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lemmein · 2023-02-15T19:14:48+00:00

Fuck it, I'm opening another one. If the mods delete it fair enough. I don't believe the menopause or even alcoholism explains a woman vanishing into thin air with no evidence left behind. This whole case stinks!

plumduck · 16/02/2023 15:09

At the middle of this is a hurting family

Commonsensitivity · 16/02/2023 15:13

I don’t understand this statement - can you explain a bit more (without pointing fingers) thanks

She did purposeful daily walks at a pace (check her strava speeds). She often multitasked. She was bright and well organised in terms of her career, hair daily schedule. She was encouraged by her partner to drive kids to school (he used to hand her the car keys). She was no more vulnerable than the rest of us. This information about vulnerabilities has influenced the investigation in a particular direction. There's no shred of evidence she was suicidal, uncoordinated, confused or unsteady on her feet. She was a highly organised person.

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lemmein · 16/02/2023 15:14

So to answer my question, who would you have preferred to release the info? The police in a controlled manner or the gutter press?

Nobody. If it's so relevant then they should've mentioned it 3 weeks ago - like they do with most missing person cases.

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Idratherbepaddleboarding · 16/02/2023 15:15

Commonsensitivity · 16/02/2023 14:49

I've just looked at NBs Facebook business profile. She comes across as super organised and on the ball. I don't believe this alcohol narrative. I'm sorry but I don't.

Oh well if you don’t believe it, it mustn’t be true 🙄. You clearly lead a very sheltered life if you don’t realise all sorts of people are dealing with all sorts of things while appearing to have it all together.

Anyway, the family have released a statement not denying it but explaining why the police released the information yesterday and as thought some scum bag was trying to sell their story.

Twonewcats · 16/02/2023 15:15

HymenOrNot · 16/02/2023 14:58

Not 'grubby' it's a legal requirement to check stories before publishing them

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Eh? It's totally grubby of anyone to threaten to release that info - whether checked and verified or not?? You've not actually answered - where the hell have you seen that the were the cause of this info being released?! As I said, it's not something they'd do!

Baileysandcream · 16/02/2023 15:15

Nicknacky · 16/02/2023 15:07

So to answer my question, who would you have preferred to release the info? The police in a controlled manner or the gutter press?

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Why does it have to be a choice between the two? The information wouldn't have been released at all, ideally.

Nicknacky · 16/02/2023 15:16

lemmein · 16/02/2023 15:14

So to answer my question, who would you have preferred to release the info? The police in a controlled manner or the gutter press?

Nobody. If it's so relevant then they should've mentioned it 3 weeks ago - like they do with most missing person cases.

Ok, no answer. But it was coming out into the public domain one way or another.

Renoir56 · 16/02/2023 15:16

AnnoyedwithGossips · 16/02/2023 14:23

I reported it.

The slightly better online newspapers have closed commenting on the case now. At last someone is listening to the family.

And Mumsnet should do the same. They should stop the commenting on here.

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lemmein · 16/02/2023 15:17

Ok, no answer. But it was coming out into the public domain one way or another.

I've answered several times 🤯

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Nicknacky · 16/02/2023 15:17

Baileysandcream · 16/02/2023 15:15

Why does it have to be a choice between the two? The information wouldn't have been released at all, ideally.

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Because if you read the families statement people were selling stories so it was going to come out.

Nicknacky · 16/02/2023 15:18

lemmein · 16/02/2023 15:17

Ok, no answer. But it was coming out into the public domain one way or another.

I've answered several times 🤯

No you didn’t, it was clear from the families statement that this info was coming out, like it or not.

Commonsensitivity · 16/02/2023 15:18

Oh well if you don’t believe it, it mustn’t be true 🙄. You clearly lead a very sheltered life if you don’t realise all sorts of people are dealing with all sorts of things while appearing to have it all together.

My opinion. Nothing more. Nothing less. My life is far from sheltered. But generally people who struggle with alcohol couldn't pull off that level of multitasking.

Nicknacky · 16/02/2023 15:19

Commonsensitivity · 16/02/2023 15:18

Oh well if you don’t believe it, it mustn’t be true 🙄. You clearly lead a very sheltered life if you don’t realise all sorts of people are dealing with all sorts of things while appearing to have it all together.

My opinion. Nothing more. Nothing less. My life is far from sheltered. But generally people who struggle with alcohol couldn't pull off that level of multitasking.

Do you work in this area of expertise?

BaronessEllarawrosaurus · 16/02/2023 15:20

All my thoughts are with the family and the community at this time. I hope they find answers and peace.

Idratherbepaddleboarding · 16/02/2023 15:21

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Commonsensitivity · 16/02/2023 15:13

I don’t understand this statement - can you explain a bit more (without pointing fingers) thanks

She did purposeful daily walks at a pace (check her strava speeds). She often multitasked. She was bright and well organised in terms of her career, hair daily schedule. She was encouraged by her partner to drive kids to school (he used to hand her the car keys). She was no more vulnerable than the rest of us. This information about vulnerabilities has influenced the investigation in a particular direction. There's no shred of evidence she was suicidal, uncoordinated, confused or unsteady on her feet. She was a highly organised person.

