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Girl, 2, drowned in her buggy after father let go to kiss mistress

557 replies

mrshamiltiongiles · 18/02/2009 22:14

here

what a bastard

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jellybeans · 19/02/2009 09:46

Terribly sad. I agree with the ppl who said he was sick to meet his mistress and she was sick also. Still, he has paid a huge price and she will be hounded too.

eandz · 19/02/2009 09:50

aren't the wrist straps put on the pram/buggy for this very reason?

GrapefruitMoon · 19/02/2009 09:51

I can't find it now, but after the accident I'm pretty sure there was a statement from the coastguard saying it was not a suitable place to have gone for a walk with a buggy due to the rough terrain, etc...

nailpolish · 19/02/2009 09:54

maybe the man was having an affair becuase his wife treats him like shit, he is terribly sad - the mistress is his one true love who gives him all the support he doesnt get at home, she is wonderful with his children,they were planning on getting married etc etc

its not always about his dick

im am srue that isnt the case but YOU CANT MAKE ASSUMPTIONS

dont always assume the wife is sitting at home being perfect

morningpaper · 19/02/2009 09:56

this is a tragic accident and nothing more

He did not drive them into a lake

Save your fury for people who deserve it

Lizzylou · 19/02/2009 09:57

It is an awful tragedy, massive error of judgement and heartbreaking for all concerned.
I think it was admirable how the Father and Mistress instantly admitted the truth behind the accident, they could have tried to cover it up.
Not saying they weren't without fault, but the accident could have happened anyway.

GrapefruitMoon · 19/02/2009 09:58

"one true love"?

pramspotter · 19/02/2009 09:59

Even if his wife treats him like shit it is no reason to have an affair. It may be a reason to get divorced as well as avoid further relationships for a long time so that the kids can settle in.

I would never believe any of this shit about the mistress being the one true love etc.

If my husband had a stroke tomorrow and turned into a demented incontinant person who required 24 hour nursing care I still wouldn't fall in love with or fancy anyone else. I wouldn't even consider another relationship until my youngest was at least 18.

There are some things that are more important than love and sex. Family is one of those things.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 19/02/2009 10:04

It is just very tragic all round, even if the man was having an affair he didn't deserve that to happen, and his poor wife, if she didn't know about it, will be hurting so much as the one person she will want to turn to just now has betrayed her

nailpolish · 19/02/2009 10:04

surely HAPPY family is important

i think i shall hide this horrible thread. i cant read any mor of your posts

nickytwotimes · 19/02/2009 10:09

Very sad story.

I agree it is entirely an accident.

The rights and wrongs of his affair are irrelevant.

I feel so sorry for all of them. What a weight to carry for the rest of your life.

Nabster · 19/02/2009 10:09

Have heard about this story.

Have only read the thread title and I think it is disgusting to post it in such a way.

Whatever he may have done his child is now dead.

wannaBe · 19/02/2009 10:18

"If my husband had a stroke tomorrow and turned into a demented incontinant person who required 24 hour nursing care I still wouldn't fall in love with
or fancy anyone else. I wouldn't even consider another relationship until my youngest was at least 18." so pramspotter do you think that couples who separate should not have other relationships even if they are no longer together as a couple? For the sake of the children?

FioFio · 19/02/2009 10:21

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TheyCallMePeachy · 19/02/2009 10:24

Oh no thats so sad

I think the results vastly outweigh hios 'crime' really and have 100?% sympathy for them both

the rest is their business

In the unlikely event they read this (it does happen, I was chatting so someone nce ho came on to talk about their childs death on here) I wish them peace am thankful the baby made it

pramspotter · 19/02/2009 10:24

Absolutely Wannabe. Not for a long time anyway. I never knew any child who benefited from daddy having a girlfriend or mummy having a boyfriend. The parents often delude themselves into thinking that the kids are better off however.

Nothing wrong with dating and all that bs once the kids leave the nest or are old enough to deal with it. I hate it when young kids are forced to accept these relationships just so their parents can get off.

TheyCallMePeachy · 19/02/2009 10:29

Fio agree about the dangers of the sea; I grew up near Burnham where poor lelaina hall died in the mudflats yetevery year you still get people ignoring the alert signs

'If my husband had a stroke tomorrow and turned into a demented incontinant person who required 24 hour nursing care I still wouldn't fall in love with
or fancy anyone else.' well no, neither would I; but there's stuff tha thappens in marriages that isn't health related. In sickness and in health yes but not many things.

The only people who know what goes on in a marriage are the partners an even then they only know 50%.

FAQinglovely · 19/02/2009 10:30

ermm right ok whatever you say pramspotter.

Wonder if I should tell my BF's older 3 children that - I'm sure they'd think you equally bonkers, their step-dad has been nothing but a good dad to them for 15yrs, and an equally good dad to the 2 children from that subsequent marriage to their mother.

SoWhat · 19/02/2009 10:31

Pramspotter,

My parents divorced when I was 3 and my stepdad moved in when I was 5. He has been the father figure in my life and he is the grandfather to my daughter, not my biological Dad.

So I was a child that benefited!

deepinlaundry · 19/02/2009 10:34

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harleyd · 19/02/2009 10:34

tragic accident

oh, and pramspotter wise up love

RubyRioja · 19/02/2009 10:36

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FAQinglovely · 19/02/2009 10:41

deepinlaundry - yes they'd obviously had sex at least once in the previous 1 1/2yrs. But that doesn't mean their relationship was good. I fell pg with DS3 when my marriage was on the rocks, nearly split up while pg, but held it together for another year before we split up. The presence of a young baby doesn't mean that things were fine and dandy in their relationship. (not saying he was right to have the affair mind)

TheThoughtPolice · 19/02/2009 10:42

What a vile article. Poor family. How utterly devastating. I think the fathers adultery has naff all to do with this and the name the woman involved as 'his mistress' all through the article is just sensationalising a tracgic story, an accident.

Yes, he was wrong to have an affair.

Yes, he was wrong to take his children on an illicit shag date (although I can't help but feel that it can't be that much of a hot sex thing if he takes his small children with him on dates with her ).

But FGS, this man has just lost his daughter, and almost his son too, all because of a stupid mistake (or series of stupid mistakes).

His wife must be beside herself.

This is not appropriate tabloid fodder. This is a car-crash of a story, a family imploding. Not something for the masses to read over their cornflakes and feel smug that they are too perfect a person, too infallible a parent for anything like this to happen to them.

AitchTwoOh · 19/02/2009 10:43

and yet here you are not only reading about it, but chit-chatting about it on the internet, TP.

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