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what do you think? was the resturant right?

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2shoes · 12/07/2008 12:26

or is it discrimination

I now await being asked to not take dd to places incase she puts people off their food.

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edam · 12/07/2008 20:04

Thank heavens this thread has taken a turn for the better. I was really beginning to despair.

The poor woman knows she faces a terrible future and eventually will die of this horrible, undignified, progressive disease. Anyone not in her position should be thanking their lucky stars, not having a go.

jimjamshaslefttheyurt · 12/07/2008 20:09

DS1 has his hair cut at school twice a term.

A reflection on the fact that so many parents of kids in the school find it very difficult to get their child's hair cut.

Nice little earner for the inclusive hairdresser as well I would guess.

Now I'm waiting for someone to come up with the idea of a mobile shoe fitting service.

The restaurant owner missed a trick, really.

lulumama · 12/07/2008 20:16

By Greyriverside on Sat 12-Jul-08 19:02:34
If you are parent/carer to someone who can't/won't stop yelling do you take them to the cinema or do you consider that it might not be very fair on others?

It's a shame if you have a disability, but we didn't do it to you and I'm a bit tired of hearing "I'm in a minority do everything my way". the rest of us have feelings and rights too.

If the person was (through no fault of her own) acting in a manner that would put other people off their food then it was a selfish act to go there in the first place.

"I don't care if they lose money. I'm disabled!"

can i just say i do not ever wish to be associated with the 'we didn;t do it to you' brigade that GRS refers to.

or 'the rest of us'

what a shockingly nasty. selfish. self centred post

hopefully neitehr you , your partner, children or anyone you love or cares for ever has an accident and is disabled or has a progressive degenerative illness

i cannot believe you have actually read the thread and then summed it up, totally incorrectly , as this being about disabled people ignoring the rights of NT people

how appalling

MadamAnt · 12/07/2008 20:17

I came on this thread expecting a unanimous slating of the shit for brains restaurant owner, but I was wrong.

How can anyone think it's acceptable to exclude someone from their restaurant due to their disability. If I ever saw a disabled person being asked to leave 'for the sake of the other customers' I would leave and never return.

I'm truly shocked and saddened by the attitude of some of the posters on this thread, particularly Greyriverside and stitch.

I can only hope that what comes around goes around.

StressTeddy · 12/07/2008 20:22

My step-brother is severley mentally disabled and spits all the time (along with a whole host of other very noticeable things)

I would say this restaurant is diabolical to say the least. If an establishement did this to my brother I would see them in court

The end - there is no more to say

ST wanders off in a haze of indignant red mist

zippitippitoes · 12/07/2008 20:24

sadly almost all the time i go out i dont see people with disabilities

its not right really

there is nothing like community

Doobydoo · 12/07/2008 20:26

I looked after a 15 year old with Huntingdons and watched him die.He had more dignity,humour and compassion that many of you total arses on this thread.
His father had Huntingdons and also died.
His mother also had more compassion,dignity and humour than many of you lot.

SenoraPostrophe · 12/07/2008 20:26

I am also quite shocked, both at the restaurant owner and some of the responses here.

jimjamshaslefttheyurt · 12/07/2008 20:27

God doobydoo your post has made me shiver. She lost her husband and her son. Poor woman.

zippitippitoes · 12/07/2008 20:33

my dad was run over crossing the road when i was 17

i never went to see him in hospital because i wanted to rememeber him as he was and was too scared to see him in a coma

i prayed for him to die

becaosue i thought what a terrible life he would have otherwise

i often think i prayed too hard

but if he had lived how hard to think people would have hated to seehim

Blandmum · 12/07/2008 20:34

I can't help but think that HD is one of the most awful things that can happen to someone.

That poor family, dooby.

expatinscotland · 12/07/2008 20:35

In hospice we had 2 patients die of HD, only only 37, and one of ALS, she was only 45, also a horrible, horrible disease.

jimjamshaslefttheyurt · 12/07/2008 20:35

I think now genetic tests can predict the age at which it's likely to start as well.

Imagine having that hanging over you. And iirc it starts younger each generation.

Doobydoo · 12/07/2008 20:35

I wish I was at some of the posts on here but I am not.What a bunch of arses.There but for the grace[of whoever]goes us,our children etc.Then you can spend your life fighting for your rights.That will be fun for you won't it?
Unfortunately people can't seem to think beyond how THEY feel not how hard it must be for others to go to restaurants,or cinemas or to buy a pair of shoes and be stared at by a bunch of shits.
My favourite line so far is...'We did not do it to them'.That is a classic in the ignorant twit hall of fame.
I am so angry I could scream.

Blandmum · 12/07/2008 20:36

IIRC it depends on the number of 'repeats' in the mutation. the more the repeats the earlier/more agressive

jimjamshaslefttheyurt · 12/07/2008 20:37

I was shaking with anger earlier Dooby.

I'm now calm drinking some wine.

And I raise a toast to everyone everywhere for whom every trip out turns into the circus freak show because of ignorant Joe Public.

jimjamshaslefttheyurt · 12/07/2008 20:38

Yep that's it MB. - and I think the number of repeats increases each generation. That's the bit I'm not sure I've remembered correctly.

jimjamshaslefttheyurt · 12/07/2008 20:39

My last sentence in the 20:37 post doesn't make sense. But you know what I mean.

Doobydoo · 12/07/2008 20:41

Agree with you. I have joined you in a glass
I had to delete much swearing.
I want a Yurt.

expatinscotland · 12/07/2008 20:41

The folk singer Arlo Guthrie did have HD hanging over his head. His father and paternal grandmother had died of it.

Despite his father's having exhibited symptoms of the disease from the late 1940s (he was diagnosed in the early 1950s) he didn't die until 1967, that's how slowly degenerative this disease is.

southeastastra · 12/07/2008 20:42

the other link about the girls going into the nail salon is shocking too, we seem to be going backwards in society

Doobydoo · 12/07/2008 20:42

Agree,with you 20.37 post!I knew what you meant

StressTeddy · 12/07/2008 20:43

cheers jimjam - just what I needed

Blandmum · 12/07/2008 20:44

If I hadn't drunk too much wine last night I'd join you ladies.

Enjoy the wine. God knows you deserve it!

I had a tiny 'trip' into the world of disability in the last weeks of dh's life. the staring made me want to kick people. and the assinine way people would assume that because he couldn't walk and needed oxygen he couldn't understand anything I wanted to shake them by the throat.

Ohh JJ will email uyou with the dates for our trip south

StressTeddy · 12/07/2008 20:44

just read back that sounded sarcastic - not meant to be at all. I really am raising a glass and glad that you did

Bloody computer speak - it does often not read how you want it to does it?

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