Cycled/cycling with Victoria Wing Nuffield Woking for IVF - come join us!

[geeup]

Hello. Looking for other ladies (or men!) who are IVF cycling with the Victoria Wing at Nuffield Woking either privately or NHS to share what happens, how it's going, any tips (what's the car parking like?!), to support one another and success stories of course. My stats:
Geeup
Aged 34
Ttc #1 for 22 cycles so far (4 with Clomid)
OH has low morphology MFI (but it's varied)
NHS cycle - first appt 31st Jan with Dr Riddle
One question to get us going, anyone know what the policy is about having 2 embryos put in on first cycle? Thanks!

Hi everyone, how’s it going?

@BeePositive that’s so lovely your scan went well and all is looking good! What happens now? Do you have another scan at VW or have they signed you off to your local hospital now?

@SP33 I hope you’re hanging in there ok - not long until your scan

Unfortunately after a scan at VW yesterday, I’ve been diagnosed with moderate OHSS and signed off work for a week. I need to go back for a scan tomorrow and again on Monday. Doctors orders is bed rest and fluids, they can’t do much more for me... if it gets worse I need to be admitted to hospital I’m still in quite a lot of pain every now and then- I wouldn’t wish this on anyone! The only good thing is it’s taking my mind off of the TWW a little... saying that, I don’t have any sort of pregnancy symptoms at all although I know still early. Bee and SP, what symptoms did you have? Xx

@HWF4 - sorry to hear you’re going through that, it must be horrible. I hope you get lots of rest and take care of yourself. What symptoms do you have? Is it mainly bloating and a feeling of being uncomfortable. I know it’s hard but try to take some comfort from that fact it’s mild and therefore hopefully will get better more quickly.

My symptoms started with period like cramps at around 5 or 6 days post ET. My boobs were bigger but not sore, which I thought was odd as they usually are sore before my period. I’d say the main symptom though was the cramps - slightly higher than normal I’d say, but that might be me over analysing it!!

It sounds like your body is going through a lot so you may not even notice any symptoms so try not to worry. Think positive thoughts and take care of yourself, I think that’s all you can do.

I’m having plenty of rest- my home is the sofa at the moment! Unfortunately I have quite a lot of symptoms- severe bloating, shortness of breathe, pain when I lie on my side, tightness in chest, abdominal cramps, loss of appetite and dizziness! I have another scan tomorrow so I hope it’s improved since yesterday. Luckily this doesn’t affect the embryo!

Thanks for letting me know what symptoms you had in the lead up- I’m going to try not to analyse anything but I know I probably will in a few days time

Oh and yes, I’m still thinking positively! Silver lining to this is that I get to rest and have a stress-free 2WW

@SP33 it's hard NOT to read anything into everything... or nothing, when you're symptom watching and it feels normal. So the symptoms I had in my 2ww were also very minor. I had some mild cramping here and there, except one night when it was quite bad and I was sure AF was coming. But thankfully it didn't, as we now know. Towards the end of 2WW my boobs were starting to feel a bit sensitive, slightly bigger and then the itching began. But I didn't have any spotting. And I was looking out for that 'implantation spotting' they mention. Oh, and my clearblue indicator was the same as you. It kept saying 2-3 twice after I tested. Only a week after my BFP did I get a 3+ weeks on clearblue. Good luck in your final countdown to scan. Will be sending only positive vibes your way!

@HFW4 really sorry you're struggling so with mild OHSS, doesn't sound so mild to me. But as you say, it's good you have officially got the time off work and can put your feet up and just rest. Although I appreciate you are in a lot of discomfort. Did they give you additional meds besides the Cabergolin to help ease everything? I hope the scan tomorrow goes well. Keep us posted and keep drinking lots water. Hard as it is when you're feeling so bloated.

I'm flat out at work and very stressed, which I'm of course worrying will affect the little embryo. Typical things get so busy when I need to be calm and hoping to have nice gentle ride as we approach Christmas. I have an additional condition, which is a bit outing, but for that reason I need to have another scan in 2 weeks time to just check everything again. So will be counting the days till that. Nuffield did kind of give me the 'check out'... enough suppositories to take me to next scan, but some booklet of 'being pregnant' and advised to notify my GP that I'm pregnant. Which I've done, and had to book my first midwife appointment. Very exciting and makes it feel real, but still feels crazy early to have too much overall confidence or feel at ease.

Oh sorry I meant to say I have a moderate form of it- it’s definetly not mild!