She was no more vulnerable than the rest of us. This information about vulnerabilities has influenced the investigation in a particular direction. There's no shred of evidence she was suicidal, uncoordinated, confused or unsteady on her feet. She was a highly organised person.

How v bizarre that you can take this committed stance when you have never met her and her family have just released the following statement:

‘The police know the truth about Nikki and now the public need to focus on finding her.

Due to the peri menopause Nikki suffered with significant side effects such as brain fog, restless sleep and was taking HRT to help but this was giving her intense headaches which caused Nikki to stop taking the HRT thinking that may have helped her but only ended up causing this crisis.’

Why do you insist your uninformed fantasy narrative is above that of her loved ones?

Odd.

Rempf · 16/02/2023 15:22

Nicknacky · 16/02/2023 15:17

Because if you read the families statement people were selling stories so it was going to come out.

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Given the huge national interest you would think any outlet that had decided to go ahead and publish such a leak would have faced a massive backlash- possibly even legal proceedings??

And any public individual that was "selling" the story would really have been in the shit

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lemmein · 16/02/2023 15:22

Because if you read the police families statement people were selling stories so it was going to come out.

Makes you wonder how they got the story when nobody in Nikki's circle has leaked it for the last 3 weeks doesn't it? Not that I think it was going to be leaked - absolute bullshit, the lot of it.

I bet a lot of posters on here still believe Jean Charles De Menzies 'vaulted over the ticket barriers' too 🙄

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Twonewcats · 16/02/2023 15:24

Commonsensitivity · 16/02/2023 15:13

I don’t understand this statement - can you explain a bit more (without pointing fingers) thanks

She did purposeful daily walks at a pace (check her strava speeds). She often multitasked. She was bright and well organised in terms of her career, hair daily schedule. She was encouraged by her partner to drive kids to school (he used to hand her the car keys). She was no more vulnerable than the rest of us. This information about vulnerabilities has influenced the investigation in a particular direction. There's no shred of evidence she was suicidal, uncoordinated, confused or unsteady on her feet. She was a highly organised person.

You've zero clue if there's a shred of evidence of this or how vulnerable the poor lady was. Ffs. So much speculating. No wonder women struggle to get support, when other women don't believe they need it, despite it being spelled out and confirmed

Nicknacky · 16/02/2023 15:25

lemmein · 16/02/2023 15:22

Because if you read the police families statement people were selling stories so it was going to come out.

Makes you wonder how they got the story when nobody in Nikki's circle has leaked it for the last 3 weeks doesn't it? Not that I think it was going to be leaked - absolute bullshit, the lot of it.

I bet a lot of posters on here still believe Jean Charles De Menzies 'vaulted over the ticket barriers' too 🙄

So you think the family are lying when they say people were threatening to sell stories?

SoTedious · 16/02/2023 15:25

AnnoyedwithGossips · 16/02/2023 14:22

I think @lemmein there are lots of people that are commenting and wonder what you are getting from this continued speculation. Doesn't what the family say matter to you at all? It's a shame that the family issue a statement and you just continue onwards with your thread. 10 threads now and an AIBU as well. This involves a real family.

To be fair, on here there has been very little speculation about anyone's private life - it's mostly been about which cctv cameras work, whether a spaniel can get through a fence, how long a dog's coat takes to dry, what the river is like, who carries string on their person, Peter Faulding - good or bad? and a lot about the nature of the police investigation. Until they made that statement last night of course.

Rempf · 16/02/2023 15:27

Thought this part of the statement wouldn't have be quite so definite-

which caused Nikki to stop taking the HRT thinking that may have helped her but only ended up causing this crisis.’

HymenOrNot · 16/02/2023 15:27

Commonsensitivity · 16/02/2023 15:18

Oh well if you don’t believe it, it mustn’t be true 🙄. You clearly lead a very sheltered life if you don’t realise all sorts of people are dealing with all sorts of things while appearing to have it all together.

My opinion. Nothing more. Nothing less. My life is far from sheltered. But generally people who struggle with alcohol couldn't pull off that level of multitasking.

No-one knows the nature or extent of NBs 'issues with alcohol'

For instance it could have been a brief relapse over Xmas into the new year that hadn't yet impaired her ability to work, take her children to school, walk her dog etc

confounded234 · 16/02/2023 15:28

Rempf · 16/02/2023 15:27

Thought this part of the statement wouldn't have be quite so definite-

which caused Nikki to stop taking the HRT thinking that may have helped her but only ended up causing this crisis.’

Yes it's an admission that Nicola was or is going through a crisis. Doesn't really tally with what the family have been saying before.

Inkanta · 16/02/2023 15:28

She did purposeful daily walks at a pace (check her strava speeds). She often multitasked. She was bright and well organised in terms of her career, hair daily schedule. She was encouraged by her partner to drive kids to school (he used to hand her the car keys). She was no more vulnerable than the rest of us. This information about vulnerabilities has influenced the investigation in a particular direction. There's no shred of evidence she was suicidal, uncoordinated, confused or unsteady on her feet. She was a highly organised person

Yep with you on that too.