TTC for 18 months or more. Moving onto iui/ivf/icsi.

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We have relocated from the conception board where we were previously chatting under the thread 'ttc for 10 months or more'. A lot of us are now long term ttc-ers and are going through infertility treatment or looking to take steps in this direction so we feel this might be a more suitable home for us!

Feel free to stop by and say hi and hopefully we can share the journey together and make it a little easier along the way!

Oh banana, what a situation to be in Whilst it's scary having those time limits, it does sound like a sensible plan and it does seem like a good idea to have a cut-off when you can say enough is enough. Obviously hoping like hell that you don't reach that point and the oestrogen works this cycle. Good luck dear xx

How did you get on this morning Bean?

Hi Banana! Sorry to hear you are having such a struggle. I have everything crossed that you get to another FET and it is successful. I know you were hoping to throw yourself back into work so hope that is going well.

Hope yay to getting started! Good luck next week for your scan!

Star im glad the consultant has agreed to put you on the list and that he managed to put your mind at rest about it unlikely to be affecting anything. December will come round quickly, I'm sure you are keeping busy with wedding planning and christmas!

Street hooray for the appointment coming through! Only a couple of weeks away.

Bean I don't know enough to advise about 3day and 5 day transfer - I hope you've had some more news today and an explanation from the embryologist?

Been thinking of you banana, so sorry to hear about the spotting. I really hope you get to do another FET and will have my fingers crossed tightly for you over the next few months.

Had a baby bomb today - my best pal who has instadiffed. She knows everything about me and we had a very frank conversation last month when she told me she was trying - I tried to explain as much as I could without sounding like a cowbag about how I would feel and if she could tell me via text so I can have time to process the news etc. I suspected she was last time I saw her and I'm meant to see her in about a week. Feeling really conflicted and sad - I desperately want to be happy for her, I've known her since primary school and this is not how I expected life to pan out. But I can't help feel incredibly sad and like it's so unfair. I can't bear to have conversations with her about baby stuff etc. Going to let myself wallow in self pity this afternoon and then put on my big girl pants and brave face and congratulate her and feel happy for her.

Hugs maple. Sounds tough.

And banana - thanks for popping by. You're in my thoughts.

Afm cancelled this morning as there are 4 in the running so we are going to blast (hopefully).

That's great news bean! Fingers crossed for you! Will you transfer one if they get to blast?

Great news Bean!

Sorry about the baby bomb Maple sucks!! Nearly all my family and friends seem to fall straightaway and it is hard to deal with.

I think so maple. Depends on quality though.

So sorry about the baby bomb maple, it's so so hard. Don't beat yourself up about feeling rotten - we have to look after ourselves sometimes so we can brave face it when we absolutely have to. Also, it IS unfair. But one day we will have our families and all this will seem like some long forgotten horror show.

Congrats bean and best of luck for the next couple of days!

Hello everyone,

Thats great news bean fingers crossed for monday!

banana so sorry to hear u have been having a rough time, i really hope it all works out for u in the end, im keeping my fingers crossed for u, take care xx

maple sorry about the baby bomb especially someone so close it is rubbish, i really struggled when my close friend announced she was pregnant i felt so jealous and sad and didnt want to face her. Seems like everyone falls so easily but us! Echoing star it is unfair, but our turn will come

Thanks all, after moping and having a pity party, I treated myself to lots of nice things (well, in primark!) and sent her a nice message back and feel ok about it. I'm just sad for me!

I had my scan today, fully expecting to trigger but my follicle had only grown 1mm since Thursday! Having one 75iu dose tonight then back to half tomorrow before another scan on Wednesday. Lining was 7.2mm. IVF appointment tomorrow

Any news bean?

tgabks fur asking maple. I feel a little deflated (not helped by the embryologists having a disagreement in front of us about embryo quality). There were only two blasts. Neither were the front runners on day 3 so pleased we didn't transfer then. Both "moderate" quality - 3bb and 2bb. The latter not good enough to freeze so we decided to have both back. We went round in circles of pros and cons of both and decided that we would rather have twins than a bfn and wonder what if. Consultant suggested it might increase our chance of conception by 10% having both back according to their figures. Not quite sure how to feel.

