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secondary infertility

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mumtosammy · 08/08/2014 13:15

i have been trying for a second baby for 2 years with no luck (it took 12 months with DS - he's now 3.8). i've just been referred by my dr to an infertility clinic, as he thinks i'm probably not ovulating (tests have not shown anything else up). anyone else out there had an experience of this? think the next steps will be a hycosy and then clomid, any tips or advice on what to ask at the appointment much appreciated!
anyone else out there struggling with the thought of a growing age gap and sadness that their DS might not have another sibling? also feeling that we're getting further and further away from the 'baby stage', it seems so long ago.
also the process of infertility appointments seems so long! we've already been in the system months having the gp appointments and still not got the hospital date.
anyone else feel like this?

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keeponjuggling · 11/04/2015 11:01

thank you Sheddie and Laptop, I'm feeling a little more positive (and ahem, sane) today. Wow Sheddie that's really encouraging, thank you. Just goes to show it only takes a few good ones.

Laptop, I did legs in the air and cushion under bum, but I'm definitely slightly crazy after so many years of ttc babies!

Have a lovely wknd in the sunshine.

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mumtosammy · 13/04/2015 15:25

Thanks Sheddie and laptopgirl for your supportive words about Clomid, I sometimes feel like I should be able to take it my stride more. I actually feel fine at the moment, but it’s a bit of a rollercoaster all month of ups and downs.
Keeponjuggling, how are you doing? Hope you are ok. Keeping my fingers crossed for you.
Laptopgirl, I never bother with legs in the air! I did try this a bit with DS though, looking back. Wow, every day is a bit of a tough ask! We haven’t been recommended that so will just stick to 2 days!! On day 19 now, nearly at the end of fertile window.

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keeponjuggling · 14/04/2015 11:13

Good to hear you're feeling a bit better mumtosammy, keeping fingers crossed for you.

I'm ok thanks, had EC yesterday, got 5 in the end, but only 2 have fertilized normally. I'm disappointed and hopeful at the same time, to say I'm an emotional wreck would be an understatement. How do you ladies who've been through ivf cope with this stage? Any advice gratefully received.

Hope everyone else is doing well?

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mumtosammy · 14/04/2015 12:05

Keeponjuggling, I’m thinking of you. Two is still really good – two good chances there for you. it must be very nerve-wracking. Fingers crossed for the next stage.
Can I ask how everyone going through IVF is managing time off work? Our work have no policy on fertility treatment, so you have to take it off as holiday (or just go off sick)…. Not sure how I would work this, if it came to it, particularly as I need to cover school holidays with my annual leave from September. How many days do you need to have off work for each round of IVF?

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Sheddie · 14/04/2015 21:19

No IVF experience here…yet! It must be so nerve wracking juggling. At least you have got two decent embryos. Will you have them both put back in or just one?

The work thing is definitely stressful mumtosammy. I have spoken to my boss about starting IVF next month and he has been really supportive. I am going to take two days off when the eggs are collected and then book a week's holiday after they are put back in. My company does have an IVF policy that gives you a week off in total for any appointments / recovery time etc.
I've got my set up appointment on 24th April and then should start at the beginning of May when my AF arrives!

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mumtosammy · 15/04/2015 17:40

Good luck Sheddie, that's great that it's all happening so fast. Glad your manager was so supportive too, that will really help I bet. I know it must be so nervewracking but it's good you're moving things along.
I'm not having a good day with it all today, i bumped into an NCT friend i hadnt seen for over a year, she was with her 3rd baby, it made me feel really depressed. she was asking me expectantly what i'd been up to and it was really hard.
had my 21 progesterone test today, should get results tomorrow as to whether i ovulated on 100mg. have a strange feeling it did not happen...
hope everyone else ok.
has anyone considered counselling at any stage to help deal with the stress of secondary infertility? wondering if it would help me ride out the bad times.

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Sheddie · 17/04/2015 22:59

I'm really sorry you're finding it tough at the moment mumtosammy. Must have been a really difficult moment bumping in to your NCT friend. Did you get your blood test results?
I've not considered counselling but it's something I'm sure would help to work things through in your head.
Try not to lose hope. I know how hard it is though. Sending supportive thoughts your way. Xx

keeponjuggling · 18/04/2015 14:06

Sorry for the silence, this week has been the hardest part so far, waoti.g to hear how your embryos are doing each morning is nerve wracking to say the least. On recommendation we pushed transfer to day 5 and one good blastocyst transferred this morning. So far so good, I guess all we can do now is wait.

How are you all doing?
Mumtosammy, I'm entitled to 5 days/yr for ivf, I've taken 2 this week for collection, I found this to be time I needed most. I couldn't have gone to work, felt way to fragile after EC but I did have a few little complications which may be why I felt awful. But must admit I couldn't face seeing people either. I work part-time so managed to work in the other appointments e.g scans fairly easily. We've been offered counselling at any point, haven't taken it up yet but it's nice to know it's available.

Great to hear you have your setting up appointment this coming week, Sheddie we found time went quickly from that point forward. Good luck.

