The mind numbing boredom of infertility II

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This is a thread for peole who really want to get pregnant but can't, who have tried pretty much everything, and are really fucked off about it.

Have you ever nearly punched someone for advising you to "relax", "go on holiday" or "just get drunk - that's what we did"? Well then this is the thread for you.

You won't find much sentimentality here and there's no baby dust, but there is empathy, a lot of swearing and a surpirsing amount of glittery dog shit.

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Grumple and Fractious - fucking baby bombing cunts! Just shit. I really think if a fiend does you the honour of telling you about fertility struggles and IVF and all that shit, it's the very fucking least you can do to inform them you're going to start trying. I get it that they might want it to be "ours" but it's not like it's their first child and surely telling one couple quietly in order to help steel them is the kindest thing? It just comes back to the same old refrain: people have no empathy. They are selfish self centred fucks. Absolute cunts. Hate the world.

Welcome isiti sorry you've found yourself here and sorry about your first cycle. The comments and the fitting in appointments are a battle in its self. Best advice I can give is do something both you and DH enjoy that can help bring some normality into life. It's so easy for this to take over and nit have a social life. Stick around, we are all bloody fantastic
bip are you in one piece? Ectopic pregnancy is not a laughing matter, but you made me laugh about the rednecks! I really hope it's not and this hasn't totally ruined your holiday. Please have a few drinks at least. Your trip sounds great minus the anti-abortion clinics!
meh hello lovely. Welcome back, stay under that duvet for as long as you need! Your not missing much in the RW anyway. Don't be hard on yourself Hun.
icy hope you chucked the piss sticks away, horrible little bastards!! Those bloody lines play havoc with your eyes!
potatoes has the bleeding calmed down? Glad the EPU are better than the GP and this gets sorted once and for all.

Hi to everyone else. Hope you are all sticking around and will be back soon.
We got an appointment through today, it's for a few weeks time. I am impressed with the efficiency of my clinic up to now....just waiting for the catch, it's all gone too smooth up to now

icy love your Freudian typo - are we all ivf fiends? I guess we are!

Welcome isit. Sorry about your shocking journey so far, sounds about right for the shit that is infertility.

grumple I'm grinning at the mouse story. Sorry that this is not the most appropriate response to your holiday saga, fucking baby bomb, but love that the stowaway made it through check in, security and customs!

meh hide for as long as you need you - let us know you're OK every now and then.

Laura hope it's going well in Brno! Enjoy your maccy ds.

And to everyone out there who's instadiffing right now... Just fuck off.

Sorry to everyone going through shit. It doesn't help when you are going through it but the sense of humour of humour of everyone on this thread shows strength and resilience.

I received my injections today and will start suprecat next week in preparation for egg transfer. I don't want to get excited but it's on my mind 24/7.

I like IVF fiends! Maybe that can be the next thread title 'IVF fiends and the mind numbing boredom of infertility'

Grumple - I too had a giggle at the mouse story! Do you think it was alive when you packed? Or did a lovely feline friend give your DH a leaving present? Sorry about the baby bomb though. They really hurt.

I'm so annoyed with myself. I did really well at work until the last hour where I made the fuck up of all fuck ups and promptly burst in to tears. I then had to explain to my manager that it wasn't the work, but my lack of pregnancy that was causing the melt down. Jeez, I haven't even got to OTD yet. Give me strength. Xx

Can I join in too. Took forever ttc no 2 then nothing when trying ttc no 3

Now we are separated and I am thinking I won't ever get to have a girl

It's the 2ww, the faint positive tests that lead to nothing and the exhaustion of thinking I might be pregnant that kill me. I really do find it heartbreaking some months. And now we've broken up last week so not even trying this month

Ttc just sucks!

Sorry this sounds mean but pp are you coming on here to complain that you won't ever get a girl after having 2 boys. Wtf. You're NOT infertile and quite insensitive.

Sorry. You've won the lottery by having kids and you're complaining?

Fuck off.

Just fuck off

Either you're a troll and very sad and this is how you get your kicks

Or you're really that stupid that you're coming onto an infertility thread to moan about not being able to conceive a child of a particular flavour?

Wrong thread love. Piss off.

Banana you said it better. I was trying to be nice as I suspected she was quite dim. But you got it right!

I wasn't feeling so forgiving!!

Funny how the physical, financial and emotional pain of IVF and then recent MMC makes one less charitable towards someone who's so selfish that they not only don't appreciate the fantastic gift they have, but come on to rub our noses in it...

Evening all. Am feeling a bit better after regaling the mouse story to various horrified people and having four separate plates of pudding at dinner. Seriously, you have to laugh. Especially as crying a lot is really really fucking tedious and a waste of a sunny day.

Bip echoing everyone in hoping you're managing to salvage your hols and are having a fantastic time despite having to fuck about finding clinics. Huge massive to you.

Sammy so sorry you've had such a tough week. I hope your work are understanding and not just all massive instadiffing dicks. Have you tested again or just biding your time?

Hello isitjust, sounds like you've had a right time of it. Stick around as everyone here gets it. It's the best kind of support, especially if IRL you feel rather alone with it** all.