Sorry to hear you’re feeling a bit stressed @BeePositive hope you take it easy as much as you can- work isn’t important as your own health and that little embryos! Xx

Hi Everyone,

Seems I’ve missed lots...I didn’t get an email to let me know about any posts until today!

@geeup great news you’ve got going again with the injections...and hopefully the fact you’re so relaxed this time around will be the secret ingredient! I had a friend who did 3 cycles (fresh, frozen and fresh again) and she too said she was super relaxed by the 3rd go and that one worked for her so fingers crossed! It’s funny you think my pregnancy has gone fast because you’re right to me it’s felt like it’s crawling along! I’m also constantly making little check points, Christmas, New Year etc! Hoping when we make it to 30 weeks on the 27th I might finally enjoy the last 10 weeks or so!

@BeePositive congratulations on your scan and seeing the heartbeat! Amazing stuff. Don’t worry too much about the stress...I’m sure your little bean is blissfully unaware! I had the stress of a house move at the end of our 2WW and have been renovating throughout my pregnancy so my stress levels have been pretty high, but so far so good with the baby! When is your due date?

@HWF4 Congratulations on being PUPO! But sorry to hear you’re feeling so poorly. Hopefully the rest will be good for you and you’ll soon start to feel much better. I didn’t have many symptoms in my 2WW just a few cramps, sometimes quite painful and a little spotting...all of which convinced me it hadn’t worked! Just stay positive and let us know if you cave and test early 😉 My due date is 7th March...and yes lots of movements now which is a lovely reminder that it’s all ok in there!

@SP33 Try not to worry about the clear blue test, everyone’s levels rise at different rates. When is your scan?

@Lizjulie1234 Glad getting started is getting closer for you! Not long now.

I’ve had a horrible cold this week too...damn winter! I think I’m over the worst now, just been trying to get lots of rest and fluids! Hope everyone has a lovely weekend.

Hi gals, how are you all? I’m just checking in!

I had a scan today to check on the OHSS - I was feeling better over the weekend but have made a decline since and the scan showed it has got worse. Apparently this is normal if I am pregnant. I am still going to hold out to test on Friday but the lady who took the scan said it is all pointing towards a positive... I’m trying not to read into it but so hoping all this pain is going to be worth it! Other than that I haven’t really had many other symptoms apart from some intense period pain that comes and goes where I feel like I am on my period... also I have been feeling rather horny which I shouldn’t even be when I’m feeling so rotten! Anyone else get this?

@SP33 is it today you have your scan? If it is I hope it went well!

How is everyone else doing?

@HWF4 that all sounds very positive!! I’m keeping everything crossed for you and whilst I’m sorry to hear you’re suffering I hope it’s all worth it in the end. Not long till OTD and well done for not caving and testing early!

I did have my scan today - very cute little bean on the screen and a flicker of a heartbeat. Nurse said all looked as expected so now I’m discharged to my GP. Still anxious but know I have to try and relax.

Keep us posted on your progress and hope everyone else is well. XX

Hi all,
Great news positive scan news.
Positive vibes to take us in to Christmas....

We will be starting our frozen round when AF maybe arrives between Xmas and NY.

We had our frozen imp meeting and were surprised the rounds lasts til mid march. Little shock to us but we will crack on.

Another surprise to us what what they used the embryo glue. We are NHS and this was not made clear to us at all....

How were your experiences re this pls?

Great news that a sounding positive @HWF4 - hope you feel better soon.
Congrats on a successful scan @SP33 - very happy news for xmas.
@MrsMidge0505 - sorry I didn't understand - do you mean they did use embryo glue as standard? I wasn't aware of this either but am pleased if so. Hope they use it for my FET in Jan!
AFM I'm still downregging. Such a tough time of year to do it - having a glass of wine nearly every night because of Xmas parties etc. I do eek them out so I'm not drinking a lot but worry I'm not being all healthy like my first round. I will stop from the time I start oestrogen tablets though ie when I start building my lining. Hope it's enough!

Hi all.
When we had the review from the 2nd failed fresh round the nurse said we had glue on both fresh cycles.

I was so surprised as this was def not a detail I would have forgotten!

They didn't mention glue at any point during scans and 110% not at either egg insertions!

I felt a bit let down by this as it meant even with the glue help we still didn't get a BFP.

