Hut of Gl/Doom, lost count of the number coz its been so long - optimists need not apply!

[OracleInaCoracle]

Couldn't find the hut but in dire need of a hideout away from all those "its been 2 months" and "am I pregnant" threads.

For those of us who've been burnt by ttc, can't get pregnant, can't stay pregnant or are sick of hearing the "just relax" refrain.

Leave your hope at the door and grab a gin, we are back in the speakeasy with meths on tap!

Hi Ladies, would you mind if i join, as been on a few threads, mainly seeking the golden egg after mc, but jumped off recently as neally everyone is now pregnant on the apart from little old me and maybe one other and it was starting to really get me down,also been on a couple of threads along the way where i just didnt stick, so you may recognise the name, previously pecka33.
Anyway, im 33 married for a year, been with dh for 17 years his 35, 36 this year.... been trying to conceive for around 2 years now.
Did get pg last year but had an mmc at 13ish weeks so back to it again, so have been actively now trying for 11 months. have had my first lot of bloods done, which came back as i was ovulating, now waiting on a pelvic scan and dh swimmers to be checked.
started using the cbfm last month for the first time, as have tried evereything bar that.... so currently on day 25 of a normal 30,29,28 day cycle????
look forward to speakng to you all along the way.

Welcome mrsb, you will find the hut to your liking I think! The rule is, no pollyannaism I think I've seen your name about.

Hi Mrsb, you're very welcome :)
Another pregnancy announced at work :( but then someone told me she had an mc a while back so then I felt bad for resenting her for ten minutes. You'd never know she was please to be upduffed though, she always looks mardy!!

BTW af is here in full force. Well full agonising cramps, nausea and vomiting. Af is surprisingly light .

Havealittle, sorry. If period isn't here properly tomorrow, do a test please. Just to be safe.

Havealittle, sorry. If period isn't here properly tomorrow, do a test please. Just to be safe.

Af got heavier overnight, bfn this morning. Pain has eased though so reckon I'll be better today. Cheers lissielou.

Ah bummer. I'm sorry.

Here: CD23, and if I'm pregnant it'll be a bloody miracle. Boobs however are EPIC although dh can't even look at them, they're too sore. I still feel sick though, which the normal part of me knows is my migraine.

Had a row over the last couple of days on fb with my dbs sil and her h. He made some racist comments, I challenged them. Got called a mong and a retard (nice) so I called him a racist cunt and he said I should have benn in one of the burning buildings and blocked me. I started a jokey status about it and on she piled all guns blazing, luckily I have lots of lovely mn friends who backed me up. So, I pmed her yesterday am asking if we could forget it and she had ANOTHER go at me. So I'm a bit upset about that for my dbs sake.

They sound like lovely people Lissie, so this is your brothers wife's brother? And his wife?

Can I return to the hut please? We've been trying for 4 years for our first. Periods of infertility interspersed with miscarriages. Tomorrow I'm due an op to correct a problem with my womb that could be causing the mcs, all other rmc tests came back normal. I'm 39.

Except that I've got a fucking cold and yes I know I should ring and cancel and 'let someone else have the appointment' but dammit I've been on drugs to suppress my hormones and thin the lining of my womb for six weeks so it's not just easy to reschedule. It's already been over a year since my last mc and we haven't been able to ttc all that time.

So I'm just going to lie and say it's hay fever and hope when the anaesthetist listens to my chest it's ok.

its my sil's sister and her husband. I'm so cross, there are a zillion things I want to say but I am trying to be the bigger person. Shame about your cold, totally understand. What is the problem/op? Hopefully it will be fine.

its my sil's sister and her husband. I'm so cross, there are a zillion things I want to say but I am trying to be the bigger person. Shame about your cold, totally understand. What is the problem/op? Hopefully it will be fine.

Being the bigger person is the right thing in the long term. Can't believe the names he called you.

My womb was diagnosed bicornate about 3 years ago, hysteroscopy at the rmc changed that diagnosis to a septum, so they can treat it by removing the septum. Still not entirely certain the diagnosis is correct but they'll make sure before/during the op with scans and a look at the outside of womb through belly button incision (can't remember the name of that offhand).

Consultant is great, very lucky to have him as he's an expert in hysteroscopic procedures. Was initially pissed off at being referred to Royal Free rmc as it isn't well known but it's worked out better really as it means I get treated by this consultant.

It's just such a fucking slog isn't it? Draining, because it means fighting and getting tearful or angry just to get to actually talk to someone who can help. All of us sitting here years down the line, so unfair.

Thanks, I'm cross but sounds like you are getting somewhere though, what time do you go it? Hopefully its somethng they can rectify quickly. It does make me sad that we are all still here, so many years later. Its supposed to be natural ffs!

i got my appt through for the ultrasound next week. It's at 9am and i have to not wee for an hour and a half before, but to drink plenty of fluids. So i'll have to get up early won't i because there's no way I can hold my first morning wee all that time and besides that would lead to a UTI.
I know i desperately want to get these tests done but i'm still grumpy about it.

