The mind numbing boredom of infertility II

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This is a thread for peole who really want to get pregnant but can't, who have tried pretty much everything, and are really fucked off about it.

Have you ever nearly punched someone for advising you to "relax", "go on holiday" or "just get drunk - that's what we did"? Well then this is the thread for you.

You won't find much sentimentality here and there's no baby dust, but there is empathy, a lot of swearing and a surpirsing amount of glittery dog shit.

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broody I hope you can navigate my keyboard disaster there.... I don't wish you mistakes! I meant to say mistakes happen, then I must have sat on my phone or suomething!

karla I had to get my clinic to do last minute bloods and they were fab. My GP actually did them but the results got lost between GP and clinic. So frustrating. In the end I just thought fuck it, in for five grand in for ten grand just pay whatever for anything that'll minimise stress.

grumpel I'm having my first period since mc then have to wait another month before can think about treatment. So maybe we'll end up on a similar timeline?

I'm currently trying to decide whether to start again straight away or whether to enjoy the summer for a bit. Fun vs relentless fertility clock ticking away. Answers on a postcard please.

potatoes you are right. Felt so stressed yesterday trying to get some sort of help from GP.. Would have been easier just to have them all done at consent appointment. Oh well you live and learn..
Get this- a sort friend of mine,not someone I know that well but she's on the same IVF journey so we kind of got chatting via email about our ups and downs. At the end of the conversation, we wished each luck and promised me meet soon for coffee and a rant but she then proceeded to 'throw bags of baby dust my way!!!!' 😷😷 OMG kill me now! 🔫

Call from the hospital today (after I complained) saying they have booked me in just one day later so I am happy about that.

Yes I understood the error with the mistakes hehe.

So sorry to hear about the bad news for some of you lately!

£60 bottle of wine on the firm sounds good!!

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Hey Broody,
Great news about the appointment!
Do you have to have your partners semen analysis done before the apt?

My GP said no but the NHS referral people said the GP needs to do it?
Sorry to keep asking you questions but you're just a few steps in front of us in the process

Yeah we had to have his test done before the dr would refer us. The %in right direction was slightly low (although dr said it would not cause problems) so we are having a second lot of tests done next week just to double check really. I asked my dr to do as many checks as possible before referral as then they wouldn't be any delays.

banana Sorry to hear about the (potential) cause of the miscarriage. Fingers firmly crossed for next time.

potatoes Hooray for finally being clear of the miscarriage. I feel terrible (having sort of encouraged you to go for an ERPC if I remember correctly) but you really were doubly unlucky to have such a shit time (at an already shit time). Maybe this will translate into fantastic luck next time?

Very interested in the blood test talk. Me and DH went to visit a clinic last week and have decided to go for it, have booked initial appointment to start the ball rolling. Have made appointment with my GP to see how many of the blood tests we can get done there. I feel like they owe me something at least since if I lived about 10 minutes up the road I would be getting one round of bloody IVF for free instead of the EIGHT GRAND it is probably going to cost us.

Having sex has now been rechristened as 'a shag that potentially saves us eight grand'.

Money saving shags! There's a website in that I'm sure...

No worries about erpc advice tammy, I'd have had one even if they told me this was going to happen. At seven weeks I had an empty sack and a system full of progesterone. It could have been two months before I started to bleed naturally, possibly at any time at work, home etc. No thanks!

Good news about the appointment broody

karla what are you going to do with all that babydust???

Thanks Nurse - I'm hoping they ordered the wrong ones and by now other barrens have informed them and they've sorted it out! I've got enough of the old ones until my first scan, so I'm OK for now Sorry to hear you have to wait a year for your lap - I was annoyed to wait six months

Argh developing a cough and sore throat. Fuckssake!

icy have u stabbed yet? Does it feel surreal?

Nope still on the train. Aiming for half 7/quarter to 8 as that's my usual home time. Refusing to google "IVF with a cold success impact"

Just did it. 2 man job. I stabbed, he plunged. I couldn't really look at it!! Dunno how we'll cope if he's out.. ask a neighbour?! Bit stingy as it was plunged in but over in a second. Phew!

icy well done! If we don't get an ironidiff this time I get to start stabbing at the end of the month for a cycle of IUI. -Really- not really looking forward to it....going to ask my mum for advice as she has just been taught how to stab my dad as part of his chemo.

