Right enough of the me me me, - proper reply to you lovely lot
Robber FAN-BLOODY-TASTIC news, this is a bloody marvellous first step. This thread needs people to be on the good side of the stats, long may this continue
Pea no words, just love and hugs, hope you and Mr Pea can be kind to yourselves. It’s just pure unadulterated shit. Wallow, cry, drink all the wine, eat all the chocolate - possible maybe not Potatoes’ patented cocaine for morning sickness remedy, but, y’know. Those two beautiful frosties will be waiting for you, and
Blue I’m so very very sorry for the loss of your son, I can only imagine the devastation you and your partner have been through. So very sorry that you find yourself here, but you are most welcome: it’s a tremendous support of likeminded women who’ve been through (and are going through) torrents of shit in their fertility ‘journey’ (vomworthy expression I know) with tremendous grace and a fuckton of humour
tiger so glad you’re able to get on with things, I’m so sorry you’re having to deal with the clinic’s nutty schedule and work juggling and lack of support from DH, you have every right to be more than pissed off! So so sorry you have such shitty timing for ET, I’m really hoping that the month takes a much better turn with some happy news in a couple of weeks time.
Potatoes hope you’re having a restful weekend and so glad THE DAY is now over and done with, hope so very much that this time next year you have reason to celebrate
Blondes so sorry you are feeling so unwell but hope you are having a nice holiday. I’m sorry you had such a poor experience with your UK clinics, and had a better experience abroad - I think there are good clinics and bad clinics everywhere and it’s a case by case basis. I have had superlative care and know others who have had top notch care in the UK, and likewise very poor care overseas: think it’s hard to generalise and just important to choose a clinic you have researched well and trust
LH DH and I are absolutely gripped by the Ryder cup, so you’re in good company
Bip hope you are settled into the new place - and got the floors done? Are the cats back with you?
In answer to the dummy FET question, my experience isn’t quite as regimented as Blondes - my Dr doesn’t plan FET cycles according to specific cycle days, the timing will vary from patient to patient, depending on their response to endometrial stimulation. The number of days of oestrogen stimulation - plus the dose and type of administration (pills and / or patches) - will vary depending on the individual, Some people’s lining will thicken more rapidly than others - so some will need a higher dose, or more days, or patches added in. My Dr also scans much earlier than Day 12, to monitor development earlier, and adjust the oestrogen stimulation as needed. So ET at 20 days might be for some - some will be less, some will be more. There’s no template for a FET - just as there’s no template for a fresh. In a fresh, you trigger when the follicles are optimal - same with a FET, except you have even more flexibility because you can keep stimulating the endometrium for longer (vs ovarian stimulation where follicles can over mature)
For someone like me with problematic lining (although we hope that post-IUD it will be more responsive), we might have included viagra pessaries from the outset - whereas others won’t need the ridiculously overpriced fanjo bullets. Someone like me who needs an additional boost may have a Neupogen wash on the day of initiation of progesterone - most others won’t. My Dr also uses a mixture of Progesterone pessaries and injections.
A dummy FET enables you to test out how the lining responds - and with the ERA the idea is that you do exactly the same protocol as you plan to do in the real cycle, to recreate the same conditions. The biopsy is taken a P+5 (5 days post initiation of progesterone) to identify if the lining is receptive, pre receptive or post receptive - i.e. when is the implantation window for that individual (and when should you therefore transfer to have the best chance of successful implantation)
www.igenomix.com/tests/endometrial-receptivity-test-era/
In my case I didn’t respond to a medicated FET, nor an ovulation induction FET, but we’re hoping my response to oestrogen will be better after several HRT cycles and a couple of months on the coil. We might try a Tamoxifen cycle for a dummy FET as an alternative - which would involve triggering ovulation, so again, completely different to a standard medicated FET.
Robber - honestly don’t know when a FET might be. Really depends on how the next few cycles go. If we can get me bleeding consistently. If we can get my lining to respond. Depends what the biopsies show in the dummy cycle(s). Don’t know how many cycles it could take to tinker with the formula - sadly no crystal ball!! Oh to be a straightforward case...