Would you be my Infertility/Clomid/Follicle tracking friend please?!

[scienceteachergeek]

Hi there ladies

I’m really looking for a ‘clomid friend’ or ‘infertility pal’!

I’m 30, DH is 38. I came off the pill July 2013 to regulate my cycles and ended 15yrs of antidepressants in March 2014 as I’d read that was the best plan if possible.

I’d been having regular 27/30day cycles since I came off the pill but after no positive tests, buying OPKs and the Clearblue Advanced Fertility Monitor, plus charting temps and monitoring my cervix and mucus it quickly became apparent that I wasn’t ovulating. After all the blood tests, sperm analysis, trans-vaginal scans and the HSG it showed that he was fine but I wasn’t ovulating, but there was not obvious reason why.

Fast forward to now, 2yrs since coming off the pill, I have been prescribed clomid and have taken my first 5 tablets. I’m day 12 today and have been having follicle tracking to check if the drugs have worked. My largest follicle was 16.4mm today and have to go back on Wednesday to check it again.

Do any of you know if that’s a good size? Or have any experiences of being further down the clomid path? Or are you in a similar position? I just feel like I’m going out of my mind and could really use a buddy!

Thanks for reading and hugs to you all. Interested in hearing from any of you xxx

Did you test science?

Talk to me about cheese.....

So I'm off to a cheese and wine evening tonight, I'm driving so skipping the wine but now onto cheese.... So, soft cheese and blue cheese can be dangerous if pregnant (leading to miscarriage so don't want to take any chances just in case), and if I'm not drinking on the "what if" I'm thinking I probably shouldn't have any of the lovely blue cheeses or soft cheese, totally gutted, they are the best! So, does this really mean I'm stuck with just the boring hard cheeses like cheddar, Cheshire, Wensleydale?

Any recommendations for a good cheese?

Have a good weekend science! I can't wait until you hear! What type of test do you have lined up for today? Is it your fertility monitor still? Does it tell you to test today? How many days does it usually tell you to test for?

Oh my god!
Oh my god!

How did this not show up in my feed when I wrote my post!

FANTASTIC

Congratulations!!!

I'm so excited!

Oh wow!

What did dh say?

This is the best news ever!

I'm so pleased for you!

This is what we needed! Let's hope this is catching!

Did your blood test suggest when you did ovulate?

And if so was it around the time you had your peaks?

When and how often did you dtd this month?

That is such a massive positive too! So much darker than mine ever got! How many dpo are you?

Sorry for the hundreds of posts!

I'm just so excited to hear more!

You've convinced me I need one of these clear blue fertility kits now! If you consider selling it, let me know.

Thank you! I'm totally all over the place! DH cried and has already given it a name! We DTD every day over the 4 days i thought i might ovulate. The test came up straight away then I had to wait for the machine to confirm it.

The progesterone didn't confirm when i had ovulated but it was really very very high....i know why now!

Period is due tomorrow and I'm day 29. Wish I'd tested yesterday or even the day before with how dark the line is! I've attached the one from my monitor. The control line is as dark as the other!

Totally over the moon!

If we hadn't taken your 'increase the sex' advice it might have been a different story! I think I might have a lot to thank you for!

Come on the rest of you! Let's all get two lines!!!!

No idea about cheese though...pretty intolerant to lactose so don't have it often. Sorry!

What name did he pick?

I'm so excited for you!

Hope I join you in the bfp club this time next week!!

Will reply properly later, but for now:

WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!

OMFG! Amaze balls!

So so so happy for you! How long had you been trying? What a fucking amazing anniversary gift!

WAAAAH! Science !!!!!

OMG OMG OMG! Huge congrats to you and DH. It really is wonderful when someone who deserves a BFP so much gets one... 23 months off pill is a long time to wait, try, struggle and now it was all worth it.

I am so so pleased for you and your DH.

To us other ladies - this is a lucky thread, there aren't many of us but we are getting BFPs. Our time is coming!!!!

*26 months even

Right

flat and newleaf

Let's continue this good news!

Where are we up to in cycles?
When are we testing?

My info
Month 24
CD 20
AF due 29th sept
Testing next sat 26th

So what's the next step for you science? Will they want you in for an early scan or anything?
What are the chances of multiples?
I'm so excited for you x

Right, finally have chance to write a proper post.

