I have read the whole thread and agree so much with the below comments and feel they need highlighting.
The police are utterly deluded. With every new move they believe it will calm things down. But their deep-rooted institutional misogyny blinds them to the mess they have created and are continuing to perpetuate.
I used to think the Police were the beacon, that their arrival meant that I was safe. Personal experience as well as the activities in the courts makes it clear that this isn't the case. That institutional issues such as racism, misogyny etc are endemic. The strip searching of black teenage girls, the Whats App groups of dead women, the .... it is endless.
It's "fashionable" to criticise the police because over and over and over again they have shown themselves to be at best incompetent, and at worst, criminals themselves.
The Police are not, and must not, be above scrutiny.
^This is so important, trust in police is at an all time low. Wayne C. , the rapist cop and all the many WA groups where police officers indulge in horribly racist and sexist chats even sharing pictures of dead victims of crime, arresting women who speak out about safe spaces. And let's not forget the dozens, probably hundreds of undeserving teenage girls from troubled backgrounds who became victims of CSA and were obviously just gagging for being abused by disgusting and entitled middle aged men so didn't deserve police protection. 😡
The police force as a whole needs to be transformed and it cannot happen quickly enough. It is all about abuse of power and institutional misogyny and racism. Posters who want these threads to stop need to shut up and fuck off.
Nicola is one of us, a mum, a pet lover, a professional, a wife, sister, daughter, struggling with life in her 40s and managing it all as best she can. She disappeared form the face of the earth and sure as hell we are going to talk about it at length and as much as we like, as long as we are being respectful to those who loved her as there is no excuse fro trolling that poor family or her friends. Call it gossip we don’t care, but we do care about Nicola and her daughters and we will talk about her.
Maybe Nicola drunk too much and maybe there was an attempted suicide or an argument got out of hand a few weeks before she disappeared. But you know what? Shit Happens, we can all struggle at times and she may have additional challenges that make family life stressful. It can all be worked out.
It is incredibly inappropriate for the police to release information about her drinking, menopause and the welfare call. I have never heard that menopause is associated with drinking. The police have abused their power by releasing this information, it is absolutely disgusting, it hasn't stoped the speculations, just shifted them. I hope the SIO will be managed out and enjoy an early retirement after messing this up in such a spectacular way. They may have conducted the investigation following the police guiding principle but they sure as hell have not managed their comms at any single point during the investigation and their institutional misogyny and contempt for women has seeped out throughout. 😡