OMG, has anybody read this about the adopted boy sent back?

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Just saw www.dailymail.co.uk/news/worldnews/article-1264744/American-sends-adopted-Russian-boy-behavioural-pr oblems.html this on the news, how can anyone be so callous?

In tears now, as we have an adoption from India going through and dreading what its going to mean for us. Horrible woman!

Nursie, I also wonder about the practice of changing a child's name, especially a child who is not a baby, and the effect this has on the child.

its fairly uncommon in the UK but I gather more common in teh US.

Yes, I think most children adopted from outside the US get their names changed. The three Russian children that I know who didn't sprang to mind because they are rarities.

There is a Q&A from the agency involved in this case, and they say that they do do post adoption visits (up to three years after the adoption). Also that the family hadn't contacted them for help (they heard from their Russian representative that he was in Moscow), and that they would have offered assistance and potentially found a new home (this could of course be covering your ass type blurb).

They also said that the child's background was known before adoption, so the adoptive mother woudl have known he had had a disturbed childhood and about the alcoholic mother (and as a nurse she should have been perfectly able to find out about the effects of neglect and alcohol), oh and that they recommend that the child's medical records are taken by the family to a specialist doctor for review. So she must have known that he wasn't going to be untroubled. Oh and he was a US citizen, so would have been eligible for help from Welfare services (although granted there might not have been much help on offer) apparently she had had one visit from a social worker.

I wonder what the investigation will show.

I want to know what the agency home study showed about this family, with their fenced compound and their apparent unwillingness to have their children attend school, and their knack for finding a lawyer at breakneck speed and inability to find help for the boy they were responsible for.

'they say that they do do post adoption visits (up to three years after the adoption).' -Nooka - they have do under Russian law to provide post placement reports if they don;t, they get their licence revoked in Russia. However I knwo (from experience) that a visit for a post placement report is generally only an hour and its not so difficult to cover up any problmes excpet massively obvious ones.

I know, it just seems a bit crazy if you are really struggling not to say anything. I guess if the visit is by SS rather than the agency (and they do seem to contract out a lot) then it may not feel very supportive. I also feel sorry for all the families in the process of adopting from Russia at the moment, but if it means that the US does improve adoption processes that would be good.