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Anyone else having IVF for second child after IVF for first?!?

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Bunnygirlie · 11/01/2016 20:18

Hello!

We had IVF ICSI in January 2014 which resulted in our little boy born in October 2014. We started trying again when he's was 9 months hoping that nature would be on our side this time but after 3 months we decided to speak to the FC again to see if it was even worth bothering to try naturally. It wasn't and so we are to start IVF again very soon.

Looking for others going through the same thing if possible to be my buddy's Smile

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sunshineonarainyday1 · 14/09/2016 20:44

Bean welcome to the thread. Sorry you find yourself here. How interesting you had zero fertilisation rate but have caught naturally in the past. Glad they are going to do icsi this time. We never had a hint of a bfp in the three years we ttc our DD. First time round we had 13 eggs but only 2 eggs fertilised so ttc no 2 we did icsi and had much better fertilisation(is it bad that I can't remember how many exactly Confused). So good luck with this cycle.

Roxy good luck for this 2ww. Hope you're filling it with lots of fun things

Holly good luck for next Wednesday

Smiley how was scan? Been thinking of you today.

Started writing to his earlier and didn't post for some reason so it's quite possible thread has moved on but I'll post anyway and then refresh the page

sunshineonarainyday1 · 14/09/2016 20:46

Oh shit smiley I'm SO sorry. That it so shit. Feel like an idiot for posting my post now and not copying it and refreshing the page. I really hope your DH is being there for you this eve. Was a sad day. Thinking of you Hun xxx

Smileybobs29 · 15/09/2016 20:06

Thanks for the kind messages ladies, really appreciate them, not doing so good, cried most the day, I just can't believe how many ups and downs there have been in the last 2 months, this time has been much harder. But yes dh has been amazing, my rock! I have to go for another scan next week to just 'make sure' and also to see if things have started to come away naturally.
Then afterwards we have a discussion about where we go from here. It's hard to think about getting straight back into it but I definately don't any to waste much time. Have 2 Frosties so suppose that's the next step after I've pulled myself together xx

beanhunter · 15/09/2016 22:06

So sorry to hear that smiley. MC sucks. Be kind to yourself.

sunshineonarainyday1 · 16/09/2016 18:00

Aww smiley how have you been today?

Smileybobs29 · 16/09/2016 18:37

Not brilliant, much the same really xx

sunshineonarainyday1 · 17/09/2016 08:09

Sorry to hear that smiley, I am thinking of you xx

sunshineonarainyday1 · 21/09/2016 13:10

smiley how are you doing my lovely? Have things progressed on their own? Hope they have and you are close to that part of things being over....altho I know grieving will be a longer process. Xxxx

Holly how did it go today? Hope you've got your feet up and resting nicely. When is otd?

Roxy how is the 2ww going? How much longer to wait?

How is everyone else?

Roxy1234 · 21/09/2016 15:22

Hi Sunshine, I'm 8dp5dt today and still testing negative in the morning. Starting to lose hope to be honest as I was showing positive by day 7 past 5dt with my previous transfer. How is everyone else doing?

beanhunter · 21/09/2016 19:44

I have heard people getting late positives roxy.
Still thinking of you smiley.
Afm still on the eternal dr. Finally had a period after 2.5 weeks but it's pushed everything back. Scan next Monday and then hopefully stims from Tuesday.

sunshineonarainyday1 · 21/09/2016 19:52

Aww Roxy could definitely be too early to test. How many dp5dt did clinic say to test?

