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TTC for 18 months or more. Moving onto iui/ivf/icsi.

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lucieloos · 11/08/2016 12:27

We have relocated from the conception board where we were previously chatting under the thread 'ttc for 10 months or more'. A lot of us are now long term ttc-ers and are going through infertility treatment or looking to take steps in this direction so we feel this might be a more suitable home for us!

Feel free to stop by and say hi and hopefully we can share the journey together and make it a little easier along the way!

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maplebaby · 23/09/2016 10:18

Good luck banana!

I've just had my scan and blood tests. She said I was a physiological conundrum! Lining had shed and was 4.6mm so they suspect the brown spotting I had 2 weeks ago was my period.

Left ovary showed signs of ovulation with some free fluid - combined with the ewcm I had on Wednesday they think this is likely (not that I'll be able to get upduffed from it as lining was thin!).

Or they think i ovulated later after my first scan and I should still wait for a period to come...

Anyway get my bloods back today and scan booked in for Wednesday.

bananafish81 · 23/09/2016 14:22

It's a chemical pregnancy 😓 Stopping meds now. At least this pregnancy was shorter lived than the last one. Gutted.

Brenna24 · 23/09/2016 14:28

Oh no. Banana I am so sorry. Hugs.

That is a bit weird Maple

maplebaby · 23/09/2016 14:42

Banana I'm so sorry FlowersSad

JustTrixie · 23/09/2016 14:44

I'm so sorry Banana Flowers

lucieloos · 23/09/2016 14:57

Oh banana, I'm so sorry. Have been thinking of you today Flowers

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user1471552984 · 23/09/2016 15:38

Oh banana I am so sorry to hear that. Mumsnet needs one of those little strong arm emojis they have on iPhones. I am sending you one of those.

RebeccaNoodles · 23/09/2016 17:05

Banana Flowers

loopylou1984 · 23/09/2016 17:35

Banana - I'm so sorry my lovely. It is so unfair. Hope you're being looked after today? Xx

bananafish81 · 23/09/2016 18:35

Thanks ladies. Wasn't expecting this to be viable but you can't help but hope 😓

Consultant was absolutely gutted when he called me. Said he was really hoping it had just been a late starter, but sadly not.

At least we found out it's not viable from the bloods, and didn't have to find out at the scan. Which would have been pretty much bang on my due date for the last one.

Just have to hope I actually have a bleed this time. Have a horrible feeling I might not (again)

Sigh.

Paige43 · 24/09/2016 00:23

Banana I'm so sorry to hear your news. Gutted for you. Sometimes life can be such a bitch and soo unfair. Look after yourself. Hugs x

loopylou1984 · 24/09/2016 11:37

Banana - I think you need to focus on the positives. You got a good lining! Now that you know how to do that you can try again.
It's not the outcome you wanted, but it's a step forward.
Thinking if you Flowers

Ladies we're currently sorting out our house for selling and it's time to get rid of some old drugs! I'm not sure how much of each I have, will count up if anyone is interested, but I have:

Cyclogest
Progynova
Estrogen patches
Suprecur needles

I also have some test sticks for the clear blue fertility monitor if anyone would use them?

Happy to post for free, let me know if anyone wants anything. Xx

JustTrixie · 25/09/2016 10:05

I've been thinking of you too Banana, hope you're doing OK. FX for a bleed and getting your plan for next time into motion.

Sammy that's very kind of you. I would love the cyclogest if that's OK.

loopylou1984 · 25/09/2016 10:16

Sure Trixie, it's not a huge amount, but pm me your address and I'll send them :). Xx

loopylou1984 · 25/09/2016 10:17

Ps. Just realised they are not cbfm test sticks, but boots own ovulation tests. 5 left if anyone needs them.

TTC for 18 months or more. Moving onto iui/ivf/icsi.
bananafish81 · 25/09/2016 11:53

Thanks ladies. I'm just really sad. It's the second chromosomally normal embryo that hasn't made it and so it's my body that can't look after them. And I don't know how we fix it. We know the uterine environment looked good on a scan but obv something isn't right. Yes I had a bleed before this cycle (which is why we cancelled the hysto and started a treatment cycle), but we don't know why I didn't properly shed the 11mm of lining I grew in my May cycle - why I just got a day of black clots, and although lining thinned, I never got a bleed.

There's other questions which we'll discuss in the follow up. Given I did successfully propagate a pregnancy into crappy lining with no immunes, but didn't into supposedly decent lining with pred / intralipids, question is whether they left me over suppressed. Prof Quenby and Brosens at the Coventry implantation / RM clinic say if uNK cells are on the low end (even if peripheral blood levels are high) that you need some inflammation for successful implantation, and that in some cases pred and intralipids can do more harm than good. I'm not sure that going to their clinic for the endometrial biopsy for uNK cells would add any clarity - from stalking the Quenby threads on FF it seems it could raise more questions than answers. Quite a few women get wildly different levels of uNK cells from one month to the next - which of course doesn't get you any closer to identifying whether pred would or wouldn't be beneficial in a treatment cycle. I'm minded to use my own history as a diagnostic - we know the embryos were both normal, so given I had decent implantation without immunes but didn't with immunes, I think if / when we eventually get to another treatment cycle

Hoping if I’ve stopped the progesterone on Fri I will get some kind of period next week. The hCG was low so there can’t be much to pass, I’d have thought?