Life seems so hard at the moment. It's just one thing after another going wrong and I feel like i'm at breaking point. Going to a festival for the weekend and just really, really can't be arsed. I just want to have a lazy weekend in front of the telly...
Tired today and just want to rest but have a million and one things to do to get ready...

Hi, may I join you? I have only been trying a year, which seems like nothing compared to some of you, so I don't know if I qualify? Been to the doctors recently and it seems I may or may not be ovulating (Havealittlefaithbaby thanks for your reply clarifying re the blood results.)

Feeling particularly pissed off today, should be shagging frantically this week, came back from a lovely holiday all ready to go and convinced this would be my month, for once neither DH or I were meant to be on nights at the crucial time. Firstly went to the doctors for results and got told my progesterone was a bit on the low side, then DH got sent to London due to the bloody riots. Just spoken to him on the phone and rumours are now he'll be there til Sunday so that will be another month gone. I know I am being hideously selfish and there are far more important things going on than TTC, but it just feels like fate is against me at the moment. Can I have a swig or two of that gin please, then I promise to stop being such a misery and get a grip!

Queenrollo, that's all pants. Just a word of advice, take a sanitary towel with you and write off the next couple of days. Make sure they give you the results then too.

Notinmykitchen, welcome. The hut is THE place to gripe and feel miserable. Sorry about dh being away, that sucks!

Queenrollo, that's all pants. Just a word of advice, take a sanitary towel with you and write off the next couple of days. Make sure they give you the results then too.

Notinmykitchen, welcome. The hut is THE place to gripe and feel miserable. Sorry about dh being away, that sucks!

Claire, how'd you get on?

Claire, how'd you get on?

Welcome not! I reckon you fit in. It's not that we're unwelcoming, it's just those 'well we're not really trying but we're using withdrawal method and I think I ovulated ten minutes ago so I poas and it was negative I think but when I pull it apart and turn it upside down I think it could be a dot. Am I pregnant?" people that wouldn't fit in.
Anyway this is for people who understands the true agony of ttc. Ridiculous amounts of shagging, temping, having cameras stuck up your fanjo types.
Sorry to hear about the crappy timing not. Feel for you.
How are you today queen?

Hi all hope u don't mind me joining been ttc over a year now, had another appointment last week to find out my consultant died!!! Wtf so it like starting again although they have all my notes at the hospital u had to go through everything I have had done over the past year! (do they not know how to read).
They had not received my results from tubes testing so had to chase that up and will get them for next appointment! At the end of the appointment decided to have a flick through my notes and say "oh actually it doesn't look like your ovulating infact no your not" also problem with my uterus and pcos!!!!
And to top it all off another friend announces her happy news, that's 7 and counting
And the second of my team members from work gave birth on tuesday, oh joys.
Pass the vodka please
Sorry rant over

Havealittle, perfectly put. There is a big difference between impatient/frustrated and hopeless.

Jesamiah, welcome. How frustrating! Are you having any treatment atm?

As for me, cd20 out of a 24d cycle on recent trends and 9dpo. And I am imagining all the symptoms. I DO feel sick, but ive had a migraine all wee. And I know I'm not imagining my boobs. They are agony and bloody enormous. Yet, we only had sex once around ov and I've fallen into this trap too often, 6y is a long time to have to go through this, and I hate myself for not being wised up yet!

No treatment yet got to wait to see new consultant on the 1st ?

havealittle i'm grumpy as hell. going to trade DH in for a large bottle of gin.

I'm finding life very difficult at the moment for all sorts of reasons and he is quite frankly being rubbish.

i just want to sit and cry and instead i have to be nice and get on with it because we're off on holiday today.

fortunately in separate tents!

Hello all,

I've been on before but not for a wee while (bout a year or so) as had to distance myself from the ttc madness.

It's been 5yrs, 4mc, 3 rounds of Clomid and 3 rounds of iui and still we're no closer to the prize.

Am awaiting confirmation from the hospital for the start of an ivf cycle but they're a bit (a lot) lax with keeping us up to date with what's going on. I've rung them 3 tines since our last appt (December 2010) and the last time I rang I was told "don't call us, we'll call you". Had originally been told we'd start ivf in august so it's not like I'm just hassling them, would just like to know what's going on!!

Off to a wedding today where there will be babies and pregnant people galore. Thought I was offer the envy thing but it always seems to kick me in the gut when I least expect it.

Anyway, needed a bit of hut love before the wedding hence why I'm here but best go get ready (have put on loads of weight since all the ttc treatment so can't even console myself that I am the fabulous 'living the life' childless friend).

Sorry for me me me. Sad to see some familiar faces still here.