Nicola Bulley 10

[lemmein]

Fuck it, I'm opening another one. If the mods delete it fair enough.

I don't believe the menopause or even alcoholism explains a woman vanishing into thin air with no evidence left behind.

This whole case stinks!

Problem here for the family is that they simultaneously want the public to stop speculatoin but at the same time they want the public continue to search. Their words. It's hard to have one without the other in this day and age.

There are some profound words in that.

It seems that the family and the police are united.

It’s interesting that the family have chosen to add further personal details around her menopausal struggles.

It’s shocking for them that they are aware of someone selling stories / pictures to the media.

It’s a relief to hear they feel well supported by the police.

For me it was watching her poor Mum at the initial family interview - she was totally speechless and looked like a rabbit in the headlights.

Meant to tag @AnnoyedwithGossips

Obviously we don't know what's gone on or been said behind closed doors, but the most recent statement with the quote from the family pretty much says that the family agreed for the information to be released. As much as it's awful that the info that has came to light might be viewed in a negative way against the poor woman, it might have been needed to address why the police have been so persistent with the river hypothesis. They should have stated vulnerabilities only though, I don't see why they had to mention alcohol issues, the menopause and the police visit 2 weeks before. That was definitely a step too far (unless of course the info was about to come out anyway from another source..)

They are damned if they do, and damned if they don't. If they release the details, they are tarnishing Nicola's reputation, but if they don't, they get called useless and allsorts of rumours start going around about her partner/sister/friend's involvement, etc.

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They were already making other enquiries. The people searching the river aren't the same people who would be checking CCTV, knocking on doors and searching outbuildings. They've made it clear that they're not just following the river theory.

So those of you who think the police were wrong to reveal this information, would it be better in your opinion for the media to have ran with the stories as was going to happen according to the families statement?

Would you have found that more acceptable?

The police should have said at the start that she was vulnerable for medical reasons and left it at that. Then all the speculation about why they were so adamant she went in the river wouldn't have happened.

If a newspaper was going to run with the story the police would've mentioned it in their initial statement.

They've seen the backlash from yesterday and suddenly it was going to be leaked - yeah, right!

You didn’t answer my question? And it’s naive to think the media wouldn’t have ran with it in the early days.

So what would be more acceptable to you?

The AIBU thread that contains more speculation about the family than this one does and that's based around the premise that the police shouldn't have released the statement even though the family haven't objected?

Where did the media get the information from @Nicknacky?

Family have asked to stop speculation into their private life - as you have bolded yourself.

They have not asked for people to stop discussing the disappearance.

I have absolutely no idea.

For those debating what should/should not be made public. I think I’m correct in saying all information is public at inquest and Coroners Report anyway? So you’re actually just arguing over timing of release.

There's no evidence she is dead though so those things may never happen.

Have I missed them finding a body?

Yes fair point but I’m assuming as is most likely she’s sadly drowned.

Still need a body @Oaktree55!

It was allegedly the BBC who had the story and approached the police saying that they were going to publish giving the police the opportunity to comment first

As is usual practice

@Needtopost sadly the individuals that post about the family, other experts and the police appear to think they are helping in some way. I just feel for the family. The OP and many others cannot leave it and appear to be enjoying it 😒I agree it's sick as do others on the other thread but the gossips continue.

Poor family have had to do damage limitation here in this latest statement after Lancs police’s cock up. (They shouldn’t have had to). Notably humanising Nicola as a woman who has being going through the normal but nonetheless challenging difficulties of peri menopause. Reinstating her as any woman who could have disappeared for a number of reasons. But who has been going through a crisis recently. Let’s hope she is found.

So what would be more acceptable to you?

Not using a woman's private issues to take the increasing heat off the police for a start.

Do you agree with what they did yesterday and do you believe their motives for releasing that info? I know you're a police officer but surely you aren't all one homogenous group with collective thoughts. Would you have done what they did yesterday?

I used to work for childrens services so I understand constant criticism and finger-pointing is frustrating - but it didn't make me blind to the many errors made by SWs. No public service is above scrutiny.