congratulations on the transfer bean! Fingers crossed for you and all the best for the two week wait. I understand you feeling deflated, and I don't really know anything about embryo grading, but from what I've read you really can't tell much about the quality from how they look, so you have as good a chance as anyone at testing positive in a week or 2, even better since you've been pregnant before (if I remember rightly) Good luck :)

Amazing your ivf appointment has come round so quick maple. Hopefully you won't need it, but it doesn't hurt to get the ball rolling. Hope your follicles grow nicely in the next two days and you can trigger on weds. Hope it's third time lucky for you!

Congratulations on being PUPO Bean! I definitely think better to transfer both than wonder what if. Can't believe the embryologists had a disagreement in front of you! Hope you are feeling a bit better now.

I love a Primark splurge Maple, picked up some nice scarfs a few weeks ago. Wow, such a busy time for you. Hope your appointment goes well today and your scan goes well tomorrow.

Hope all is going well with you Hope.

I had a long weekend away catching up with some friends and pretty much managed not to think about the FET - to the point that I nearly forgot that I had to start cetrotide injections last night. Back in on Friday for another scan and may find out when transfer will be.

Bean hooray for being PUPO! I understand why you feel deflated, I know I don't understand the gradings and have no experience but you don't know what will happen - like you said the 2 that made it through weren't originally the front runners. You are still in with a chance, more so surely with 2 transferred. I would have done the same and have both put back. Really rooting for you x

Trixie obviously not great if you had actually forgotten but glad you were having such a great time! It can really take over your life so it's great when you can have moments where you can have a break from it all. Good luck got Friday!

IVF appointment was nothing I didn't already know to be honest but definitely got the ball rolling and I'm now "registered" for it. I have to have my AMH and thyroid test re-done. Also a dummy transfer and at the same time the procedure where they put saline in to check the uterine cavity (can't remember what it was called). All this doesn't need to be done until the new year.

DH has to have another semen analysis and also a culture (I think that's what it's called).

Follow up appointment booked in for beginning of March and asked to come to one of their patient information clinic/talks in Jan/Feb. Hoping treatment will start June/July but they said they are working on making the wait shorter so hopefully earlier.

Scan tomorrow to check on the follicles - presumably IUI will be Thursday or Friday! That hospital is like my second home now haha!

Hello everyone! Sorry for being AWOL for a while! The wait for SA seemed to take forever! Hope everyone is ok! So much to catch up on individually for you all - I've easily got a few pages of reading to do!

Mini update for me - I've had all my bloods done and DH has his 1st SA - not sure what happens next - my GP hasn't actually referred me yet - he said he had to do all of these tests first. Maybe i'll give him a call in a week or so? I was taking inositol but I think it made my last period so bloody painful - I was really bloated too and just generally uncomfortable - not sure if that's a good thing? Whether I was ovulating or not? Either way I was very grateful for lots of painkillers and merrily rocking away with my hot water bottle!

Sending lots of positive BFP vibes to you all xx

Hi everyone. Not posted for ages but have been lurking.

Bean yay for being PUPO. Hope the next 2 weeks go quickly and you can find something to distract you from the waiting.

Maple good luck for the IUI this week.

After nearly 3.5 years we are finally about to actually start IVF. I am excited to actually be doing something which might just get me pregnant as feels like we have been waiting forever and feeling more and more hopeless.

Have our meeting with the nurses tomorrow to run through how it will all work then should start with next AF.

I know this is a stupid question and very little will make a difference now, but is there anything it is worth doing at this point that you think might help? In the back of my mind I feel like I should be eating superfoods and drinking nothing but water and green tea, but I can't quite bring myself to do it. I think I am numb to making changes that will help me get pregnant (although obvs this is not the ideal time to give up!)

Also anything key I should make sure I ask?!

Hope everyone's ok. Xx

Hi Lozza glad you got the SA done. When was it? Our GP called us when the result was in and discussed what to do next - maybe chase it up if you haven't heard.

