expat, I like the cut of your jib (sp?)
nametaken, the winter fuel allowance is an insult to the pensioners of this country. My parents are elderly (mum in 70s, dad in 80s, I was born when my mother was 39 so have always had to deal with having parents older than everyone elses.)
My dad worked for over 40 years with Scottish Gas, before that he was in the RAF during WW2 dealing with events I could not imagine the horror of, he joined when he was 18.) His pension is not very big, just enough to survive on. However it is just above the cut-off for the fuel allowance, so tough luck dad and turn the heating off even though you are constantly cold as up in Scotland we tend to have chillier weather.
My parents, like a lot of elderly people, do not like asking for things, do not want to beg from the government. It was not their way of doing things.
My dad has early onset alzheimers. He collected by a mini-bus for an old folks club once a week - shall I tell him to stop this as it is a luxury and there are people starving in the world? It gives my mum, who is now his carer, a break - shall I tell her she doesn't matter either as she obviously isn't suffering enough?
I cannot get a bus from where I live to where they live and they won't move to us, despite my asking several times. So once a week I go out in my CAR to buy their shopping, take them out for an afternoon and spend some time with them. I am such a bad and selfish person I should be put in the stocks and have the left-over veggies thrown at me by people who can't plan menus and waste food.
My car is a necessary evil, it is the most efficient I could buy at the time and I can't afford to change. I have to drive my sons to school as it is 7 miles away and unfortunately up and down very big hills or we would actually bike it. I cannot afford to move closer and long for the day I get to walk them to school. However, I recycle, have all energy saving light bulbs, I don't have a great amount of left-overs as I use everything but I have a compost bin outside for the rest. I don't buy tons of clothes made by children in sweat shops and clothes I, or my sons, no longer need are either made into cleaning rags or if good enough, passed onto the charity shop.
Selfish is people driving three streets to drop the kids off at school. Selfish is people flying back and forth to their second home every weekend. Selfish is people condemning others because they live in an area without public transport - how dare we! Selfish is people lecturing other people how to live without actually knowing their lifestyle other than the fact they have a car.
I swear sometimes I think this country is full of the dinner party guests on Bremner, Bird and Fortune.