Meh and icy thinking of you

Fractions bullshit baby bomb your end too. Fucking horrible

Vixx fingers crossed for you! Just nice to be doing something, sometimes. Hope it all goes smoothly.

Big glittery dogshits to everyone else.

Gosh. Missed all this while X-posting. Agree with everyone, mum sorry- not the thread for you. Try to be a bit sensitive, eh?

Coming out of hibernation to say what the actual hell was that post all about? Well done banana and vixx I was reading opened mouthed but too wimpy to respond so just tutted.. a lot

Her youngest child is 9 months! No one could be that stupid. Really.

Indeed. How sad that someone gets their kicks by coming on to a thread just to troll

Militant barrens we may be but at least we have some actual purpose to our lives instead of spending our time shit stirring on MN

Or indeed if someone really could be that stupid it's just depressing that they are able to breed and yet we cannot

MY ACUPUNCTURIST IS PREGNANT

I think I'm in actual shock. The person I've confided in for 18 months is TWENTY WEEKS pregnant and I didn't notice. I was not kidding that your best bet for getting pregnant is to meet me.

Sorry to ignore all the other posts. Just going to rant to DH about this then I'll be back.

Sad cow I have a feeling she won't come back.

That's shit, you can't hide from them, they are everywhere! 18 months is a very long time. Are you going to continue you going?

Just a quickie from me - it's not ectopic, so looks like I probably won't die on holiday, yay. I'm just waiting for the miscarriage to start (my first natural one, how exciting). Which means I can finally have a fucking Old Fashioned.

Meh and Sammy thinking of you & sending you huge hugs. Grumps dead mouse juice Potatoes really hope the endless post-ERPC saga is resolved soon - I'm constantly amazed by your good humour in the face of it all. Well done all for seeing off the troll! Jesus Christ. What are people like.

Bloody hell potatoes. It's bad enough when all your friends are effortlessly impregnating each other every six seconds but it's just fucking rude when infertility specialists start doing the same. I hope she was at least sensitive about it rather than all smug glowy preggo.

Bip, have MANY Old Fashioneds!!!

NO WAY Potatoes - your acupuncturist? For fuck's sake. Who knew there were so many people trying to have babies everywhere. Are you going to keep going? What a nightmare.

Oooooh my god, I came on to wax lyrical about some woman on the train with TWO fucking baby on board badges on (?! One was the TFL themed the other was in the 'keep calm' style) but mumof2boys (even the name fucking rubs your nose in it) actually made me incredulously laugh at the idiocy. In her defence (why am I defending her?!) I think she might actually just be stupid. The fact she's apparently ttc whilst her relationship crumbles around her ears seems batshit fucking crazy. You hear that? You're fucking mental. You also have zero empathy you self centred cow. Work on that. And you sound a bit chavvy. Work on that too.

potatoes oh fuck. The absolute last thing you need is a pregnant woo doctor. I hope she told you at the end of the session, so at least you got a bit of relaxation?

IVF Fiends, well done typo ;-)

Bip I hope you get at least one solid cocktail session in.

Jesus just seen a group of 18s eat a tangerine and throw the skin on train floor. There's a fucking bin. More chavs.

mumof2 on the off chance that was a genuine error, there is a secondary infertility thread. That is what you have, so try there. This is a thread for people who can't even manage one.

Thanks for the baby bomb sympathy. I guess there's no easy way to break the news and she did it sensitively. But she's TWENTY WEEKS (how did I not notice? to be fair she's a muesli eating hippie who dresses in baggy clothes) so she'll have known since NOVEMBER when I started my ivf cycle. I'm finding it hard to stomach that she's known throughout my treatment, postive test, miscarriage. I told her everything. Urgh.

Trust noone. NOONE.

icy is that the upside to no kids - not parenting a chavvy 18 yr old litter lout?

bip what a never ending fucking nightmare. Definitely get the drinks in. Sorry if I missed a bit - is it definitely a miscarriage if it's not ectopic, is hcg not high enough? I hope you can get somewhere safe and comfortable if it does all go tits up.

Sammy sorry you're feeling so emotional. I hope you felt better after a good blub. Sometimes it's good to get it off your chest. Was your boss sympathetic?

Vixx it's OK to be excited! The life of a Militant Barren doesn't contain much to be excited about. Hope the injections go well (remember: ice cube if cuts sore!)

Tomorrow is my scan to check wtf is going on, why am I still expelling clots and gushing fresh blood a month on. It just sort of dawned on me that the scan is the diagnosis not the cure: there's not going to be a good reason and I might spend Easter having a second ERPC.

So I'm properly back on the gin and chocolate with no regrets. Even on a school night.

Well tonight was eventful wasn't it! See you tomorrow ivf fiends

icy you actually made me spit out my decaf tea!.. Some people aye.

I'm no closer to sorting my meds. Most places were around about the same price as the clinic so got a couple more options then I will just have to get a grip and hand over that small fortune.
AF is due next week, I was hoping for that last minute BFP but have just eaten half a tub of ice cream so it's a sure sign we DTD too many times for no good reason this month. So icy I think down reg starts In about 4 weeks. You??
bip enjoy the trip! You absolutely deserve a break
Good luck to those of you persevering on this merry go round!