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Hut of Gl/Doom, lost count of the number coz its been so long - optimists need not apply!

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OracleInaCoracle · 07/08/2011 10:51

Couldn't find the hut but in dire need of a hideout away from all those "its been 2 months" and "am I pregnant" threads.

For those of us who've been burnt by ttc, can't get pregnant, can't stay pregnant or are sick of hearing the "just relax" refrain.

Leave your hope at the door and grab a gin, we are back in the speakeasy with meths on tap!

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queenrollo · 08/09/2011 20:39

discussed it with DH and we're going to but after we've finished being dealt with by him.

a friend who worked for the NHS recently also gave us the title of someone else we should write to about it. champion or guardian something? basically a consultant in the hospital who is responsible for keeping the other cons in line. he has it all written down somewhere.

havealittlefaithbaby · 08/09/2011 21:38

That is a sensible plan.

havealittlefaithbaby · 10/09/2011 14:50

Oof just been to dnephew's birthday party (he's 2). Was only person there who didn't have kids Confused it was not easy. Now revelling in the not having any kids by lazing in bed for a bit. DH gas said we need to enjoy the things we'll miss when we do have kids. Party tonight so I will be consuming cider and letting my hair down!

OracleInaCoracle · 10/09/2011 15:26

Queen, I agree with faith.

Faith, that's pooey. Must have been tough. But have a great time tonight, anything special?

Got an appointment with toadie at the beginning of october. Am simultaneously looking forward to and dreading it. I need a re-refarral, but I also want another shot at clomid, see if it helps again.

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havealittlefaithbaby · 10/09/2011 15:40

It's a friends anniversary party. Should be nice.
So have you been referred back to the consulant who discharged you?

OracleInaCoracle · 10/09/2011 15:48

That sounds lovely!

Yes, in the hope that he will give up and refer me elsewhere. Pref, mr shehata's clinic.

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ducksinarow · 10/09/2011 18:56

I luuuve having a safe place to come to in our shiney new thread. It is just what I need. Thank you MNHQ.

I am not really trying, but not being ultra careful either. But my cycles are messed up from the last m/c, but appointment to see cons has been moved back another month. But by then we might just have had initial training for fostering and I hope we should know then whether it is really what we want to do (as it will require me giving up my present part-time job). Sorry, waffling here!

I hope that our new board thread brings us all the solace we need.

IfAtFirstUDontSucceed · 11/09/2011 13:27

Faith that's pants, hope the party cheered you up a little.

We had pregnancy announcement at work the other day, which started up a huge conversation between everyone about babies and when the best time to have them is. Cue me desperatley trying to avoid any questions being directed at me and then making a sharp exit :(

havealittlefaithbaby · 11/09/2011 15:24

Ah not to be the harbinger of doom but my ibs was not good and DH started with man flu so we left about 9. Caught up with x factor though :)
Today is much nicer, been to church this morning (I played keyboard), got some food and lemsip for the dying duck DH, now doing nice pottery jobs round the house and generally chilling out. Lush.

OracleInaCoracle · 13/09/2011 14:04

I am taking a break from mn guys, had enough of mnhq's deletion policies and over-moderation.

I wish you all the very best, and you'd better not still be here when I get back xxx

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OracleInaCoracle · 13/09/2011 14:04

I am taking a break from mn guys, had enough of mnhq's deletion policies and over-moderation.

I wish you all the very best, and you'd better not still be here when I get back xxx

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havealittlefaithbaby · 13/09/2011 17:54

Take care Lissie.

queenrollo · 14/09/2011 18:27

sorry to hear that Lissie, but i've been in similar situation with forums in the past so i do understand.

Well by my counting, AF due a week on Friday so then i'll have to run the gauntlet of radiology appts. Happy joy eh?

I'm feeling generally low at the moment, not just about TTC and nothing in particular in other aspects of life. Just having a 'batten down the hatches' phase. Can't be bothered with housework, or my beloved garden. Just want to curl up on the sofa with some crochet and a soppy film and a bar of chocolate the size of Russia.....

IfAtFirstUDontSucceed · 14/09/2011 18:31

Sorry to see you go Lissie - hope you visit us again soon!

HaveALittleFaithBaybee · 14/09/2011 18:41

queen things have been so tough for you lately. I would listen to your body. Plenty of nice warm baths and early nights til the phase passes. I'm in a similar place. So stressed waiting to.hear about my job. Hopefully I'll know in a fortnight....

