Evil mother who killed son, 5, to spite her ex left note saying: 'I told you I would make you pay'

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Evil mother who killed son, 5, to spite her ex left note saying: 'I told you I would make you pay'

An evil mother driven by rage and jealousy killed her five-year-old son to spite his father, a horrified coroner heard yesterday.

Emma Hart, 27, force-fed Lewis Dangerfield a lethal cocktail of painkillers and antidepressants at their home, then fled to her mother's flat nearby and ended her own life by slashing her wrists.

In a note to Lewis's father, Shaun Dangerfield, which she left by the boy's body, she wrote: 'I told you I would make you pay, enjoy your life now, nothing is stopping you, ha ha ha. Just remember it's all your fault.'
Lewis Dangerfield
Emma Hart

Spite: Lewis Dangerrfield was given a fatal dose of sleeping pills before his mother Emma Hart slashed her wrists

Coroner Robin Balmain described the case as the most distressing he had ever dealt with in 25 years of inquests. 'I can't imagine something quite so evil as a mother who is prepared to do that.

'Her actions were simply spite - she was prepared to kill her son to spite Mr Dangerfield. I find it difficult to believe how anybody could do that.'

He added that he had heard no evidence to justify any criticism of Mr Dangerfield - not even from Hart's family.

'He has done everything he possibly could to fulfil his obligations to his little boy.

'She couldn't get her way and maybe she was driven by jealousy. She was prepared not only to kill herself but to do something that quite frankly, beggars belief.'

During the inquest at Smethwick, West Midlands, 27-year- old Mr Dangerfield broke down in tears as a policewoman read Hart's last note to him and had to leave the hearing to compose himself.

Giving evidence, he said Hart was troubled and hate-filled during their four-year on-off relationship, was often violent towards him and had repeatedly threatened to commit suicide.

After they separated, she was unhappy about his new partner, who also had a child, and resented Lewis spending time with them.

Hart had also lied to friends about having cancer in an attempt to gain sympathy and force Mr Dangerfield to go back to her, the inquest heard.

He had received a text from her days before the deaths which read: 'I know what to do now for the best x'. He had thought at the time it was an 'amicable' response to a disagreement they had over Lewis's custody arrangements.
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But then on a weekend in December last year when he was due to look after Lewis, Hart changed the arrangements saying she was taking him to see Santa Claus.

On the Saturday afternoon, she took a taxi to her mother's home in Tipton and told her family that Lewis was out with his father.

But at 7pm her mother Lynn found her body in her bed, covered in blood with cut wrists.

In a note left by the bed she said she was sorry for taking her own life and confessed to killing Lewis.

It read: 'I'm so sorry for taking Lewis and me away, I just can't take it any more, I'm just not strong enough.'

Police went to Hart's house, where they found Lewis's body on a double bed covered with a duvet. Empty packets of prescription drugs were at the bedside.

Toxicologist Dr Timothy Sheehan said Lewis had consumed nearly ten times the recommended dose of the painkiller Tranadol and antidepressants.

The disturbing note, which his mother had addressed to Mr Dangerfield, also read: 'Did you really think I was going to die and allow you to bring Lewis up and play happy families with you?

'You made your choice, now you can live with it, you can hurt for the rest of your life just like the hell you have put me through the last two years.'

In another note to her family, found next to Lewis, Hart said: 'If you are asking why, look no further than Shaun - a pathetic excuse for a dad. I can't handle it any more - I have been the only one there for Lewis, so it's only right he is with me.

'Don't give Shaun anything - I love you all very much. I had to do it, I couldn't take no more, none of you could have stopped this. Don't none of you blame yourselves.'

Mr Balmain recorded a verdict of suicide for Hart as a result of slitting her wrists but said she had also taken lethal overdoses of morphine, painkillers and antidepressants.

A verdict of unlawful killing was recorded for Lewis.

He said: 'Emma Hart left a note which was severely critical of Mr Dangerfield. I have heard no evidence to justify that view.

The coroner added that Hart was driven by 'rage and hatred if she did not get her own way' and was prepared to lie about her medical condition to Mr Dangerfield - as well as friends and her own family - 'to get control' over him.

Relatives of Hart, including her mother, father, two brothers and two sisters, were all present at the inquest and frequently broke into tears.

Her mother told the inquest: 'She is not a horrible person, she was a loving mum.'

After the hearing, Mr Dangerfield said in a statement: 'Losing the biggest part of your life is haunting to say the least.
'Being told today the exact reasons as to how he was murdered won't bring him back but does bring it to an end.'

... so it's only men who kill their children out of spite is it? No sign of mental illness here, just pure spite and selfishness.

Where does being jealous and vindictive stop and mental illness start ?
I have known people who did really nasty things. But I would not classify them as mentally ill.
I appreciate I do not have the medical/physcological knowledge of mental illness, but she doesn't sound mentally ill to me.
Just NASTY.

Yers, I think she had a personality disorder, DB.

Poor dad made a wrong choice when he picked her then.

too bad.

Hmm. I think I get her desire for revenge from aangry, depressed, sexual-jealousy, you left me to raise these kids whilst you swan off on holiday and I can't afford beans for tea way.

