like 2 so you never know... worth putting your name down I wohkd say.

Urgh! This fertile window is going on foreverrrrrrrrr!

Cd17 loads of ewcm and no temp rise yet. I hope the anti d's haven't mucked with my cycle.

How is everyone else getting on?

Ps - tmi but does anyone else really struggle to identify cm with all the bding? I do

I know what you mean auroras!
I started spotting yesterday on day 19 of my cycle. So another silly short cycle for me. Not sure if the antibiotics for a uti I had or its my first period after hysteroscopy, or it could just be me fast declining fertility turning me into a dried up old prune. Hoping it's a or b but sneaky suspicion it's c.
Still waiting for my appointment at the fertility clinic feels like forever.

Hi all, I was wondering if I could join, I've read back through lots of past posts but not quite all! Sorry for the tough time so many of you are going through.

I'm 33 (nearly 34).
Actively TTC since august 2016 (but no contraception since March 2016)

I have a historic diagnosis of pcos but conceived DD naturally after six months.

At the moment cycles are 30-40 days which is fairly regular but I have a short luteal phase and periods are super light so I feel that eggs aren't maturing properly.

I've been referred by gp and first appointment is 6th July. All gp has done is a day 21 test (which I had on day 28, 7 days after ovulation and I was 15, so low).

All I can think about at the moment is the appointment and whether anything useful will happen. I'm told any follow up has a waiting list of 4-5months, but the receptionist said I might not need any follow up... but surely they need to analyse DH's sperm, do scans etc??

I was kind of prepared for all this the first time, it was so much easier that expected but I'm struggling so much this time. I was desperate for a 2 year gap, and feel of anything more desperate to get pregnant this time as I so want DD to have a sibling. I want it for her more than me if that makes sense?

Chocolate, I didn't realise hysteroscopy could mess with your cycles. How bloody annoying! Clueless was spotting then had a bfp so try and stay positive xx

Hi boatrace, welcome!

I'm no expert but it all sounds like low progesterone causing short LP so perhaps progesterone cream may help you.

I was expecting a massive wait but once we had the initial referral everything moved quickly. Although we are unexplained and have been sent away to try for any 6 months.

I totally get the age gap. DC is coming up to a bday and I can't actually believe we have no sibling, not even close. I sometimes think it's going to be past the age where there is any point. Give up and get on with life. But I just can't let go of this dream. Not yet.....

That must be so frustrating auroras. Yes low progesterone definitely a problem. But I suspect it's due to eggs not developing fully. Who know! I've been on B-50 and it's lengthened my LP by 1-2 days. But decided not to try anything else now until I see the specialist.

Welcome boatrace and sorry for finding yourself here. Just a quick note to say try some uniquinol supplements too, they are v good for egg quality, loads of women swear by them. Good luck

Hi Boatrace :) I too wanted a 2 year age gap but the longer it has gone on I realised a big age gap won't be so bad, you won't have two in nappies at the same time or have to wrestle a double buggy through the door.
So I had brown spotting Fri, nothing yest and brown stretchy cm this a.m. I keep thinking af is here and running to the loo but nothing, all very strange. Still 3 days till my AF is actually due.

Just to echo what lovechoc said boatrace- I was desperate to have a small age gap (we started trying when DS turned 1) It was a huge struggle for me over the following few years as I watched time tick by and the gap widen. It was one of the hardest parts of the whole ordeal for me. One day I just let go of that dream and focused on being happy if it happened at any (reasonable) gap. Now I'm 17 weeks pregnant and DS will be 5 when the next one comes arrives. I have focused on the positives of a bigger gap. DS will be settled in school which will make my life easier and allow me to give that one on one time to new baby as well as the older one not feeling so left out. But the best part so far is DS is so sweet and excited he has a sibling coming along. He cuddles bump and understands what is happening which really has it's benefits. I had no choice to let go of that 'ideal' are gap and I now know there really is no ideal. It will be what it will be and can be a great gap whatever that is.
Btw ladies we found out the other day that no.2 is a girl we are so happy.
Fingers crossed for some more bfp's on here soon.

Yay @annabellaboo I was right! 😊

Dear old AF showed her ugly head at last today, 24 day cycle in the end so I've had worse (19). I have just emailed a specialist fertility reflexologist I figured I have nothing to loose (except several hundred pounds). I still have potentially another 4 weeks to wait for fertility test results it is dragging.

Anabelle how exciting :)

Thanks annabelle and lovechoc. Nice to know that others understand, I'm finding it especially tough as all the mums around me who have toddlers DDs age are either pregnant or have already had second DC. Feels like I'm the only one!! I'm sure you've all been there.

Congratulations on your pregnancy annabelle! So pleased for you. I'm only a year into this journey and am beginning to imagine how tough it must have been. Xx

Boatrace I know exactly how it feels. A couple of my nct friends are on number 3 and our DC aren't even 4 yet.
I think there are a lot of perks to a bigger gap and that it will happen when the time is right. I also have a couple of friends struggling to even have one and I look at my lovely ds and think although this is tough it would be so much tougher without him.

Hi ladies,
Can I please join this thread :-)
I'll introduce myself I'm 29 OH 36 referred to infertility specialist.
Confirmed pregnancy in 2012 had mc at 5 weeks. Was on and off pill until 2015.

OH sperm fine.
My day 28 came back at 7.5 dr said no ov
Cycles are usually 32-33 this one was 41 and oh boy I haven't half felt very ill. Dizzy, blurred vision and constantly sleeping oh and the boobs kill.
So af here today, and my hips and legs are aching ao bad!!

I'm booked in for my fsh and lh tomorrow morning, transvaginal scan 26th July and then dr will see us regarding our results,

It's a very lonely process this and as much as my OH has been looking after me he insists it will happen but doesn't quite get the emotional side to it and how it's affecting me.

I hope you're all ok and I hope you don't mind me posting on this thread.

🍀💕🍀

Hi Sarah1087,

The more the merrier. Although it's not really a merry situation to be in, but at least we got each other to vent and get advice.

Really sorry about your mc. Do you have a DC 1?

It looks like your progesterone was measured about 6 days too soon so I'd take that with a pinch of salt. It took me a few goes to get right, especially when you have irregular cycles.

It sounds like you have things moving and you'll have your results soon although I know the wait feels like forever! Good news about DH sperm. That's one thing ruled out.

@tara how you getting on? X

Hi aurora sorry for late reply!
Today I've been for hsg ( very painful) :( it revealed one open Fallopian tube and one blocked.
So I don't ovulate and have one good Fallopian tube.
I've no idea what they're going to offer me and I'm very upset over all of this.
What is a dc1 ?

Sarah x

Hi Sarah, so sorry to hear that but hopefully now they know they can do something for you.
DC1 = Dear Child no.1.
This thread is for secondary infertility - when people struggle to conceive after having successfully had a first child. You are still very welcome of course but might prefer a different infertility thread.

Hi Hun, no I don't have a dc1 although I did get pregnant in 2012 and lost that pregnancy at 8 weeks :( I wish you all the very success and sending positive thoughts your way xx

Hi ladies. How is everyone doing? Got a bit quiet on here.

I'm cd2. Had an extra long cycle, you know, just to keep me hanging. Thanks body.

Looking on the positives, I can get the wine out this weekend.

Seriously considering getting in touch with Serum since our consultant sent us away for 6 months.

Feeling hopeful here after being prescribed Clomid as a first step. So so desperate for it to work and actually looking forward to AF so I can take it.

Auroras - I can understand the feeling, I was all set to go private if we'd been sent away with nothing