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Anyone else having IVF for second child after IVF for first?!?

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Bunnygirlie · 11/01/2016 20:18

Hello!

We had IVF ICSI in January 2014 which resulted in our little boy born in October 2014. We started trying again when he's was 9 months hoping that nature would be on our side this time but after 3 months we decided to speak to the FC again to see if it was even worth bothering to try naturally. It wasn't and so we are to start IVF again very soon.

Looking for others going through the same thing if possible to be my buddy's Smile

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Bunnygirlie · 23/05/2016 10:20

More cramps and bleeding, all over here I think. Can't stop crying

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sunshineonarainyday1 · 23/05/2016 16:23

Oh Bunny, I'm so sorry. That's really shitty. Was so hopeful for you for good news. I hope you're ok and dh looking after you xxx

Fisherwoman14 · 23/05/2016 20:59

Oh no!! Sad Do you think it's AF or could it be implantation bleeding? I'm no expert but isn't it too early for AF? If your period was going to come, wouldn't it come around the time that you would test?
Sorry if I'm being ignorant - just trying to think of some plausible explanations for what you're experiencing...
Take a deep breath and TRY (ha!) to relax. Get your feet up, trashy TV on and hubby to give cuddles xx xx

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Bunnygirlie · 24/05/2016 13:08

Yep it's a big pile of shite! It just has to be AF, it's just like a normal one, too much blood for implantation Sad
AF not even due till Friday, so unfair!

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sunshineonarainyday1 · 24/05/2016 14:08

Aww Bunny, that really sucks. Have you spoken to the clinic at all?

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Bunnygirlie · 24/05/2016 17:12

Thanks girls, it really does suck! I was a right mess yesterday!
Haven't called clinic, nowt they can do. I'm sure they'd just tell me to still test on Sunday and call them then to confirm.

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Fisherwoman14 · 24/05/2016 19:48

Bugger. That is rubbish if you definitely think it's AF. Still puzzling as to why it's so early Confused.
Still nothing to report here Hmm

sunshineonarainyday1 · 24/05/2016 21:34

I really hope this is something a bit peculiar and you test Sunday and get some surprising news. I hope Sunday doesn't feel too far away. Will you do another fresh cycle? You did short protocol last time didn't you? Was that due to low amh?

Fisher, good luck to you. Are you testing Sunday ?

Fisherwoman14 · 24/05/2016 22:39

Testing Saturday if I don't crack before then...

Happilymarried155 · 25/05/2016 10:57

Hi, can I join your journey?

Just waiting for appointment to start ivf for our second after it worked first time last time. Don't think we can be that lucky again so preparing myself for a bunny ride.

Haven't had chance to read all of the thread. Are you OK bunny? X

sunshineonarainyday1 · 25/05/2016 20:10

Fisher, good luck for Saturday then. Hope you're keeping busy and not thinking too much about things.

Happily, welcome! We don't seem to be having much luck at getting baby no 2 first time round on this thread so hopefully that means the odds are in your favour. How old is your LO?

Bunny , thinking of you my lovely xxx

Smileybobs29 · 25/05/2016 22:34

Hi everyone, wrote on a lot of forums that seem to be inactive so so nice to find one people actually respond to!
Preparing myself for my second round of IVF, after 4 years of trying with u 'explained' infertility we had a successful IVF on the first go when my son was born he's now 4, after another 2 years of Ttc naturally again nothing! So sad to be back here again 😢
Especially when it comes so easy to so many people around me! I never thought I'd feel this way again now I have my son I thought I'd be much more relaxed about it all now I don't have the fear of never being a mummy, but I do every month is devastating, like you all most likely are I'm a private patient now so hoping I'm as lucky this time around as the last as its not something I'll be able to afford to keep going with, it's all so petrifying and exciting at the same time. I'm starting on my next period, would love to have someone to go through it with, can't wait to hear of some good news for you all!
Bunny I'm so sorry to hear your sad news, hope your ok, don't give up!
Xx

GemBee · 25/05/2016 23:26

Hi all, I'm another newbie to this thread so hope you're happy to have another drop in.

We have a beautiful girl born mid 2014 from our 2nd attempt at ICSI. As much as I tell myself to just be thrilled you have her - which of course we are after 10 years of dealing with unexplained infertility - I can't shake the feeling that I want another child.

But we said we wouldn't go through it all again, the medical stuff being so all consuming. And my husband isn't super keen.

So I guess I was interested in talking to some like-minded souls and maybe get a feel for what it's like managing the IVF the second time round, with a toddler in tow.

Smiley - I know what you mean about thinking you'd feel more relaxed about it. I almost feel more pressure now, especially as some weeks I'd get asked 3 or 4 times when we're going to have our next Bub.

sunshineonarainyday1 · 26/05/2016 06:27

Welcome ladies!

It is pretty poo to be here again and need medical help for another baby.....so sorry to see you here..... but you're more than welcome!