I am going to call and ask for this clarified x

Hi @MrsMidge0505 as far as I’m aware they use the glue on all cycles. I found out about it as I think I made a (silly) comment about the embryo falling out after being inserted and they explained then that obviously wouldn’t happen but that they also glue them all! I don’t think the glue is meant to aid implantation in anyway though...not like the scratch or anything. I just think it helps them to get the embryo in place and off of the thing they use to insert it! Sorry if any of that doesn’t make any sense!! Definitely worth getting someone to clarify (and explain it better than me) x

Congratulations on the scan @SP33 great news!

Keeping my fingers crossed for you @HWF4

Hope the downregging is going ok @geeup I wouldn’t worry too much about the wine. My friend who was successful on her 3rd cycle was much more relaxed about her drinking etc that time around so I’m sure there’s a lot to be said to not being so stressed or focused on it!

Hi ladies, sorry I’ve been so quiet. @SP33 congratulations on your wonderful news. And @HWF4 keep positive and hope you’re fully well soon. @geeup great you’re well into it now, good luck especially this time of year as you say. @flamingo44 so lovely to see you’re still keeping an eye on us all and trust keeping well with your precious cargo.

I’m afraid I have a sad update. I’ve been terribly sick for over a week. Respiratory track and chest infection. Booked off work with fever and really high temperatures. I was concerned being so ill would affect the baby and managed to get an emergency scan in at Nuffield yesterday. I was 8 weeks yesterday. But there was no heartbeat anymore. I think I’m still in shock and disbelief. Although you might have noticed from all my previous posts I was just so nervous to really believe it had really worked this time. The cruel thing is I’d tried to really relax & dare to dream of my life with a baby and had even had my hour and half midwife session at GP (when so sick). Planning on telling my family the happy new on Christmas, but it’s not meant to be. Nuffield assured me it wasn’t the sickness or high temperatures that affected things. I’m just devastated and now need to get through the ugly reality of next steps. Continuing to send positive vibes to you all x

@beepositive I am so so sorry to hear your sad news. I know nothing I can say will help right now and I just hope you’re looking after yourself during what is such a difficult time. This journey can be so tough and is full of ups and really sh*y downs. I keep clinging to the fact that I have done better than I thought and if it doesn’t work out at least I got this far this time. I hope you can find some comfort in that too. Will be thinking of you x

I'm so sorry for what you're going through @BeePositive it would be devastating at any time of year but is particularly cruel so close to Christmas. I don't know what to say except I'm sorry and I really hope you at least feel in better health soon and can have your physical strength restored to try and deal with this awful emotional strain. I'm so very sad for you.

That is a good way of looking at it @SP33, I felt so dispondant after my first 2 cycles didn’t even get to implantation. This has given me some hope I do ‘work’. I just don’t know right now if I can ever face going through this all again.

Thanks for your kind words @Geeup. Much appreciated x

I am so sorry @BeePositive I can’t imagine what you must be feeling right now but like @SP33 said, I hope you can take comfort in that you went further than you ever have before this time. I guess it’s also a good thing that you found out now without having to wait another month to find out at 12 weeks.
Please rest up and take care of yourself. We are all here to lend an ear if you need us. Thinking of you lots xxx

@BeePositive
I was sat at work and tears stung my eyes for you.
This is such an awful rollercoaster of events every time we cycle.
No words can help... after all what new can be said! So sending a virtual hug / shoulder squeeze your way and some positive keyboard angel vibes.
There is no category to fall in so just react as you feel and take each day xxxx

True @HWF4, I’ve still had no proper signs that it’s over, so I can imagine I might well have carried on thinking all fine for weeks longer.

You’re lovely, @MrsMidge0505 thanks for the very sweet words & thoughts. I’m sorry to share such sad news at a time of year that should be happy and festive.

Thank you lovely ladies so much for all the support. It really means a lots to help keep my mind positive x

@Beepositive I am totally devastated for you, I am so so sorry to hear this, what you have been through is so tough. I hope you are being well looked after and cared for. Please take care of yourself xxx

Thank you @lizjulie1235 yes my husband has been an absolute rock. He’s had some tears too. But he’s in protective mode and taking care of me as I’m still so full of cold, coughing and now able to take stronger meds at least. All the best starting your cycle soon x

@BeePositive I’m so very sorry to hear your news. I know all the other ladies have offered all the kind words it’s possible to say and I echo all of them. Life can be so cruel. Hopefully after a nice rest and a full physical recovery you’ll feel strong enough to try again in the New Year. Take care of yourself.

@HWF4 just checking in as I know it was your OTD yesterday. How did it go?