Evil mother who killed son, 5, to spite her ex left note saying: 'I told you I would make you pay'

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Link here;
www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1040170/Evil-mother-killed-son-5-spite-ex-left-note-s aying-I-told-I-make-pay.html

Evil mother who killed son, 5, to spite her ex left note saying: 'I told you I would make you pay'

An evil mother driven by rage and jealousy killed her five-year-old son to spite his father, a horrified coroner heard yesterday.

Emma Hart, 27, force-fed Lewis Dangerfield a lethal cocktail of painkillers and antidepressants at their home, then fled to her mother's flat nearby and ended her own life by slashing her wrists.

In a note to Lewis's father, Shaun Dangerfield, which she left by the boy's body, she wrote: 'I told you I would make you pay, enjoy your life now, nothing is stopping you, ha ha ha. Just remember it's all your fault.'
Lewis Dangerfield
Emma Hart

Spite: Lewis Dangerrfield was given a fatal dose of sleeping pills before his mother Emma Hart slashed her wrists

Coroner Robin Balmain described the case as the most distressing he had ever dealt with in 25 years of inquests. 'I can't imagine something quite so evil as a mother who is prepared to do that.

'Her actions were simply spite - she was prepared to kill her son to spite Mr Dangerfield. I find it difficult to believe how anybody could do that.'

He added that he had heard no evidence to justify any criticism of Mr Dangerfield - not even from Hart's family.

'He has done everything he possibly could to fulfil his obligations to his little boy.

'She couldn't get her way and maybe she was driven by jealousy. She was prepared not only to kill herself but to do something that quite frankly, beggars belief.'

During the inquest at Smethwick, West Midlands, 27-year- old Mr Dangerfield broke down in tears as a policewoman read Hart's last note to him and had to leave the hearing to compose himself.

Giving evidence, he said Hart was troubled and hate-filled during their four-year on-off relationship, was often violent towards him and had repeatedly threatened to commit suicide.

After they separated, she was unhappy about his new partner, who also had a child, and resented Lewis spending time with them.

Hart had also lied to friends about having cancer in an attempt to gain sympathy and force Mr Dangerfield to go back to her, the inquest heard.

He had received a text from her days before the deaths which read: 'I know what to do now for the best x'. He had thought at the time it was an 'amicable' response to a disagreement they had over Lewis's custody arrangements.
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But then on a weekend in December last year when he was due to look after Lewis, Hart changed the arrangements saying she was taking him to see Santa Claus.

On the Saturday afternoon, she took a taxi to her mother's home in Tipton and told her family that Lewis was out with his father.

But at 7pm her mother Lynn found her body in her bed, covered in blood with cut wrists.

In a note left by the bed she said she was sorry for taking her own life and confessed to killing Lewis.

It read: 'I'm so sorry for taking Lewis and me away, I just can't take it any more, I'm just not strong enough.'

Police went to Hart's house, where they found Lewis's body on a double bed covered with a duvet. Empty packets of prescription drugs were at the bedside.

Toxicologist Dr Timothy Sheehan said Lewis had consumed nearly ten times the recommended dose of the painkiller Tranadol and antidepressants.

The disturbing note, which his mother had addressed to Mr Dangerfield, also read: 'Did you really think I was going to die and allow you to bring Lewis up and play happy families with you?

'You made your choice, now you can live with it, you can hurt for the rest of your life just like the hell you have put me through the last two years.'

In another note to her family, found next to Lewis, Hart said: 'If you are asking why, look no further than Shaun - a pathetic excuse for a dad. I can't handle it any more - I have been the only one there for Lewis, so it's only right he is with me.

'Don't give Shaun anything - I love you all very much. I had to do it, I couldn't take no more, none of you could have stopped this. Don't none of you blame yourselves.'

Mr Balmain recorded a verdict of suicide for Hart as a result of slitting her wrists but said she had also taken lethal overdoses of morphine, painkillers and antidepressants.

A verdict of unlawful killing was recorded for Lewis.

He said: 'Emma Hart left a note which was severely critical of Mr Dangerfield. I have heard no evidence to justify that view.

The coroner added that Hart was driven by 'rage and hatred if she did not get her own way' and was prepared to lie about her medical condition to Mr Dangerfield - as well as friends and her own family - 'to get control' over him.

Relatives of Hart, including her mother, father, two brothers and two sisters, were all present at the inquest and frequently broke into tears.

Her mother told the inquest: 'She is not a horrible person, she was a loving mum.'

After the hearing, Mr Dangerfield said in a statement: 'Losing the biggest part of your life is haunting to say the least.
'Being told today the exact reasons as to how he was murdered won't bring him back but does bring it to an end.'

... so it's only men who kill their children out of spite is it? No sign of mental illness here, just pure spite and selfishness.

Of course I mean rushing.

Just hate that people who do these things always have folk lining up to make excuses.

There are NO excuses for some things.

Actually I think you are being extremely facile and dense yerblurt.....and yes you do need to be a pyschiatrist to know for sure. How arrogant to presume otherwise based on a news report

yerblurt you are making massive assumptions about mental state and intention based on DM article

you seem somewhat incensed without corroborating evidence- an indignant DM article?

dont see any stampede to excuse actions, do see a narrative trying to discuss/explore circumstance.without necessarily resorting to pack mentality

one can attempt to understand or discuss events without condoning said actions

absolutely Scottishmummy!

Tinksmum, I think (however much you did not mean to) that your comments are extremely useful. In order to understand, people need to know. And you know, and can explain to others

No sympathy for that woman from my side, none whatsoever.

