WANTED- cycle buddies who are ttc#1 and planning a FET in April/May

[RoseBud2016]

I'm in need of some buddies!

A long story short is that I have been ttc#1 for 19 months now. I have severe PCOS and don't ov or cycle naturally.
Last year I was told that DH and I would only have a chance of conceiving through IVF, after numerous other fertility treatments failed.

In February this year we had our first ISCI IVF cycle at Reprofit in the Czech Republic (DH has 2 DDs so we are not eligible for treatment on the NHS) We got 12 eggs, 8 fertilised and 6 made it to blasts! We had one transferred and fell pregnant! But at 4+4 blood tests confirmed that the pregnancy wasn't viable and at 5 weeks we had a very early mc (I hate the phrase CP as I think it trivialises it)

The last few weeks have been such a struggle physically and mentally but we are keen to try again so are planning another trip to Reprofit to be reunited with one of our Frosties!

Scared and excited in equal measures and would love some buddies to share in this new and unknown part of the 'journey' with. X

Banana it's taking quite long for the hormone to come out of your system. How long did they say it would take? I also had a miscarriage at 10 weeks and I think it took about 2weeks to go. Really sorry again for you. How are you feeling?

Stealth that's loads of eggs! That's fantastic that you have so many waiting for you!

Didn't say how long it would take vixx - POAS yesterday and it was definitely very much positive on a cheapie strip. The ERPC was two weeks ago yesterday exactly

Tummy has gone right back down but boobs still very much look pregnant. So body hasn't quite cottoned on yet to the baby not being there any more!!

Don't know how long we'll have to wait until we can start our cycle. I hope to be joining you in May, but no idea if we'll be able to go that soon. I'd cycle again tomorrow if I could!

I feel like all these symptoms just make it ten times worse (I felt like it was taunting me).

Really hope you can get back to it asap. Do you feel like your life is on hold?

Banana I temped and poas today for first time since getting back off hol - temp has dropped right back down and am now bfn.
ERPC was 10th. So it's taken me 3 weeks give or take. We're all different but I think it's pretty normal for it to take up to a month. Sorry to hear you're still symptomatic though, it sucks.

Oh and I'd also crack on tomorrow if it were possible! In the meantime will just live vicariously through stealth and vixx!

Thanks ladies. I started temping again a week ago and my temps are def pre -ov temps so the progesterone seems to have dropped. hCG just still has a way to go!

grumpel I'm glad your levels came down - it's still very early at only 2 weeks and I'd guess the later on it happens the longer the levels might take to come down. Although everyone is different so who knows?!

vixx got it in one! Feels like I'm in limbo neither pregnant nor not pregnant and just spinning my wheels until I know what's next

Definitely living vicariously through you ladies too, hoping to join you at some point in the hopefully not too distant future!

How was your holiday grumpel? Hope you managed to have a proper relax

Does anyone else feel like they have nothing in common with anyone (friends) anymore?

I feel like I've gone insular and quiet since I started this!

Exactly that vixx. Completely and utterly
Pretty much all of my friends are sprogged and spend their weekends doing kids’ play dates and other things with their other friends with kids - it’s not that they’re not welcoming, it’s just, well, you feel like a bit of a paedo/barren spinster rocking up to kids events just to see your friends.

And tbh I just have NO chat any more. My life for the past 6 months has been IVF, IVF, pregnancy (and off work on semi bed rest for 2 months), miscarriage. I have absolutely nothing of any interest to talk about. And though my friends with kids don’t exclude me from their lives, I find myself voluntarily excluding myself

They're all tremendously supportive but I don't want to tell the sad story of my miscarriage over and over again. And though they mean well I just cannot face the 'well at least you know you can get pregnant' or 'everything happens for a reason' meant helpfully but distinctly unhelpful comments.

And the few friends without kids are leading wild and crazy lives, which obv in IVF healthy lifestyle mode, we're not part of either

We're childless not childfree - in limbo between the two groups. So it's just easier to hibernate!

I completely get your post 100%.
I'd always read about relationships breaking down due to IVF I have never heard of friendships becoming distant.

Glad to know I'm not alone (well not glad for you but you know what I mean ).

I feel like I've spent the last year at home hibernating like you say!

Can relate with the hibernating. Not least because as soon as I say no to a glass of wine everyone's eyes bulge out and they all think I'm pregnant. Which is ironic when undergoing fertility treatment.

Well just came from my scan and I think I am go! Lining nice and thin (4.2mm) and smooth and no dominant follie (just lots of blood-filled old ones from EC - ewwww). Will wait for my doctor to officially opine tomorrow (he's on holidays so didn't do the scan) but I think I am go!

Fantastic news stealth! How are you feeling? So will this be the fet?

Feeling good(ish - my ovaries are still a bit swollen and I can feel them when I move around! But minor discomfort.)

So yes this is my fet. If the doctor gives me the green light tomorrow/next day. Feels surreal! Just had a packet of crisps and a glass of wine for dinner. Should probably start to be a bit healthier

You might as a well enjoy yourself with alcohol and crap food whilst you can!

What is your timeline looking like?

I suppose so! I figure until I start the drugs I am off duty

Not exactly sure of timeline, but once I get the go ahead from my doc I'll start the progynova x3 times a day. Once the lining has sufficiently thickened up I'll start progesterone and ET will be 5 days after that. I'm guessing I'll have a scan at the back end of next week/early the week after and will lock down the timings based on how my lining is looking.

Now I just need my thyroid and level 1 immunes results back and I'll be golden!

It is all going to go so quick!

I hope so! This has been the never ending cycle - started stimming for what started out as an iui cycle on 16th Feb and have been going ever since!

Ok not simply quick then!!

Have you had many side effects?

I had horrible side effects from the stims (nausea, tiredness, pain) and had to take 5 days off work post EC as was in pretty bad shape. So it hasn't been a fun month! I guess that's the downside of having a lot of eggs - stims are more unpleasant. Am hoping I'll never have to do it again (surely I'm allowed to believe that with 10 genetically normal frosties on ice?!).

Just got the call from the doctor's office, he has confirmed I'm good to start the progynova. Next scan next Thursday. We are go!

With 10 on ice you definitely have 1 or more future children waiting for you!

Hope so!

How is everyone this weekend? And hope all is ok rose x

Hey stealth,

I think rose is still on holiday!

I've been on burselin now for 6 days.

Any updates with you?

I want everyone to come back in the group! The ivf threads all seem to be on a different stage to us.

Ah I forgot she was on hols! Phew!

No update from me, have started my progynova and hopefully my lining is plumping up nicely. Next scan is Thursday so we'll see.

And, yes, this FET is a weird stage to be in - over the drama and uncertainty of EC, but not yet into 2ww and beyond. It's v strange. We need a FET posse!

Hello! Still here, just lurking. Got nothing going on my end- waiting for an AF and then have another month after that one before I can do anything! Incredibly unlikely ironidiff in the meantime notwithstanding. Post-mc hanging-about is really, really boring.

Hope it's all going well for you, vixx and stealth. And happy hols to Rose.