Lemon so pleased your IVF will be starting soon for you! When is AF due? No idea about what helps but I've read lots of water and protein (eggs, milk, chicken). Green tea has caffeine in it so if you want to cut it out stick with the fruit ones I would say!

I've had a bit of a wahhh moment this afternoon - went for my scan. Lining was 7.8mm which was good but my follicle STILL hadn't grown! Was 15mm. The doctor got me to do estradiol test as they thought it might be a cyst. Was all prepared and wallowing again for a cancelled cycle but just had a call to say blood results indicate it IS a follicle and to keep stabbing and back on Friday. Wondering why it hasn't grown though in almost a week - seems very odd to me! Oh well, fingers tightly crossed hoping for some growth - then potentially trigger on Sunday for IUI on Monday.

Hello ladies,

bean hope all is going well with your 2ww and that it goes quickly!

trixie glad u had a lovely weekend away, its important to have a nice break sometimes! Good luck for friday!

lozza thats great news that u have had the SA done, hope u havent got to long to wait to be referred x

lemon thats great news that u will be starting soon, its scary but exciting to feel u r finally getting a little closer to your dream x

maple keeping my fingers crossed that your follie grows some more! Does seem a little odd that it hasnt grown but they obviously have faith that it will and so should u! Good luck friday!

I had my day 8 stim scan today, everything is progressing well, follies and lining growing nicely, back on friday for another scan and bloods then they should be able to tell me when my EC will be! Getting very nervous now!

Waves to anyone i have missed, hope u are all ok!!!

Xxx

Just back from my scan and lining is at 8.2mm so waiting for a call this afternoon with date/time for transfer.
Hope your scans went well Hope and Maple.

Hooray trixie! Keep us updated as to when transfer is.

Hope, hope your scan has gone ok and EC has been decided.

My follicle has grown! It was 19mm and so I trigger on Sunday night for iui on Monday afternoon. I'm hoping for a Christmas miracle haha! But also scared about being too hopefull and being totally disappointed. At least I'm on IVF waiting list and have the tests to get on with if it doesn't work out.

trixie thats great news! Let us know when u get the call x

maple thats brilliant that your follicle has grown, it was obviously just biding its time! Hope all goes well monday!

Had my day 10 scan today, all went well, lots of positive words like brilliant lining, lovely follicles, great growth but i was a bit disappointed with my measurements. They were really positive n said dont get hung up on figures but i only had 1 follicle measuring 20mm and the rest were between 16 and 17mm and one or 2 were under 14/15mm which they said would be no good. Looks like i have 6 on the right and 4 on the left that r an ok size. Im just really worried they wont be good enough. Waiting on a call to see if i will be having EC monday or tuesday xx

Lots of good news this morning.

Excellent trixie, you must be really excited to get going again. 8.2mm lining sounds perfect. Fingers tightly crossed that this is your final transfer (for at least a year

Great news maple, hope iui goes well on Monday. I'm hoping for a christmas miracle for you too. Fingers crossed!

Great news on the follicles Hope. I haven't done IVF but from what I've read, you want your follicles to grow at an even rate, so whilst the 20mm may end up popping before EC, the fact you have lots between 16 and 17 is very good news. You also don't want too many eggs (apparently) as it's likely quite a few will be poor quality, so 10 follicles does sound brilliant to me! Good luck

So I'm booked for transfer on Friday afternoon.
They initially said Wednesday which seems really soon as I'll only be on cycle day 16. I know with a medicated cycle it is different to a natural cycle but my last FET transfer was cycle day 20 I think which makes more sense to me, I usually ovulate around day 15 and the blasts are 5 days old. But then if my lining is ready then maybe I should have gone with Wednesday. I think I am more nervous (and panicky about timing!) than excited at the moment Star, I need to try and be more positive.
Have my intralipids on Monday which is another reason to have transfer on Friday to give them a chance to kick in.

Sounds good Hope, have you heard when EC will be?

Yay for your follicle growing Maple, good luck for Monday!

De-lurking to say good luck for Friday trixie - great news.

Just had my call got to go back in sunday for another scan and more bloods so no EC for me yet, i knew my follicles werent big enough