Bean sorry to hear things are taking their time but fingers crossed for scan on Mon and you can start stimms Tue xxx

Smileybobs29 · 21/09/2016 20:09

hi everyone, thank you for the lovely messages. No sunshine, had to go for another scan today to make sure, which was like going through it all over again, they said it hasn't grown anymore so confirmed it was definately a mc. Nothing looks to be moving naturally, so they gave me a leaflet about my options to read through and want me to think about what I want to do, but they advise I do it naturally. They did say that could take weeks though, but if it hasn't happened in 2 weeks I have to go back and have another scan and see what's going on unless I decide to have it removed. Just so hardy the waiting. A little part of me thought they might have got it wrong so when they confirmed it just crushed me all over again. And they said I have to wait 3 months before I can start my fet cycle too which seems forever away. I went back to work today to try and keep busy, with ds at school and dh back at work thought staying home alone may not be the best idea. So not feeling the best but just trying to keep busy.
Hope everyone else is doing ok x

Roxy1234 · 22/09/2016 06:38

Ok so I'm officially confused. Did a clearblue this morning and got a very feint second line result. But my internet cheapies still came up negative. I guess I'll have to keep testing for a few more days to see if it gets stronger. I've only been using the Internet ones so far. Away to go and buy some more tests today to see what tomorrow brings. I've posted a pic of the test, what do you guys think??

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beanhunter · 22/09/2016 07:14

That looks promising. I can see the line. Internet cheapies always later to pick up a bfp.
I found SuperDrug the best. Followed by frer early response so could try one of those.

Roxy1234 · 22/09/2016 17:22

Thanks. I'm pretty convinced it's just an evaporation line. I've bought a first response test so will see what tomorrow brings. I'm not liking that it's so feint so long after transfer either, but time will tell I suppose!

How's the down reg going for you beanbunter?

beanhunter · 22/09/2016 21:54

Am fed up of it. Finally had a period. Feel pretty lousy. Hopefully stims next week....

GilbertBlythe4JM · 23/09/2016 06:30

Hi all - for some reason I stopped getting notifications so have missed the last few posts. smiley I'm so sorry for this tough time - having to wait for yr body/make decisions/not being allowed to do an fet must be so frustrating and upsetting. Big hugs x
roxy good luck for today's test - keep positive if you can.

bean I start Dr in two weeks. It seems to go on forever doesn't it? Xx

Roxy1234 · 23/09/2016 06:39

A definite negative this morning, I guess I'm going to be doing my first FET transfer. So happy we have some in the 'freezer' to be able to transfer this time. Our first cycle we didn't have any to freeze. Hope all is going well with everyone else. This is such a hard process! Big hugs to you all X

HollyHx · 23/09/2016 12:52

Hope you’re doing okay Smiley. Miscarriage is just horrible, especially when we have to fight so hard to get to this stage. Any sign of it all happening ‘naturally’? I had a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks (stopped developing at 7/8 wks) with my first pregnancy and had to have an ERPC. It was quite straight forward and I would recommend that rather than the drugs if you don’t miscarry naturally. A couple of my friends have had nasty experiences with the tablets. So horrible that you still have to wait. I think getting back to ‘normal’ if you can will help. Is it really 3 months to wait? That seems forever. Why not one cycle?

Roxy, so sorry that today’s test was negative. When is OTD? The ClearBlue looked very positive though and with my DD my line was faint on OTD (about 16dpo)… The frosties are a real positive. Hope you’re okay. It’s so, so hard when it doesn’t work after all of the energy we put in.

Bean – at least things are starting to move now. DR takes FOREVER!

Gil – hi – how long will you DR for?

Sunshine – how are you? Hope you’re still doing well lovely

As for me, transfer all went to plan on Wednesday. I took time off work – had a nap and everything! I am getting headaches and nausea already which is what happened on my cycle with the chemical so I’m feeling a little bit positive. My period is due on Wednesday. I think I’ll test then rather than wait for OTD on Sunday 2nd. I would like to know if it tried to implant at least and in the last cycle my period arrived 5 days before OTD so I know if I get to Wed/Thurs with no bleeding that will be a good sign. Still, that’s a few days off yet. I’m concentrating on looking after myself and trying to relax.

