Bip nothing useful to add except to say am thinking of you. Echoing everything the ladies have already said - really hoping with every fibre of my being that your gut is wrong and that all is well. And that you’re restricted to hideously ugly maternity underwear for a Michelin star dinner. I would personally do the scan, but there’s no right or wrong answer. It’s all shit. Trite as it sounds, we’re here for you whatever you decide, whatever the outcome.
Rhoda argh that thread fucked me off so much! Everyone saying ‘but my grandma had kids when she was 47, stop being so negative’ needed a flamethrower aimed at them. Thank you for jumping in.
Robber you poor thing with the UTI - any fertile fucker that claims ‘the baby making phase was fun’ has clearly never sat there shooting up and then ended up pissing razor blades after enforced shagging. Hope the ABs knock it on the head. I used to get recurrent UTIs (possible the root cause of which may have been the ureaplasma infection I tested positive for) and for a couple of days I was told it was fine to take a double dose of ibuprofen (ie the prescription strength dose) as long as I took it with food and took ranitidine to protect my stomach. Ironically considering I take morphine strength painkillers, ibuprofen was the only thing that relieved the agony of cystitis.
I did yoga all throughout my 2ww and pregnancy last time - just told the teacher to treat me as if I was pregnant during the former, because of the risk of ovarian torsion (no twists or abdominal work), I didn’t do inversions, and I did more restorative poses. I did pilates too, TBH absolute necessity to do both with my hypermobility.
QOD beautiful story! What an amazing friend.
tiger I read about it being a good idea to take calcium if you’re on pred / clexane because it can thin bones. I think that’s almost certainly on a higher dose and over the long term, but I figured it couldn’t hurt. I read something about Mr Shehata saying magnesium could be beneficial for women with recurrent miscarriage -probably total bollocks, but who doesn’t love taking extra vitamins for no good reason?!
Magic tummy rub woman hasn’t asked me about vaginal steaming since the first time I went. I think my casting doubt on castor oil packs probably set the tone, haha. Was actually very relaxing, although I’m sure it didn’t do anything different to a normal massage. Except that a normal massage for me is with a remedial soft tissue woman at my physio where I normally come out bruised, so probably slightly more relaxing! Hope the buserelin is going OK and not too headachey
Good luck with EC today LH!
Scan last night confirmed we are GO for today. FET @ 1pm. Will try not to get too over enthusiastic with the water drinking like last time: was aiming for ‘medium full bladder’ and ended up cross-eyed, desperately trying not to pee on my consultant as he was squirting a potential future human into my uterus. ET went fine last time, and he did a mock transfer while I was knocked out for EC (‘while you’re in there’). If I can not pee on him that will be a good start.
We had a really good chat last night, discussed what next steps would be if the cycle failed, I wanted to discuss how we would manage a miscarriage. Cheery stuff. But I like to have a plan. He said we'd done literally all we could, there was no stone left unturned, there's nothing more we could or should be doing or have done, and he is feeling very positive about the position we are in - but now it's out of our control. We've thrown everything science has to offer and now it's over to 'magic'. I like that he offers positivity but not optimism, if that makes sense. All we can do now is roll the dice and hope our number comes up.
Just have to shit myself this morning waiting for the email from the embryologist to confirm the thaw. Aaaaarrrgggghhhhh. Such a head fuck.