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Going through IVF in February?

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TwinklingLight · 19/01/2016 10:42

If so, please join the club. Let's keep each other going!

In our case, we're going abroad for ours - Norway. What about you?

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TinySalmon · 18/04/2016 09:46

NotSpartacus I'm so sorry Thanks I have been thinking about you all weekend actually and was hoping for a better result.

Like you said, there are higher success rates with FET so just have a go with that.

I know the 2WW is so unpleasant and emotionally taxing. TTC for as long as most of us on here have been takes its toll on all of us and especially our relationships with our SO. Count yourself lucky that you have a job to distract you... I don't work and during my 2WW I was on the verge of insanity - not only this time around but over the years of ttc naturally. I'm surprised DP hasn't decided to leave me yet!

You are in my prayers my darling. Spend the rest of the week trying to relax and not blame your body. Don't let it consumer you and just make the next steps to arrange FET.

We are all here to lend an ear and a hand for support xx

goinggrey1978 · 18/04/2016 12:03

Everhopeful76, yes been on the phone to all the nurse's today, ivf nurse is changing my pessary to a different type, colitis nurse has asked for me to do blood test to check everything and we discussed what to eat and I'm to keep in contact with her

Kwick709 · 18/04/2016 17:56

notspartacus I am really sorry Flowers. I thought CRGH was on a roll... Really sorry that this is not the case. I have heard amazeball things about FET - you are lucky to have that.

Feel despondent and tired... Snuck out of work early but now stuck in mega gridlock... Feel a bit sick too... But not enough to stop my dinner fantasies!!!
When will spring arrive?

Kwick709 · 19/04/2016 17:10

Just got back from scan. No heartbeat found. I have to stop drugs and will miscarry in the next few days. So sad.

TinySalmon · 19/04/2016 17:22

What kwick?? Is that what the nurses told you would happen?! Maybe it's just early days - very often at a 6 week scan they can't find a heartbeat, maybe at 8 or 9 weeks there will be something?!

I am so sorry Flowers

Kwick709 · 19/04/2016 17:27

It was 8 weeks.

TinySalmon · 19/04/2016 17:59

I'm so sorry SadThanksSadThanks

Everhopeful76 · 19/04/2016 18:06

Oh no kwik I am so so sorry my lovely.
Hope you have a friend or family member to support you this evening?
What utter crap, there are no words. I hope you can be kind to yourself and take time to recover before making a plan of what is next. Are you able to take some time off work?

I had my early pregnancy scan y day and all at moment ok but I am in no way taking it for granted. It's a worrying time and the whole process is so emotional. You are still my inspiration to continue because of the way I think you handled all the treatment and also in that we perhaps had similar odds of success with our 2 eggs, you were positive and took it all in your stride. I know you can regain that positivity in time. Thinking of you and sending you lots of love.

Likewise to you not Spartacus. I hope you are being kind to yourself.do you have a follow up with your clinic?. I hope at least stopping the medication might have made you feel physically better although emotionally am sure its a different story. Take care and let us know what your next steps are
For both of you.... You just don't undertake something like this without an extreme longing. I think you are both very courageous and I'm sorry this has not worked out this time xxxxx

Everhopeful76 · 19/04/2016 18:37

How things going with you going grey? Hope you had a better day with your colitis symptoms?

NotSpartacus · 19/04/2016 18:53

Oh Kwick I am so so sorry. I know how awful it is to have a scan like that, and how sad and disappointed you must be feeling. I hope the clinic were kind and helpful. Take care of yourself. I'm around if you need to talk. Thanks

Everhopeful thank you for asking, but I am honestly fine. I don't think I had let myself believe the IVF might work, so now that it hasn't I am a bit rueful but ok. I do have a follow up next week, and the mother of all periods which arrived within 12 hours of skipping the meds (which is horrid but I think it hopefully means a return to normal). We will see what the doc says and take it from there.

Kwick709 · 19/04/2016 19:06

Thank you so much everhopeful and notspartacus what you said is lovely.

I am home alone - watching The Durrels and trying not to feel too sorry for myself. My smoke alarm keeps on beeping - I will soon throw a hammer at it which I am sure will help with anger.

goinggrey1978 · 19/04/2016 19:10

Kwick709 i'm sorry to hear this sad news, thinking about you
Everhopeful76 i had a really rough morning partly as i had to leave the house to get a blood test luckily a friend took me, got new pessaries this afternoon and had a another chat with on call colitis nurse and ivf nurses too, no where near well enough to drive let alone work yet, taking each day as it comes and hoping i'll be better eventually
i'm sorry if i've missed anything but i've been totally out of it for nearly 3 days, hopefully i've turned a corner this evening and will be back to my normal self very soon

goinggrey1978 · 20/04/2016 06:37

morning all, need some advise anyone using utrogestan vaginal capsules with applicators??

NotSpartacus · 20/04/2016 07:47

I swallowed Utrogestan , Goinggrey but I don't think that's most efficient. I read something about it sometimes affecting the liver when taken orally but as I was already taking progesterone in all other available orifices...

