Hut of Gl/Doom, lost count of the number coz its been so long - optimists need not apply!

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Couldn't find the hut but in dire need of a hideout away from all those "its been 2 months" and "am I pregnant" threads.

For those of us who've been burnt by ttc, can't get pregnant, can't stay pregnant or are sick of hearing the "just relax" refrain.

Leave your hope at the door and grab a gin, we are back in the speakeasy with meths on tap!

hey y'all. what a mixed blessing is this hut. lovely to sit in but not somewhere one would choose to qualify for membership.

Lissie, so sorry. I was thinking about you the other day, hadn't seen your news. Can't you get another consultant? different gp? go private? It is so infuriating and cruel that this keeps happening to you. Have you had genetic testing - sorry I haven't managed to follow your rollercoster more closely.

Queenrollo I had just the same trouble getting HSG, 6 cycles no apt. And didn't get it in the end as dh's sperm came back as the problem.

It is seven years exactly since I got bfp with ds. So a whole fucking decade of trying to get pg. One very lovely little boy to show for it but what a slog. I've started to tell people I can't have any more. But ov due any day now and still I hope this'll be the lucky eggy.

fx for a 3rd anniversary bfp, twould be a brilliant present
Welcome to the group fishie, sorry you have to be here.

hi fishie [waves enthusiatically]. 10 years of trying is mammoth, hats off to you....
I think Lissie has basically explored all possible avenues. Her location means there's no alternative consultant and private isn't an option.
well I feel ruddy awful. Things still up in the air at work. I'm very grumpy and can only suspect it's pms :( Not even any phantom pregnancy signs. Boobs are not sore even.
Even of my self-indulgent pity. How is everyone else?

Hello, I'm back. Licked my wounds and cried. A lot. Sorry I've neglected you all. Welcome to newcomers, sorry you are here. Will catch up in a bit!

Welcome back Lissie. You have nothing to apologise for, you take all the time you need.

Thank you, just needed a week or so to feel sorry for myself.

How are you doing my lovely?

Of course you did honey.
I am stressed out tbh. Long story (cut as short as poss!)....I am seconded from a staff nurse job to sister for a year with special funding to see if it worked. There are three of us, one with a permanent job, two with the special funding. Our funding ends 20th September. The colleague with the permanent job has been funded to do her Msc so they have agreed to back fill her post. However it's six weeks later, the form has been lost and found. Every time I see my boss it's a different story. So basically it's still not advertised. Both of us want the job, my one colleague wants it cos she doesn't want to go back to her old job. I want it because I love to job and I have no job to go back to (they closed my old ward during my secondment). I have a job on a new ward but that doesn't open til December so I could be all over the shop, doing random shifts in the mean time. I just want to know what I'm doing!! Did a test this morning (bfn) expecting af any day (am cd25 of a 24-29 day cycle). Being upduffed would be awful timing cos how could I apply for a year job if I knew I was upduffed? Yet somehow I'm still disappointed....
So I will be proactive and clean the car out, always cathartic and continue to wait!

Oh sweetheart sounds v stressful indeed.

Oh sweetheart sounds v stressful indeed.

Hi Ladies, can I join?
I've been mostly hanging round the charter's anonymous thread, but it seems to have died a bit as everyone seems to have graduated.

Lissie so sorry to read the awful time youve been having :(

Bit about me:
DH & I have been TTC#1 since June 2007. In Dec 2009 we took ourselves to the docs and I had day21 bloods & thyroid done, and DH had his SA - all fine.

We were then referred to a fertility specialist in Feb10, who reccomended further tests and then possible referral for IVF. However, the day after our apt with him I found I was PG :), but lasted all of one week!

6 months later, went back to see the doc who simply reeled of the stats, you're likely to get pg within a year, blah, blah, blah, I don't expect to see you again blah, blah. :(

Anyhoo, got PG again in October10, had a very boring alcohol free, cheese free, fun free Xmas & New year, then started bleeding at 11 weeks. Was sent for a scan and only found an empty sac.

So over 4 years later, still no DCs. I have been back to see my GP this morning, who was fairly positive about referring us for tests again, but he needs to speak to the fertilty specialist. I'm worried that I will need to make an apt with him and he'll just start reeling off the stats again. But at least I'm trying to do something about it.

