Threadie:
I wasn't sent home though!
My baby didn't latch on at all for 36 hrs while in hospital with raised blood pressure from pre-eclampsia.
The midwives just kept saying 'don't worry'.
By day 3 I doubt she had had a good feed yet when we were not released due to jaundice.
We remained in hospital for the next 8 days and all the midwives did was conflict each other with what to do, flap around and panic because my dd and I had become so distressed.
Why my daughter did not just accept no food and just sleep and suffer "Severe hypernatraemic dehydration" ( had to copy and paste that) or suffer brain damage is by the grace of God IMHO. instead she screamed and screamed non stop and none of the clueless midwives advised me to breastfeed often as possible.
I thought the FUCKING UV lights was the best thing for jaundice so i let my poor helpless newborn scream and scream and scream for hours. I still cry thinking of how horribly and needlessly she suffered because the people who were supposed to know had no fucking clue and I trusted them to know.
The only piece of advice they gave me to make her stop crying was to give her a dummy.
For a starving, jaundiced baby!
Eventually, I thought, "fuck this", when my baby cries I will take her out and feed her to make her stop crying. She knew how to latch and feed so it wasn't technique. It was lack if information from the midwives that made her suffer so.
someone should have shown me how to express colostrum within hours of her not latching! and none of this sorry ass saga would need writing.
We were released an day 8. NO one weighed her before released. She was only weighed on day 1. She was not weighed again till she was 10 days old at least.
I remained traumatised right into the brith of dd2 over the birth and postnatal care of dd1. When DD2 had her second feed in my house, on my couch, I cried and cried because dd1 suffered so much in hospital for no good reason.
excuse me while i go away and cry again.