That's a fairly average reaction, and very common if you look at the lone parents board. I certainly wanted massive revenge on my XH, but when someone offerend to have XH duffed over for me, I said 'no thanks' because I couldn't stand the thought of my kids finding out that I had been the cause of it (I could kind of tolerate the thought of him getting the shit kicked out of him, but not really enough to want it done, iyswim).

I had depression, not a personality disorder. I do think the difference is a personality disorder. Not being able to see your children as distinct individuals but seeing them as an extension of yourself, and yours to do with as you will, perhaps?

I feel so sorry for the mum too. How sad.

Yes, I truly wish for her son's sake and the sake of the dad that she had got some kind of treatment or whatever was necessary to prevent it.

But people often won't talk about these wierd thoughts going through their heads. We're taught to be ashamed of abnormalities and try to keep them hidden. How many people have we heard on hear say "I don't want to go on pills"? We shouldn't be ashamed to seek help and take medicine for any condition, be it a headache or schzophrenia.

Then again, that assumes she knew she needed help. She might have thought she was totally justified in her actions. I really don't know.

I think there is a huge difference between the feelings of anger, hatred and despair that someone feels when he/she has been sexually rejected, and actually doing something as despicable as hurting your children to punish a partner for not loving you any more. It's not despicable to feel sexual jealousy, it is despicable to commit assault, criminal damage and murder because of those feelings. I have never got the chorus of approval given to people who take revenge on a former partner by destroying property, stalking or attacking the XP's new partner: have some dignity, if a person does't want you any more, he/she doesn;t want you any more and if he/she comes back to you for fear of more violence, what kind of a person does that make you?
And, off at a slight tangent, I am so glad to see that the law is changing to be weighted more in favour of abused partners who strike back and less in favour of those (mainly men) who can plead sexual jealousy as a defence against murder charges.

I have to be truthful and say that I can understand someone scratching their husband's car if he farked off with leggy blonde. Can't understand hurting people though. That's wrong.

I looove the way that mental health seems to have one meaning with people!

I've had mental health problems most of my life. I have a condition where one of the identifying features is self harm and attempts of suicide. I have never and would never do either. I have gotten very low but no matter how low I got I wouldn't ever cross that line.

Having spent so much of my life as a mental health (out) patient I have lots of friends with different conditions and it affects each one differently.

I don't think everyone with mental health problems is evil - I'm not! But I don't think people in their right mind commit these acts of pure evil.

That doesn't mean they're depressed or manic or BPD or schizophrenic (etc) at the time, it means that something in their brain does not function like it should. The part of the brain that tells a mother she'd jump in front of a bullet before she allowed her child to come to harm in parents that harm their children for some reason isn't working. A lot of the people been mentioned - Sadam, Adolf, Slobodan - they have/had NPD!

Agree, Tinksmum. I struggle with suicidal thoughts, but I know it's a line I wouldn't cross. Hope I haven't offended, just trying to discuss, not offend.

Agree, Adolph etc probably had NPD. Or do you know they did? Have you read it somewhere?

There was a programme about it last year and it was on there, been looking for a link

There is a big difference between losing it for a second to scratch a car and losing it totally to plan to kill someone else and then yourself. That took some forethought. I still want to know where she got AD's from.

So do people think that anyone who commits murder - even, say, a hired killer or bank robber - should be treated as mentally ill and sent automatically to a hospital to be treated?
Surely this is the obvious extension of the belief that you cannot kill and be in your right mind?
The point is, even if she was depressed, she knew what she was doing when she killed. She was not delusional, she planned it, wrote the notes and it is clear what her motive was. Revenge.

So do people think that anyone who commits murder - even, say, a hired killer or bank robber - should be treated as mentally ill and sent automatically to a hospital to be treated?
Surely this is the obvious extension of the belief that you cannot kill and be in your right mind?
The point is, even if she was depressed, she knew what she was doing when she killed. She was not delusional, she planned it, wrote the notes and it is clear what her motive was. Revenge.

Just read something that was also on the docu last year "most serial killers suffer from NPD".

Who said she was depressed? Those weren't the actions of someone depressed! Hitler was mentally ill, I don't think anyone has ever suggested that he was depressed!

I do believe that people should be punished for their crimes, I also believe that everyone, no matter what they've done, deserve for their health problems to be treated.

Mental health goes beyond depression and people need to get past that and understand that there are serious conditions that do affect thinking and understanding.

What century is this?

What mental illness did Hitler have?

It's thought he had either NPD or BPD, personally I think NPD is more likely.

She needed a lot of help for the sake of her poor little boy, who ended up paying the price for society's 'disposable relationship' attitude.

Constance are you blaming society for one spite filled mother murdering her own child? I really don't get your comment here

Personality disorders arent usually described as being illnesses.

They're still treated as mental health.

and they're still someone not in the right mind.

Personality disorder is supposed to be recognised and treated within mainstream mental health services these days

Extremely sad story.

Good link ScrummyMummy, thanks for that.

Personality disorders are illnesses, of course they are, what do you think they are if not? They hardly describe a brain that is working properly.

Traditionally personality disorder is categorised as a mental disorder, not a mental illness.
This is because they represent extremes of normal personality patterns rather than a separate, ditinctive pathological process, and also because of thier lifelong course.