There are things that I can try to comprehend, things that I can try to understand and even to forgive but infanticide is not one of them, in any form, there´s no excuse.

I also find it ridiculous to assume evilness is always a product of mental health problems. In any case the result is the same.

What is 'evil' if it is not a malfunction of normal brain activities, though.

We surely don't still attribute 'evil' behaviour to the devil's influence?

Neither is it normal brain activity.

It might be normal brain activity, up to a point, but then it goes bad - but that is still mental ill health. Like anything that is malfunctioning, it is broken. Not right. Abnormal.

But then, I think deciding she is mentally unwell is a lot less scary than deciding she is just 'evil'. The thought that such people walk the earth, and there is no turning them back from anything, is a very frightening thought.

I'd prefer to think that, if we were nice to each other, and tried to understand each other, we might influence each other for the good.

IF The Mail is to be believed it said that the little boy was found tucked up in bed [dead] that does'nt sound like a totally ruthless act to me there would have been 1000 and 1 other ways to kill the poor child too which would have been more barbaric/bloody/cruel but she chose to kill him with pills...a relatively quick,clean death.
mamadiva she did die a horrible death-she cut her wrists.
I think if she did the crime PURELY on a spite basis [as stated]why did'nt she just kill the child? I'm sure her ex partner would be more upset about the little boy dying than he would her..even if a person has been recognised as having mental health problems how long before they get help? 6/12 months if lucky? I remember the case of a mother who walked her child [in buggy] into the sea SHE HAD ALREADY TOLD GP ETC
THAT SHE FELT LIKE HARMING HER CHILD AND WAS KNOWN BY MENTAL HEALTH TEAM?????
I'm really NOT condoning infantcide but can't help feeling that SOME of these women were suffering some sort of mental breakdown and could see no other way out SAD or BAD? WHO KNOWS??

P.S. IF SHE GAVE THE BOY ANTIDEPRESSANTS WOULD THAT NOT SUGGEST THAT SHE'D OBVIOUSLY HAD AT LEAST, HAD PROBLEMS WITH DEPRESSION IN THE PAST?

salsmum, that's true, for all the "no evidence of mental health" from the judge and the aunt, no one has explained the AD's. As far as I'm aware, they're not OTC!

Thank you ConstanceWearing. I agree with you about "evil" and that's what I've not done a good as job as you trying to say before on this thread. It's been found that most of the "evil" people in our world (serial killers to "evil" leaders) have some sort of mental health problem. It doesn't mean we excuse them, we don't tell the Jews it doesn't matter because he was ill, nor Iraq nor the families of victims of serial killers. It's a reason why they behave like they do, but it is not an excuse. There never is an excuse, the reason never takes away the pain from victims and families.

Somewhere along the way this woman was let down by society. She didn't have the skills to cope with being left and it caused something in her to break. Why did no one see how she was behaving and do something? Why didn't her ex tell her family? Why didn't her family pull her aside? Did she see her GP about how she was feeling - where did the AD's come from?

Again, I'm not excusing her because we still have to take responsibility for ourselves. I've already said in this thread that one defining feature of my PD is self harm and suicide attempts, but for me it's somewhere I can't go. I take that responsibility, I battle with it but I know I will not cross that line. We still know what is right or wrong even if we have an urge to do something wrong, for example we know we shouldn't scratch our exes car, but we have the urge and even if we do it we know it was wrong.

salsmum, that's true, for all the "no evidence of mental health" from the judge and the aunt, no one has explained the AD's. As far as I'm aware, they're not OTC!

Thank you ConstanceWearing. I agree with you about "evil" and that's what I've not done a good as job as you trying to say before on this thread. It's been found that most of the "evil" people in our world (serial killers to "evil" leaders) have some sort of mental health problem. It doesn't mean we excuse them, we don't tell the Jews it doesn't matter because he was ill, nor Iraq nor the families of victims of serial killers. It's a reason why they behave like they do, but it is not an excuse. There never is an excuse, the reason never takes away the pain from victims and families.

Somewhere along the way this woman was let down by society. She didn't have the skills to cope with being left and it caused something in her to break. Why did no one see how she was behaving and do something? Why didn't her ex tell her family? Why didn't her family pull her aside? Did she see her GP about how she was feeling - where did the AD's come from?

Again, I'm not excusing her because we still have to take responsibility for ourselves. I've already said in this thread that one defining feature of my PD is self harm and suicide attempts, but for me it's somewhere I can't go. I take that responsibility, I battle with it but I know I will not cross that line. We still know what is right or wrong even if we have an urge to do something wrong, for example we know we shouldn't scratch our exes car, but we have the urge and even if we do it we know it was wrong.

a measure of a liberal socirty is try to understand and interpret events, as unpaletable and unsavory as those events may be

the tragic facts here speak for themselves
mother commited suicide
child killed

i personally would like to think an examination of events, perhaps an attempt at understanding factors could lead to highlighting risk factors,vigilance and perhaps avoid another tragedy

from many tragedies eg Ben Silcock
jonathan Zito, Victoria Climbie have come reviews, recommendsations that have influenced changes in practice and generated discussion, made recommendations

so as uncomfortable as it is it needs to be done

not just tutting and muttering about "she's a bad 'un/evil...."

Good post TinkberBellesMum

Having suffered fron a very unpleasant mental illness myself (believe me it was bloody horrible)I find it extremely offensive when people use it as a reason to 'excuse' these actions.

The vast majority of mentally ill people turn their anger on themselves rather than those around them.