Thinking of you all- horrible times on this thread
xx

GilbertBlythe4JM · 23/09/2016 21:22

Really good luck Holly - my hpt was positive from 5 days post 5 day transfer with an frer... (although ultimately a CP) - I like to know if it's at least latched on in there! Hopefully a lovely bfp for you.
Roxy - I'm really sorry about today's result. I'm pleased you can do an fet but still it must seem like another mountain to climb at the moment xxx

Smileybobs29 · 24/09/2016 09:20

Holly - thanks for the advise I was thinking about the tablet purely for the fact I didn't like the sound of the d and c, but I'll stay away. I don't know what to do, can't bear the thought of staying like this potentially for another few weeks, but I'd prefer to do it naturally, although all ways sound just as horrible. Ypur right, you come such along way to even get a bfp for then it all to come crashing down. This is my first mc (hopefully my last) and it just completely sucks.
I don't know why it's 3 months, I'm guessing it must be up to the clinic maybe because I expected one normal period in between and had read a variation online of 3 months 2 months and 1 month, so was gutted when they said 3! Feels like forever away it really does although I know it's not and suppose at least my body should have healed by then and I can give this fet my all. Only have 2 frozen but better then 0.
Good luck for otd for you. X
Gilbert - thank you, seems to have come around quite fast now your next round, think positive X
Sunshine - hope your well x
Roxy - sorry to hear your result, I hate this game I feel like it's a complete gamble, it's such a cruel process the whole thing Sad
Bean - chin up, least you can get going now, but agree does seem to take forever! X
2 pregnancy announcements to deal with this week too I hate this game!!!!!! X

HollyHx · 25/09/2016 20:21

It sucks Smiley. Hopefully things will start on their own so you don't have to face either option. One of my friends with the tablets had to have an Erpc too because it wasn't complete. Horrible. Sorry about the pregnant announcements.

How are you feeling Roxy? Hope you're okay.

Gilbert - I am very tempted to test tomorrow morning (5dp5dt)

I'm spotting today. It's red. It was brown yesterday. I think I still have symptoms (nausea mainly) and I did spot with my successful cycle. In fact I looked back on the notes I made and I described it as light flow. I remember that I was sure it was over. But I also spotted on the last two cycles that didn't work. It's so blinkin hard isn't it?! Think I'll test tomorrow, 2 days before my period is due. It's too early but it might help prepare me for the inevitable/ give me hope...

HollyHx · 25/09/2016 20:23

Oh has anyone seen that programme Alex Jones Fertility and Me (it's on iplayer). It was interesting and me and my dh were really enjoying it then at the end she's just pregnant naturally! Her fertility problem was that she was worried she wouldn't get pregnant. But she did. I was irrationally annoyed.

HollyHx · 26/09/2016 06:53

Negative.

Hope it's too early.

sunshineonarainyday1 · 26/09/2016 13:01

Afternoon ladies

Sorry to hear that things aren't going too well for many. It sucks....properly sucks. Smiley hope you're doing ok. Sorry about the pg announcements. They always seem to come at the totally wrong time. Hope things are progressing in the quickest most painless way. Xxx

Holly I'm so sorry test was negative....is this just too early tho if you're only 6 days post transfer?

Roxy have you got to otd yet? Is it Def looking like a negative?

Bean and Gilbert, hope DR going ok (if you have started yet Gilbert).

Hi to everyone else.

I'm doing ok thanks Smiley, discharged from FC and waiting for dating scan in 2 weeks time. Feeling sick as a dog and much more than with DD. It's awful but reassuring so I'm certainly not complaining.

Holly I saw that programme with Alex Jones. She was on Chris Evans talking about it before it was aired and interview was going well until she finished with "couples just need to relax" and then I suddenly changed my opinion of her and said out loud "you are such a dick Alex Jones". Then thought to myself "You're doing a fertility programme and haven't got a bloody clue about fertility. Woopie doo you're 38 but that means nothing when you got pregnant within a few months of getting married"