Hellooo Potatoes and all other mind numbing folk!

It was lovely to see I was remembered, as I hadn't long joined this thread before I had to take an enforced hiatus.

Not only do I have bloomin infertility to deal with but....carpal tunnel syndrome!

I've suspected I've had it for about two years, but some days are worse than others. Recently though, texting on my phone (and by extension, MNing) has been doggone agony.

This week things have been a bit better, so I've come back. Lurking without being able to post was no fun . I'm going to the doctor's on Monday though to beg for a steroid shot to get my hand functionality back (cue rude jokes).

Am really hoping I get one and can join in the thread more often again. It was so supportive during my last IVF round.

Potatoes I'm glad you've got some closure - hope you're doing okay.

Apologies to all as I'm not up to speed on everyone's progress. I need to read several weeks' worth of the thread to catch up.

(If I disappear briefly again, I promise I'm not being rude. It's my bloomin' hand. As if infertility wasn't enough to deal with! grumpy noises)

Strike through fail

Drugs delivered today. Good job they didn't come to work, I can't believe how much stuff there is I could open my own pharmacy!
Progesterone suppositories look fun 😮

Haha karla yes the box is massive and then the drugs are tiny! I got let of the hook on the suppositories. A friend told me they would be suppositories and then on the day the clinic said they could be taken vaginally. Phew!

Nice to see you back Harold - it never rains but it pours. Good luck with the carpal tunnel stuff.

Suppositories say they can be used rectally or vaginally. Assume it means i can decide depending what mood I'm in 😉
On a more serious note, is 800mg a day the standard dose? I was hoping they would give me the max amount since i have issues with spotting from day 21 until AF (have a feeling this may be one of the many issues going on in there)

Karl's - I was on 800mg (1korninh, 1 evening), do you have cyclogest?
I don't have any spotting, so think this might be the standard dose.
I could choose which door to use, except on the day of transfer they asked me to use the back so things were less messy! Xx

Korninh??? That should say morning! Lol

Thanks Potatoes - fingers crossed the doc will be able to do something for me.

at Tammy's shag that will potentially save £8k.

Karla I found back door a faff, vaginal was so much easier and I didn't find it a mess. Trick was to push it up far enough and sort of clench (lovely). Then bob's your uncle, done.

karla Eek all the drugs! I only got my buserelin & stabbers (the clinic release them on an 'as you need it' basis (in case need to stop cycle - once you have the drugs you can't return them). Did my first solo injection in the toilets of a school hall where I was watching my mate play in an orchestra. Very proud of self. Good luck this evening - have you had a practice stab?

icy I have used the gonal F during my IUI cycles but they are the pre filled pens so easier to use. Had a practice with the burserelin at the clinic. It's quite tricky trying to hold the bottle and fill the syringe at the same time and all the flicking of air bubbles etc... Feel like a qualified Nurse now!
Can't wait for tonight to come, just want to get this shit underway...already spotting (more days on than off this month) so no chance of ironidiff. Cheering myself up with a trip to the Swedish shop to buy shit we don't need.
Happy Sunday to all of you. Plenty of R n R I hope.

Happy stab day, karla!
Icy you sound like a total pro already. I never had to shoot up in a random loo (as it were) so kudos to you!

Welcome back Harold, carpal tunnel sounds horrendous and yes, just the last thing you need on top of everything else, especially lack of MN

Lovely Spring day here - sun (intermittently) shining, birds singing, lambs gambolling etc. So of course a birth announcement too. A v good friend who has been wonderful during all my shit, despite awkwardly being diffed herself, and am genuinely happy for her. Only about 78% bitterly jealous that she has had a bouncing baby boy, exactly two years after her beautiful girl, with seemingly zero effort.

A big URGHH to your baby bomb too, sammy. Seriously, it's never ending!

My contribution to the season of renewal is that AF has started. Whoop. Though it does draw the final line under the mc, for which I'm grateful. Had slightly forgotten what a massive arse it is, mind. But am happily renewing my love of co-codamol.

Potatoes we may indeed be on the same sort of schedule next time if you decide to crack on. I'm hoping to do a FET next month if I can. Seems eons away of course. And will be just at the same time we move house too. Classic.

Hope nice weekends are being had all round.

Lol Sammy - think I'm getting threads confused from lurking on 10 plussers. But hope you're ok anyway.