HaveALittleFaithBaybee · 15/09/2011 16:51

Oh great. Someone at work today someone I've worked with for a while but am by no means close to said 'When are you going to start then?!', you know, in that almost accusing way?!
Here's a shut the fudge up good response.'DH has health problems and we can't until they are resolved'. She was Biscuit after that Grin

OracleInaCoracle · 15/09/2011 18:54

Well, that was a short flounce! Mnhq have apologised and just as well, I'm going to need the hut. Our appt at the clinic, beginning of the month? With toadie. I've also noticed vvv bad d&v from cd21, and awful, awful thrush. What's the betting he poo poos it though.

Faith, how crap.

Queen, you've got so much on your plate, no wonder you feel out of sorts!

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OracleInaCoracle · 15/09/2011 18:54

Well, that was a short flounce! Mnhq have apologised and just as well, I'm going to need the hut. Our appt at the clinic, beginning of the month? With toadie. I've also noticed vvv bad d&v from cd21, and awful, awful thrush. What's the betting he poo poos it though.

Faith, how crap.

Queen, you've got so much on your plate, no wonder you feel out of sorts!

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HaveALittleFaithBaybee · 15/09/2011 19:52

Welcome back Lissie!

HaveALittleFaithBaybee · 15/09/2011 20:08

Ps thanks for the hair stroke. I'm currently wallowing in self pity. My stomach is still awful and I'm pretty convinced I'm fertile. No baby making this month :( even though it probably wouldn't happen until DH's prolactin gets sorted and we weren't really trying

PicknMix · 15/09/2011 20:14

Yay! I missed the Lissie flounce and you're back already! Appt isnt too far away, have really REALLY high hopes for this time. I cannot believe the treatment you've had so far and you deserve to have someone take you seriously.

Can't believe they're making you wait two weeks to find out about work Faith, that sucks. The whole situation sounds stressful and a very unfair. Is this the NHS? Is yes, it doesn't surprise me. My mum has worked for NHS for years and they're pulling stunts like this in her department. Her boss was told, indirectly, through an email (I.e she had to read between the lines as was a round Robin type email) that her job was obsolete and she would have to reapply. Is a mess!! Grr at person at work today. Good response though. I guess people who haven't gone through ishoos don't really think before they open their mouth.

Queen it sounds like you need some time out for yourself. You sound really down, good to wallow sometimes but hope the feeling of despondency goes soon. deffo go down the PALS route, something sounds decidedly fishy there. Agree that waiting until after is a good plan though (but equally hate that you're having to play the system - it shouldn't have to be like that).

Hi to Duck, is definitely a great place to hide out here! I have a friend who fosters. She finds it incredibly tough but very rewarding. She's an emergency fosterer so gets calls in the middle of the night to take on children in a bad situation. The hoops she had to jump through to be approved took a long time. Has it been a long process for you too?

I've had a ridiculous week at work, not finishing much before 8/9pm (I start at 8am) so am mega tired. My dad is in the country at the mo (he lives in Oz) and staying with us at the weekends which is proving stressful too. Added to this I have just started spotting on cd24 (my cycles are usually 35+days). This happened last month as well. I think my body has finally given up on me. Any ideas on why the early spotting is happening?

I also rang the hospital last Friday to try and get an update, was told someone would ring me back early this week. Needless to say no one has bothered. It's just so incredibly frustrasting.

Had another friend announce on fb her pregnancy - twins. Feel awful as I know she's suffered a few miscarriages and yet STILL I'm jealous. How horrible am I?!

Best go Hoover/wash up etc in prep for dad arriving again tomorrow....

PicknMix · 15/09/2011 20:37

Oops, sorry Lissie, the 'yay' was in ref to your return, not to you leaving... Sounded wrong the way I wrote it, sorry!

IfAtFirstUDontSucceed · 15/09/2011 21:11

Welcome back Lissie :)

Faith why the (subtle) name change?

HaveALittleFaithBaybee · 15/09/2011 21:14

Partly cos of the BESH then almost posted about someone from RL so she couldn't search for me....but then didn't.

queenrollo · 15/09/2011 22:37

got ds today, a day early because of family stuff going on with his dad. and i am rubbish. was supposed to take him to club. completely forgot.......it's just out of my usual routine with him so it totally slipped my mind.
I have been very, very forgetful lately though. never used to be like this.
Probably for the best given that he has been a cranky little so and so this afternoon and was asleep really early. I think we'd have had meltdown if we did go.....

you know how i was stepping back from TTC. well even though there was none of this SWI malarkey going on this month i still can't help having that glimmer of hope for a BFP next week instead of having to make an appt for the HSG. We have been having fun of course, but i paid no attention to cycle days, or fertile times. But really, i'm just not going to be that lucky am i? have to be realistic.

nice to see you still here Lissie.