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Shouldn’t this funeral director be arrested? *MNHQ warning - distressing content*

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MissyB1 · 27/08/2025 07:35

I will post the link (hopefully works). Surely there must be something she could be charged with? And her “business” needs closing down! It’s just beyond words!
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c4gjr0ylenzo

A woman with red hair and blue eyes looks at the camera. She's sitting on a grey velvet-style sofa.

Mum's anger after Leeds funeral director keeps baby's body at home

Funeral director Amie Upton is now barred from NHS maternity wards, the BBC reveals.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c4gjr0ylenzo

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EaglesSwim · 27/08/2025 20:28

ShesTheAlbatross · 27/08/2025 20:18

It can’t have been one that every parent understood, because one was deeply distressed by walking in and seeing her baby in a bouncer.

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Agree.

Gladysknightjustwalkinmyshoes · 27/08/2025 20:31

Dead babies in a house.. that's just plain weird.
Beyond horrific for the mum to see her child in the bouncer and another on a sofa.

Sheerdetermination · 27/08/2025 22:41

There must be a crime she can be convicted of. The police and the CPS should try harder. Despicable woman. She needs dealing with.

BugBugTheTornado · 27/08/2025 23:49

I lost my daughter at 24 weeks, and this has made my blood run cold.

I had her at Tunbridge Wells hospital, and it later transpires she was in the morgue at the same time that David Fuller was ‘active’. When I heard about it I had a total meltdown, the thought of anyone potentially even touching her without me knowing, let alone anything sinister, it was like a fresh wave of grief. It actually put me in therapy.

I can well understand how the thought of someone doing anything with your baby without your consent would wipe out any parent in those circumstances, however ‘good intentioned’ they are.

Fucking madness.

BrassOlive · 28/08/2025 07:51

BugBugTheTornado · 27/08/2025 23:49

I lost my daughter at 24 weeks, and this has made my blood run cold.

I had her at Tunbridge Wells hospital, and it later transpires she was in the morgue at the same time that David Fuller was ‘active’. When I heard about it I had a total meltdown, the thought of anyone potentially even touching her without me knowing, let alone anything sinister, it was like a fresh wave of grief. It actually put me in therapy.

I can well understand how the thought of someone doing anything with your baby without your consent would wipe out any parent in those circumstances, however ‘good intentioned’ they are.

Fucking madness.

I'm so deeply sorry you experienced that x

PollyBell · 28/08/2025 08:04

So if a person stole a living child from a hospital or the child's home, school etc. That could be a crime yet being handed dead children and all is ok we need to have sympathy for her? I wonder if there would be as much sympathy if a man did it

tartyflette · 28/08/2025 14:57

myplace · 27/08/2025 07:43

Our sanitised handling of the dead is fairly recent. Culturally it hasn’t always been the way. Victorians posed bodies for photographs. Keeping the baby’s remains in a home environment, baby bouncers and cartoons, could be seen as caring.
We all have different associations- some expect the body dressed in Sunday best, others naked as they arrived, while some might be thinking of comfortable bedtime attire. I don’t want to be in a wired bra in my coffin, for example.

I’m not saying it’s fine, but it’s cultural rather than anything else.

Our current cultural norms around death and deceased people, especially children, are hugely important!
And deaths of children in Victorian times and earlier were distressingly common and cultural practices lf the time evolved to deal with that.
What this woman did is incredibly difficult to even read about, especially if you have ever lost a child. She sounds quite eccentric, to put it mildly.

Cazsaztaz · 29/08/2025 22:15

No. The point is nothing to do with cultural or historical attitudes and rituals towards death - the parents had NOT given permission. This is appalling and an abuse of professional ethics.

Vix197703 · 31/08/2025 01:32

After reading articles and hearing the back story, I’ve been in her shoes I lost a baby at 24 weeks, so I can only say her mental state knowing from experience will be a mess and she’s needs help not a prison sentence, still after 25 years I struggle emotionally and mentally after losing my son and can’t imagine what she’s going through or thinking

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