Hut of Gl/Doom, lost count of the number coz its been so long - optimists need not apply!

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Couldn't find the hut but in dire need of a hideout away from all those "its been 2 months" and "am I pregnant" threads.

For those of us who've been burnt by ttc, can't get pregnant, can't stay pregnant or are sick of hearing the "just relax" refrain.

Leave your hope at the door and grab a gin, we are back in the speakeasy with meths on tap!

Lissie

So sorry to hear this.

I'm in so much pain.

lissie - i don't know what to say. never seem to be any 'right' words in a situation like this.

was going to come on and have a grumble but your news puts my hormonal grumpiness into persepctive.

oh lissie....

So sorry lissie :(

So sorry to hear this lissie, wish there was something better to say.

Thanks all. Its really ok. I'm used to it now, and I had a feeling yesterday that something was up.

I'm just in a lot of pain.

Oh Lissie :(

so sorry to hear your sad news Lissie, sending much and

hope the pain is easing a bit now

are you on your own?

Lissie, I hope that the pain is getting less now, but I am worried about you. Do go to the doctor if the pain does not ease soon. It is horrible to be so familiar with the routine of it all.

I agree, GP or hospital to get the pain relief you need if over the counter aren't sufficient. Don't suffer in silence.

Dh has been great, I've had a cry and a rant. Just waiting for the bleeding to get heavier. Taking my rib meds to help with the pain. Feel a bit numb now. I know I sound heartless, but I'm too used to the score now. And the good news is, I get to take a hpt and pray for bfn!

Thank you all though x

I'm glad your hubby is so good honey.

Lissie, so sorry to hear what has happened, its not OK, its shit and unfair. Look after yourself!

I'm glad you have a DH who's there for you. And it isn't heartless, it just highlights how monstrous life can be - getting used to it is not something you or anyone should ever have to go through. Sending your way, take care of yourself.

How are you feeling Lissie? How's the pain?

Hello, I would like to join you fellow doom and gloomers for a rant and wail. I have posted on the miscarriage boards before but mostly lurked as it all got a bit much for me and I didn't feel I was coping with moving on like others were, cue more self loathing and upset. A bit about me: have been ttc for 18 months and have had 2 miscarriages in that time, took 11 months first time round then got preg straight after first mc but had a second mmc. Now been (only) 4 months since second mc but feeling already totally despondent and well let sown by my body and a but if a failure. Feeling particularly low as first due date is rapidly approaching and sil and close friend both due in next few weeks (both effortlessly conceived in like one second flat). Best friend just announced honeymoon baby preg last night. Obviously delighted but bloody hell this failure to ttc ourselves throws up some weird and disturbing emotions (which I am hating in myself). Aaaah yes there's also the fact that I fear my new(ish) marriage (18months) is really crumbling under the strain. Aaargh, rant over and enough about me. Look forward to meeting you all.

And lissie I am sorry about your mc and disappointment this week. I have read some of your posts on other threads and I know you have had a hard time. Sounds like you are being very strong.

i did a stupid thing and POAS. AF not due for two days but my boobs are HUGE and rock hard and hurt a lot. It's my birthday, i'm on my own and having a glum day and of course staring at a BFN did not help.

I'm beginning to think that I'm just not meant to have another baby. That my life now is what I have to get used to.
I feel almost like I should accept this, get some counselling to help me deal with it and then move on.
I can't keep going through this every sodding month it's really starting to affect my mental state, and even my sex life and we've only been together 4 years. I don't want my marriage to disappear under the strain of TTC.
I love my DS so much, but I want a child with DH too - I want my DS to have a sibling.
I'm going to go to bed and cry.
This is all just so hard.

Oh queen, big squeeze. Happy birthday! Sorry it's been a bfn birthday :(
Really is a good job we've got the hut to hide in.

Happy birthday queen. So sorry it's a sad one for you but sending you an extra large

Happy birthday Queen, really sorry to hear about the bfn though, that totally sucks. it really is hard isn't it. Hope tomorrow is a better day.

Glad to dh is being good to you Lissie, how are you doing today?

Sorry to hear you feeling so despondant Jemima and that your due date is coming up. Always tough hearing of others getting pregnant - I hate the feelings of jealousy it creates, just seems to pile on the guilt which makes it even worse. Try and make time for your marriage away from all the ttc business. I know it's difficult, dh and I have been married for 7yrs, ttc for 5 and it is a strain. Big

How are you feeling Faith?

I'm busy compiling all the facts from my 'care' by the NHS. It's seemed like a constant uphill battle - we're still waiting to hear whether we're on the list for IVF and our appt was last December. Will be contacting PALS tomorrow to see what steps we can make to putting in a formal complaint. But this just makes me feel even more disheartened. Trying to have a baby shouldn't involve all this stress!! I just wish it wasn't all such a struggle!

fuck fuck fuck.

sorry for the language but
AF arrived today. Just phoned x-ray to book my HSG. Guess what. Even though my first appt was on 16th June and I spoke to the consultant's secretary a couple of weeks ago no-one has filled in the sodding request form. I can't be given an appt by radiology without it.

The sec and the consultant are on holiday until the 5th Sept. I'm now not going to get my HSG until my next period.

I'm sobbing here. How effing hard is it for them to do their job? It's another month not knowing if there is a reason my stupid body isn't working.

Sorry queen, that's totally shite. Sodding hospital. Hope you are ok.