I'm currently on CD8 so necking the grapefruit juice as SWI commences tonight

Hi, welcome to the hut. Sounds like you've had a crap time. Whereabouts are you? I am also cursed with a disinterested consultant.

I'm in Northumberland - this "specialist" is simply another GP in a neighbouring practice who works at the Centre for Life in Newcastle too. My GP was um-ing and ah-ing about whether to send us straight to the CFL, but decided to run it past the "specialist" on Monday instead.

Oh god, how ridiculous! How old are you? 4 years is a long time with only basic bloods.

I'm 32. If it wasnt for that pregnancy in March last year, we'd be well on our way. He suggested at the time that we'd be going for our first round of IVF by last Xmas!

Howdy if welcome to the hut. Sorry you have to be here but I think you'll find it a tonic.
Well the car is beautiful inside now. DH has laughed at me cos he caught sight of me cleaning with a smile on my face. I am my mother's daughter!

hello all. i'm taking a back seat this month but just popping in to let you know that i'm still reading to keep up with your news.

life has been stressful this week thanks to ex being annoying, i can't seem to get away from stress and of course that doesn't help

hey queen, that's the nice thing about the hut, you can take a back seat...no questions asked :)
I have been super mardy and obsessively flying round the house to tidy. That and bad lower back pain + very light (like only when I check for it) brown spotting makes me suspect af will be here tomorrow or maybe Tuesday at a push. Just in time for our anniversay

Afternoon all, how is everyone? Have you seen the sparkly new infertility board? Was thinking of asking to move the hut over so I can hide conception threads (I am not coping well at the mo) whaddya think?

Another pregnancy announced, and my ribs have been so bad that dh and I can't ttc this month.

Afternoon all, how is everyone? Have you seen the sparkly new infertility board? Was thinking of asking to move the hut over so I can hide conception threads (I am not coping well at the mo) whaddya think?

Another pregnancy announced, and my ribs have been so bad that dh and I can't ttc this month.

Hi all. I am kind of gatecrashing. I am an occasional visitor to this thread but mostly try to stay upbeat and not think about the doom and gloom of long term ttc. It's just my way of dealing with it.

But I am posting to say to lissie, I saw your ref to immunology up the thread and I have been convinced from before my first blood test that this is our issue too. I have a gut feeling that about 75% of months we have tried, sperm has met egg but it hasn't stuck. And now having had all the tests, I think we are just about to get our "unexplained" diagnosis. My blood tests, ultrasound and HSG were all ok and my husband's SA was fine. So we will be left with the immunology stuff. I've just finished reading this over the weekend and for me it just adds up to an immunology problem:
www.amazon.co.uk/Your-Body-Baby-Friendly-Unexplained-Infertility/dp/0978507800/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1315240095&sr=1-1
Sorry if you are well aware of this. Obviously I haven't read every single one of your posts but I have seen what you are going through and it must be absolutely heartbreaking.

Incidentally my mum had a history fairly typical of immunology problems with the time to mc shortening - a year to conceive me and then two mcs around 8-9 weeks and one at about 7 weeks (where the D&C went wrong and she was told not to try any more). I am convinced we both have the same issues (we both have Raynaud's which is a flag for immunology fertility problems). I am just waiting for my next consultant appointment and will then try to book to see a reproductive immunologist (privately because the NHS doesn't seem to get this stuff).

Hi eurochick, its frustrating isn't it? I know deep down that this is the problem. I know that all the symptoms are there. But my consultant doesn't believe in the
legitimacy of the theory. Have you had a hysteroscopy?

Its lissie btw

I concur with a suggested move to infertility. I will be investigating.
Oh I am crampy today. Still just spotting so expect af tomorrow. I told someone at the gym I had a virus that make my temp fluctuate and was nauseous. She was like 'Are you sure?'. Cannot express how emphatically I said 'NO!'.

Ps howdy 'euro'

Faith, could you report the thread and request please? Sorry that your period is messing you around. Its shit, isn't it? Still, am in awe of gym-going!

Faith, could you report the thread and request please? Sorry that your period is messing you around. Its shit, isn't it? Still, am in awe of gym-going!