Hiya ladies .. interesting reading about the success rates. How do they rate a 'success' - is it to seeing a heartbeat, getting to second trimester, a live birth, or what? I guess you also need to check that all the clinics listed are reporting the same way of rating?
Why does this whole process have to be so flippin' expensive? It seems grossly unfair that you are already being punished because of problems having a baby in the first place, and then on top of that you have to be able to find £££ for sometimes several cycles of trying. Crazy world.
brown How are you feeling now?
Thanks for asking pebbles, I'm really trying very hard not to think about it. I had a phone conversation with Penny Friday night that helped a lot (I now have her home phone number and an exhortation from her to call her any evening at all if I feel I want to chat!). She said she won't ever give up on a pregnancy that has any kind of growth since the time some years ago when there was a lady in almost exactly the same situation as I am - DQa match and all, slow rising hCG, slow growth, got to the same sort of point as me and was told to stop all meds as she wasn't showing far along enough for her dates and no visible foetus. So the lady stopped all meds, had a bleed that all assumed was her AF, she was prepped for a FET, went in for the transfer and on doing the initial lining scan check Penny found a fully active baby! Even without the meds support, the baby had grown against all the odds. So ever since then Penny says she will not stop supporting a pregnancy until it is absolutely certain there is no chance of further growth.
Now I'm not saying that will necessarily happen to me (although I pray it may do!) but I do take her point. So, on with the meds for now, I'm back on full immune support and clexane, and we wait and see what we see (if anything) at the scan on Friday. I'm trying very hard not to hope, but I know of course I will be gutted if there's no further growth on Friday. Trying not to think too much about it, to be honest.
/waves to everyone, hope you're all doing ok!