Seriously, that is so amazing. After 26 months! This gives me a glimmer of hope.

So have you been celebrating today? I bet you just don't know what to do with yourself now it's actually good news!

We're all so happy for you . It's so nice to see "one of us" get a BFP. You realise we're all going to have a million and one questions now, he he! Although if you say anything about "baby dust" we're going to have to chuck you off this thread ;)

Vap - have the blue cheese! I'm not cutting back on anything in my 2WW after the first 6+ months of cutting everything out. I'd maybe feel differently if I'd been through what you've been through .

Hope you're all having a good Saturday evening x

Haha, yes please no "baby dust". cringe...

Hope you enjoyed celebrating and basking in the joy. I can't wait for that feeling I have imagined it a few times I must be honest...

Vap, thanks for the stats refresh.

Myself:

• Monitored month 21
• CD5 of second no-clomid cycle due to shit timing
• (Done 2 months of clomid already)
• Due to test again 20 October (thinking ahead here!!!) but not sure if DH & I will be together for fertile window or if i will even ovulate.

No matter what, I WILL take Clomid next cycle and have sex constantly and put everything else in life behind baby making...!

Things I am going to work on:

• Get Vitamin C & Zinc supplements for DH
• Exercise more again
• Alcohol-free october!!!

Well Ladies its 25 Degrees and HOT where I live today, off to the swimming pool!! I am flying to London for work tomorrow morning 5am so catching the last of the rays/vitamin D for the next two weeks! HAHA!

I like this new positive outlook!

You've inspired me newleaf!

I didn't go to the cheese and wine night so dodged a potential bullet there! Not drank since last Tuesday and not planning on until af!
Managed to take my folic acid and vit d + calcium tablets for a good month now without missing a day!
Biggest problem for me at the min is getting enough exercise (drive for 8-10hrs per day(. Fitbit wants 10.000 steps per day! I will give it 10,000 steps per day! Starting now!

Let's have a good month!

science has marked the start of our success story! Let's keep it going newleaf and flat

Hi NewLeaf - I am beyond jealous of your sunshine! I'm currently looking out the window at the grey sky although at least it's not raining! Which country are you in? Or would you prefer not to say for identification reasons (I totally understand that and worry about that, but I wonder how many of my real life friends/acquaintances would be chilling out on the Mumsnet infertility forum and reading this thread! I get super paranoid though!).

I too have dreamt about that moment so many times . I've thought of so many ways I would break the news to DH and our parents. Even if we do get lucky, which I would be eternally grateful for, that part has been stolen from me as we've had to "own up" to our parents for various reasons. I imagine now any good news would be met with "thank f*ck for that" (in the nicest possible way) rather than the hugging and excitement it would have been. I had to have a little chat with my mum the other day as she was upsetting me with her comments about their friends who had been trying for years and years and decided to give up and go on lots of holidays...then had 3 kids, or how she keeps saying to me "try not to think about it and then it will happen". My whole family are a million times more sensitive than most, and would be devastated to see me upset, but as is so common (and understandable) they just don't know what to say or do. Mostly because there is nothing to say or do. They were both lovely afterwards though and my mum said she'd be a surrogate for me (in a jokey way, obviously that could never happen!) and my Dad was researching which herbal teas I should be drinking (bless him, he's not the most blokey of men, but I'm sure it's not easy to chat away about babies and fertility and IVF!!).

As for my ovulation, I'm not entirely sure when I ovulated (or even if I did!). The pain subsided mid-morning today, but from my temperatures Fertility Friend says I ovulated on Wednesday (we DTD Wed eve and Thurs morn). That said, the time I take my temp ranges from 3am - 7am (I wake up every night without fail at 3am, take my temp, then if I get back to sleep and get more than 3 hours sleep I take it again and use the later time)

Anyway, my stats are:

Name: Flatwhitetogo
Age: 30
TTC: Number 1
Cycle: 11 (I fully appreciate I'm way behind the rest of you and you maybe want to slap me as I'm a year behind, but a lot of thought went into when to start TTC and we delayed starting as it wouldn't have been good time with work for me to get pregnant (ha! Had I known...) and before we started TTC we had 6-12 months of 'preparing' and quitting booze/certain foods etc, so this whole thing feels like it's taken a lifetime)
ETD: Either 1st/2nd Oct, although I'd probably wait until the weekend. That said I've got Fri 1st off work, so if AF hasn't arrived I may test that morning.