Follow up consult is arranged for a week on Friday - hopefully I’ll have had a bleed by then, but if not then we can see what’s going on when he scans me and take it from there. He’s put us in for the last appt of the day so we can take as much time as we need, he said he wanted to meet up so we could review everything step by step, and discuss where we go from here

The broad plan will be another hysteroscopy to check out the uterine environment. We had discussed putting in a copper IUD for 1-2 months to help support the endometrium, but this is TBC, to be discussed when we meet. If I get a bleed then I will restart progynova on day 2, to start to prepare the lining for a hysto & potentially a coil. I’d also taken him some studies about the use of another drug, a vasodilator called pentoxifylline, alongside estrogen therapy in women with very thin endometrium, to prepare the lining for a treatment cycle. So if I get a proper bleed, I’ll start this as well.

If I don’t get a proper bleed that’ll be a pretty important diagnostic tbh (as well as the quality of whatever bleed I do get)

I don’t think I will be able to cycle again for a while, as we really need to work on the endometrium - we can’t keep doing rounds of stims with EC just to put back a frostie, and we need to get me menstruating properly. Ideally if we do the IUD plan I imagine we’d want to have another crack at a dummy medicated FET, to see if I respond better to HRT. We’d also mooted the idea of a Tamoxifen cycle, so that’s on my ever-growing list of questions.

Back onto the bench of boredom I go!!

Lozza398 · 25/09/2016 16:05

Oh banana I'm so sorry for you. I agree with Sammy take the positives of what you've learnt about this last cycle to help move forward. You're so knowledgable yourself and it sounds like you've got a great Consultant working with you too.

Not much happening with me except I've been on inositol now for a fair few days - I'm not stick thin or anywhere near a BFP though! Has anyone here taken this before and had any side effects? I seem to be a bit constipated which is unlike me - sorry for TMI!!

Sending loads of positive vibes to everyone for their next steps xx Flowers

beanhunter · 25/09/2016 17:29

Oh banana. My heart is literally broken for you.
I have my baseline scan tomorrow to see if I'm ready for stims on Tuesday. Panicking that something will be wrong and I'll have yet more dr to go (though know I have had a decent bleed but bricking it that there will be a cyst).

bananafish81 · 25/09/2016 20:47

Thanks lozza - no side effects from inositol for me, although I take so many meds I have a pretty iron constitution!

Good luck for dr scan tomorrow bean - hoping for a lovely thin lining and sleepy quiet ovaries so you can get cracking. Are you on Menopur again?

lucieloos · 25/09/2016 20:54

So sorry banana, you can do this though. As others have said you know your lining can thicken now and you still have 5 more euploid embryos. You will get there. I know how hard it is to pick up and start again all the time though.

Bean, good luck for your scan tomorrow. Keep us posted.

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beanhunter · 25/09/2016 21:56

Hopefully menopur on Tuesday banana.

Brenna24 · 26/09/2016 00:17

AF arrived today. I am out for this month too.

Paige43 · 26/09/2016 08:43

Banana I'm sorry that it didn't work for you this time round. I don't know much about the process but from you and others have said there is still hope.

Good luck bean for the scan.

Gutted Brenna

Had a massive argument last night with DH. Was over something so stupid(nothing to do with not having a baby) and pointless however think it was needed as had a good scream and then afterwards we started talking about everything. We spoke about where we have found ourselves with regards to infertility and expressed our worries, concerns and things that have been troubling us. I knew he was worried about what was going happen but realise how much as he always hid it to be strong for me. We don't know what to expect but last night really came to light how much we want this and that we have to stick together and support each other. We both admitted it's the first time in life we felt as if we have failed, and we don't know how to deal with that.

beanhunter · 26/09/2016 14:32

So I have failed to down reg correctly. Baseline scan and lining is 7.5mm and a 2cm cyst. Needless to say I therefore can't start dr!
Spoke to consultant Start pessaries today until weds. Then should hopefully have a bleed 3-4 days later. Rescan on d2-3 of bleed. If lining thin and cyst

Cityzen74 · 27/09/2016 08:24

Hi all

Sorry I have been absent for ages. After your lovely warm welcomes I then went on holiday and work has been very busy. I've caught up with the thread now.

Banana I'm really sorry to hear about your chemical pregnancy. You must be gutted after everything you've been through. Thinking of you.

Brenna sorry AF got you.

Lucie and Mrs Ren congratulations on your BFPs. Hope everything goes well for you over the next 8 or 9 months.

Bean - sorry to hear about your scan. Hope you can start stims soon.

Hello to everyone else.

I have got my second appointment at the clinic this afternoon. Feeling really nervous. Should get the results of my AMH test and I assume they will tell us whether we can go ahead with IVF or not. I am sort of excited if it means we can go ahead but am trying to be realistic too just in case it's bad news. I've actually remembered to write down all my questions so that my mind doesn't go blank when I'm in there!