I think I have read also that you can put them up your bottom. Delightful.

Everhopeful76 · 20/04/2016 07:47

Unfortunately I'm not going grey. Am on cyclogest which am discontinuing at the w e As Dr says i no longer require the extra support as lining is good.
It might b worth posting something in a new thread as I don't recall anyone taking these pessaries amongst the February cyclers but could b wrong. I hope they have less side effects than your other ones and you re feeling better soon

goinggrey1978 · 20/04/2016 08:11

NotSpartacus and Everhopeful76, thanks for you continues support ladies, i'm so glad i have so many lovely people to ask all these random questions to!!

SparrowSG · 20/04/2016 09:53

Hi goinggrey I am taking utrogestan, see pic here. I'm using them vaginally and just poking up with my finger, they don't come with applicators in Greece where I bought them.

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SparrowSG · 20/04/2016 10:04

Kwick So sorry to read your news, I hope you are looking after yourself and taking some time off to feel better. You've been so upbeat during this process, I hope you can find that enthusiasm again.

And also NotSpartacus, sorry that you didn't have a positive outcome, I hope you get some answers from your follow up appointment next week.

I have my first scan on Friday, shitting myself to be honest but what will be will be. I am swinging from being positive to expecting to see the toilet filled with blood like two years ago, the joys of early pregnancy!

Take care everyone xxx

goinggrey1978 · 20/04/2016 11:04

SparrowSG thank you yes they are the ones, not sure if I put in it properly last as the outer case came out and the insides had come out, also it's been quite easy to secretly pop to the loo with a small pessary in my pocket, not so sure about the small rugby ball and a long applicator, are as easy to hide during one of my many visits to the loo, feeling so sick still!!

TinySalmon · 22/04/2016 10:02

How are we all doing ladies? I am thinking about everyone on here, those of us with the good and bad news x

goinggrey1978 · 22/04/2016 10:53

I'm really not well, gp signed me off work now, possibly a gastro bug, more tests needed, it's not my colitis or the pessaries, on restricted diet to try and settle my tummy down, fluids, sleep and diorylite, got lots of very good friends looking after me

Everhopeful76 · 22/04/2016 11:08

Hi all
Sorry to hear goinggrey,hope things improve soon. Would some of these symptoms be early pregnancy ones?
I'm doing ok, just impossibly tired and very nauseas. Definitely early pregnancy symptoms. Still have a sense of impending doom and my scan at 7 weeks was great, I still want to leapfrog to 12 weeks and hopefully early preg symptoms may have subsided and I ll feel more reassured. 8 weeks now
I think its so hard to be excited after the long drawn out process of IVF although as each day comes it feels a little easier.
Also trying to find a part time job in any field to be honest so I can a) have distraction and b)feel like am a productive person in the world. Am self employed, looking after dogs the rest of the time but think I still a bit more structure to my life
Sparrow and little salmon - when are your scans lovelies?

TinySalmon · 22/04/2016 12:34

Oh dear goinggrey that sounds nasty. Hopefully just a bug or early pregnancy symptoms and your little bean will be fine.

I had my scan booked for next Friday but I'll be in Switzerland so now it's the Tuesday after so by that time I think I'll be 7 weeks exactly. Time just feels like it's going soooooo slowly. I'm only 5+4 but desperate to know everything is ok. I've had no symptoms except sore boobs and a little bit tired.

I know what you mean ever. I am in a constant state of anxiety and doesn't help that I've been reading statistics on miscarriage and stillborn rate (which is shockingly high in this country... 1 in 20 babies after 20 weeks don't make it). I just CANNOT relax until I deliver.

The emotional journey we've been through with IVF makes me panic about every little detail more than if I think we conceived naturally and that's just not fair. I get very angry about it sometimes :(

Everhopeful76 · 22/04/2016 13:38

I know it's longer to wait tiny salmon but my scan was at 7+ 3 and think it's probably better to b then rather than earlier due to the wait the other side to 12 weeks.

Unfortunately it's out of our hands and all the work has to b done by little one. Fingers crossed for you

You say 1 in 20, that sounds worse than saying 5% which is I believe is also the miscarriage rate from 7 weeks onwards. Before it is higher but every single day to 7 weeks that rate drops, for eg it's 25% from when pregnancy known but only a week or 2 later it's down to 10.
I do understand as I ve looked them up as well

No symptoms at your stage am sure is normal. I didn't have sore boobs till 7 weeks just a bit of nausea and was tired. Now I do have these symptoms but equally plenty of lucky ppl do not. Although if I suddenly didn't have the symptoms having experienced them so far then I might b worried

goinggrey1978 · 22/04/2016 14:06

Hi Everhopeful76 and tinysalmon, I have been very positive throughout this cycle, scan is w/c 9th of May, I know the time but can't remember the date or day, it's written down, I'm 5 weeks I think, bubble is fine, let's me know it's there, funny taste in my mouth, headache, dizzy or giddy, weeing loads, dislike of all sweet food, forgetting everything,,bubble is fine I'm sure,