How are the rest of you doing? Obviously ScienceTeacher is on cloud 9 right now! I think it's very considerate of you to time the baby coming just in time for the school summer holidays :p

He he - Vap your post makes me . It's amazing how a little bit of positive news has picked us all up!

I'm going to the gym later. My weight is getting out of control (totally a lie. I appreciate I'm just in the 'normal' BMI range, but I've been very slim all my life due to my working out obsessively and battling various eating disorders for 10+ years and watching what I eat). I know I'll never be as slim as I was, but I wish I could lose a good 15lbs (or even 7lbs right now!) so that I could fit into my old clothes and not have everything ripping at the seams and feeling uncomfortable.

Haha Flat yes I am totally paranoid of being caught out. Actually for this reason having previously disclosed info about myself I have name changed quite a few times in case someone was so bored as to link up all my posts!

Ah well...

Vap I can't believe you drive so much each day, that must surely be totally exhausting!! Good grief...

Good for the positivity, lets keep it up!!

and Flat ... bless your parents and your dad for his input that is so sweet...

I too have come out to some of my family and my mother-in-law has I stay with them when I go for checks and tests etc so yes, after watching pregnancy reveal videos on youtube last year (how pathetic that sounds written down!), I bet DH and I will also be met with "thank f**k for that" when the time does come!!!

Oh well!!

Hello lovely ladies
I’m so pleased to have seemingly injected some positivity into the thread. 26 months has been tough but we got there! More good news is that, almost straight after I’d told DH I got a text from a mate who had been trying just as long as me, she’s pregnant too and due in March.

We haven’t celebrated as such because my best mate and I went to see another friend in Preston yesterday and been with the MIL all day. I did arrive home to a bunch of flowers though. I have been reading all your messages, thank you for your kind words, but I wanted to reply when I could give you guys my undivided attention. I spent much of the journey reading about all the things not to do anymore and not eat anymore.

I guess my news explains the indigestion I’ve had all week and the fact that my lips (ones on my face!) have got noticeably bigger. The insomnia I’ve had since last Friday is also apparently perfectly normal, how getting 3-4hrs a night can be considered ‘normal’ though is beyond me! I’m wrecked! Let me tell you, the quality of TV last night between the hours of 2am-5am was pretty naff! 3hrs sleep in total, not cool!

Obviously we’re thrilled but I’m trying to keep grounded for obvious reasons, hopefully we’ll get some good news again there soon Vap0 . It’s proving very difficult to stop a 38yr old man from getting excited…having already named it and had to have him talk to my groin hoping it can hear him! It’s called Nou, amalgamation of our names!

I need to thank you guys for being so wonderful throughout, I promise to hand out no baby dust but just sincere wishes that you’ll all be in the same boat soon. I certainly won’t be wanting to lose touch with you all! Thanks for insisting that I take the folic acid tablets and to Vap0 for getting me to DTD more frequently. You guys are wonderful, you might not want me posting anymore but I’m going nowhere and will be reading all your posts and answering any questions you have.

So, get shagging lots, get a pillow under your bum, stay there a while and wait!

Miracles do happen xxx Lots of love

Sorry Vap0, didn't answer 2 of your questions...don't know if they'll want me for an early scan. Don't know what I do about my appointment next month either. I'll get a docs appointment this week hopefully.

Chances of multiples....DH had a 'vanishing twin' so who knows!!!

Hi guys, with the apps being down i dont get onto this much now but what wonderful news to come back to!!! Im so so pleased for you scienceteacher and what hope it has given me!

Im currently 2nd cycle of clomid - feeling a bit disinterested :-( and very confused as to when i ovulated. Temps say cd 13. Had moutains of EWCM on cd 12. had peak on my cbfm on cd14!! DTD cd 11, cd 13 and cd15 so hopefully have caught it, although i am gutted I missed all my EWCM ...