I'd often get asked if we would like more children and I'd say "hopefully one day....but not just yet". Now i say "we had IVF to conceive mini sunshine so we would like another but unfortunately it's not that straight forward". I don't mean to be rude to people but I almost feel the need to shout it from the rooftops that we didn't just have a quick fumble and then 9 months later a baby arrived unexpectedly! I find being open and honest works best for me, but everyone is different. On our first cycle for no 2 we didn't tell anyone except our parents when we were about to have EC and that was only because we needed someone to have DD. We are doing an FET starting shortly and will happily tell our siblings this time round as I think it was easier that it wasn't a secret like when we cycled to conceive DD.

Smiley do you have everything ready to go? Are you doing a fresh cycle or using some frosties from first time round?

GemBee it is all consuming and I was super keen to get going for no 2 but when the drugs arrived I felt strangely underwhelmed. It was very bizarre. May find you feel differently going through treatment with a toddler than you did first time round....or you might find you don't. Either way is fine....just remember it doesn't last forever. Ttc is such a small proportion of our lives..... although feels like so much when we are going it.

Smileybobs29 · 26/05/2016 08:03

I'm going with a fresh cycle no Frosties first time around so hoping for some this time my first went to blastocyst stage I'm doing short protocol this time due to very high amh level not even sure what it means or what the difference is really I had a long one last time it's all so mind boggling! I'm all ready to on my next cycle just waiting now xx

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Bunnygirlie · 26/05/2016 21:09

Fisher - I still have everything crossed for you!

Sunshine - I'm not holding out any hope after 3 days of proper AF, doing the test seems pointless

Hi Happily Smiley Gem - welcome to the gang!

I'm up and down at the mo. Feeling angry and upset and numb all st the same time. Can't believe it worked first time for or son but a fresh and frozen have failed, that's two fails in 4 months. Sad
DH keeps saying 'at least we have one' and it's really not helping (makes me want to punch him to be honest)!

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GemBee · 26/05/2016 21:51

That totally sucks Bunny. And agreed - I'd be wanting to punch him in the face too! Take care of yourself, do something you love today that's just for you Flowers

Sunshine - we're at the same point telling people who ask about baby plans of our ivf. I don't think it's rude it's just reality. And if they're going to ask a personal question I'm going to give a personal answer. Unless it's a random checkout chick or some creepy weirdo, they don't deserve it.

Good luck Smiley! I can't remember the difference between short and long protocols either. Mine were both long I know that.

Smileybobs29 · 26/05/2016 22:17

Aww bunny I would feel exactly the same, they think they are helping when they're not! My dh says the same when I try and confide to him about how I feel going through it again and it just doesn't help! Will you be going again? I wish it was cheaper it's just not fair!
I hate it when people ask too why do they do it!
Thank you gem bee I'll keep you posted I'm just nearing the end of this cycle so will be end of June I start.
Xx

Fisherwoman14 · 28/05/2016 08:27

Sorry, been laying low trying to forget (ha!) that I was in the 2ww. It's been torture. Only got a test on Thurs and hubby wouldn't let me test early (he likes to stick to the rules Wink). Anyway, barely slept a wink last night, woke at 4am desperate to wee but worried to wee in case it diluted my FMU needed for test. Went ahead and wee-ed then fell back asleep for a while. Anyway I'm shell shocked to report that it's a BFP. Totally amazed as no cramping like last time. Only symptoms I can honestly report are tiredness (par for the course with a toddler and usually a symptom before AF for me), a bit hot and sweaty in bed (usually a tell-tale AF sign) and feeling hungry a lot, especially at night in bed.
I'm so sorry it's not working/worked out for you bunny Flowers. It's such a lottery and so upsetting and frustrating that we can't be in charge or our fertility. xx xx xx

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Bunnygirlie · 28/05/2016 13:18

Congrats Fisher that's lovely news X

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Smileybobs29 · 28/05/2016 16:34

Congratulations fisher that's fantastic news!! Was that your first go for number 2? Xx

Happilymarried155 · 29/05/2016 17:05

Congratulations Fisher that's amazing!

I'm currently waiting for my appointment. We have 3 frosties so will be using those but have no idea what that involves. Exciting and scary at the same time.

How are you today bunny?

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Bunnygirlie · 29/05/2016 19:44

Ok thanks, day started crap as had to do the test anyway so I can call FC Tuesday. Lovely BBQ this afternoon though Smile

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sunshineonarainyday1 · 29/05/2016 23:35

Congratulations Fisher, that's fantastic news! Gives us all some hope for the future. Hope you're trying to rest as much as possible with a toddler.

Bunny, sorry that your day didn't start out well. Such a bitch having to do the test regardless. I literally peed on a stick, looked at it about 30 seconds later and was like "yup, that's what I was expecting" and rang clinic. Was expecting them to not be sympathetic for some reason but actually the lady I spoke to was very nice. Do you know what you're going to do next or too early to say/think about it?

Happily, do you know if you're going to do a medicated or natural cycle for your FET? I had scan on Fri ready to start our FET. I am medicated so am 3 days in of taking oestrogen tablets. Will be pretty much same timelines as non medicated so transfer should be approx day 19 as we have a 5 day in the freezer.

Happilymarried155 · 30/05/2016 15:19

Sunshine, I'm not sure yet. By the sounds of it both sound quite straight forward compared to normal ivf. Should get our app within the next few weeks so hopefully won't be long until we start. Did people have to redo the tests again? It's only been 16 months since we had ivf with our little boy so I'm hoping we don't have too!? X