Sheddie · 20/04/2015 21:03

Wow juggling it must all be so nerve wracking! How are you feeling now? Are you taking it easy for a few days or just carrying on as normal. I imagine this is going to be the hardest 2ww ever! We're here if you need to vent! Keeping everything crossed for you.

Laptopgirl · 21/04/2015 06:54

Testing as I've written a reply and can't see it.

Laptopgirl · 21/04/2015 06:58

Will try again Wink

Sheddie - thinking of you on 24th! Hope it goes well. ????

Running - hope your resting as much as possible and avoiding google! Sending you sticky bean vibes. ????

Mummy2sammy - are you sure it's not the clomid making you feel so down? It effects me so much, I get so teary and depressed. Might be worth chatting with your GP to discuss. Hope your ok I assume your on your 2ww? Sending ????

Sorry I've been AWOL, I've been away which is nice to step off the bus of reality once in a while! I'm now in my 2ww and trying my best to take my own advice and google every twinge!!

Sounds as if the next couple of weeks we will need each other, fingers crossed we can all graduate from this thread soon! ??????

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mumtosammy · 21/04/2015 14:50

Hi all
Sheddie, thanks and hope you are feeling alright about getting things started with the IVF.
Keeponjuggling, it must be so nerve wracking – I can’t even imagine how difficult it must be to stay calm and collected during the 2ww! Glad you got a blastocyst - fingers and toes crossed for you now. Thanks for the info about time off for IVF too.
Laptopgirl, good luck with your 2ww! Yes I am in 2ww as well. I think you’re right, it was the clomid making me feel like that.
I had some much better news today – the 21 day blood test showed I did ovulate on clomid this month with the 100mg dose, so feeling much more positive. As DH pointed out, we have as much chance as anyone else now!

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mumtosammy · 24/04/2015 10:21

can't believe I'm writing this but today is day 30 and I've had a faint line on a pregnancy test... Am now sitting at work staring at the screen, unable to concentrate and am going to the chemist at lunch to buy a digital one!
Does anyone have any experience of faint lines? Am getting my hopes up so much now, can hardly contain myself at the prospect of it being a proper BFP! Hopefully the digital one will give me a conclusive result!

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Sheddie · 24/04/2015 20:00

OMG mumtosammy that's so exciting! Have you done the digital one yet?? Make sure you let us know! Keeping everything crossed! X

Laptopgirl · 24/04/2015 21:46

Any update mummy to Sammy?GrinGrinGrinGrinGrin

Sheddie, how did you get on today? ??

Laptopgirl · 24/04/2015 21:50

PS- share your 2ww symptoms, I'm going loopy! GrinGrinGrin

Sheddie · 25/04/2015 08:31

Yesterday was fine Laptop. All the injections sound scary, but I'm sure you get used to it. I just want to get started now.

Laptopgirl · 25/04/2015 10:19

That's good sheddie. Any date fixed to start?

Sheddie · 25/04/2015 12:34

Yes I'm due to start on the first day of my next period so should be next weekend!
When are you due to poas?

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mumtosammy · 25/04/2015 15:34

I have now done a digital test and it said pregnant!! Just can't believe it. My fingers and toes are crossed for all of you as well for your next stages - it can happen!
Good luck with starting your injections next week Sheddie. How is the 2ww going laptopgirl?
Goes without saying that i'm rather anxious about whether it will all work out - thinking 6 weeks is the first big milestone to get to. Fingers crossed.

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Sheddie · 25/04/2015 16:32

Wow, congratulations mumtosammy, that's such wonderful news! I bet you can't believe what you're seeing! I was only thinking this week that this thread has been going since August and we've had no good news. Let's hope it rubs off on the rest of us.
I can imagine that you will now start on a whole new set of worries. You can only take it a week at a time. Wishing you loads and loads of luck for a happy, healthy pregnancy!

keeponjuggling · 25/04/2015 18:55

Amazing news mumtosammy! You must be floating on air right now. Wishing you a very happy and healthy 9 months. Lovely to hear such good news

keeponjuggling · 25/04/2015 18:58

Good luck Sheddie, the injections really aren't as bad as I thought they'd be. Although I'm on prontogest now and my backside is starting to ache...

This 2 ww is testing me to the limit. I'm really having to be strict with myself and resist the stash of tests in my drawer. Old habits die hard! But it feels different on an ivf cycle, like I might jinx it or something, ridiculous I know.

Laptop how far through the 2 ww are you?

Sheddie · 25/04/2015 19:10

I'm glad to hear the injections are not too bad juggling. I haven't got Prontogest - they have given me pessaries instead. Never thought I would be glad to have to use pessaries twice a day!
I bet it has been a really difficult 2WW. How much longer have you got to go? Do you have many side effects / symptoms?

Laptopgirl · 25/04/2015 21:30

I'm so pleased for your mumtosammy - what symptoms have been having?

I'm half way thorough my 2ww and it's 'killing' me this time. It's my 3rd cycle of clomid. I was exceptionally hormonal at the beginning and now I'm trying to resist googling each symptom I'm having.

How are you doing running? When's test day for you?