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lemmein · 2023-02-15T19:14:48+00:00

Fuck it, I'm opening another one. If the mods delete it fair enough. I don't believe the menopause or even alcoholism explains a woman vanishing into thin air with no evidence left behind. This whole case stinks!

Peverellshire · 15/02/2023 21:24

Rempf · 15/02/2023 21:19

Why on earth do the police feel the need to appease online rumours? Thats a ridiculous precedent to set. It smacks of a force that hasnt ever been exposed to scrutiny and are floundering in attempts to justify their actions, which have been appalling.
Tonight is the icing on the cake.

Had a drunken row? Been a bit low?

Obviously she has self drowned at 930am in a shallow river ,frequented by walkers whilst walking her own dog despite nothing being found and the river being searched immediatley by helicopters with infrared.

Naturally.

Quite.

Isn't there a 'rule' they have to follow every last thing up? So if Mystic Meg says it's dodgy Dennis down the road they have to 'look', it is why some high profile cases, pre internet, got completely stuck and mired. It all took far too long.

Bellalalala · 15/02/2023 21:25

BornFreeButinChains · 15/02/2023 21:21

@Bellalalala.. I know I shouldn't respond but this is a chat forum.

Some people think mn has incredible importance or that we are in a court of law.

We are processing upsetting information.

I for one am extremely heartened that this new information release has been heartily slapped down all over...

I love the transparancy that sm etc gives us.

There’s no transparency because the people on SM don’t have all the facts.

Are you happy it was slapped down, even if the family agreed to the information being released?

It’s not been slapped down. People are simply speculating and giving their opinion without knowing the facts.

BornFreeButinChains · 15/02/2023 21:25

@SpudleyLass

Sorry that sounded very callous.

I didn't mean the remark about your personal struggle 💐 more about how hers don't impact on her body being found.

Bluekerfuffle · 15/02/2023 21:26

Peverellshire · 15/02/2023 21:21

If she distracted it by throwing a stick etc and set off at a pace?

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I don’t think that would work with any of the dogs I have had. They would hear and smell you and catch up, but I wouldn’t say it’s totally impossible. I think it’s more of a possibility she’s been missed in the search of the river.

Suzi888 · 15/02/2023 21:27

BornFreeButinChains · 15/02/2023 21:21

@Bellalalala.. I know I shouldn't respond but this is a chat forum.

Some people think mn has incredible importance or that we are in a court of law.

We are processing upsetting information.

I for one am extremely heartened that this new information release has been heartily slapped down all over...

I love the transparancy that sm etc gives us.

… I concur.

Advice I saw on another post, “stop squeezing the squeaky toy” I think it was. Clever analogy. I squeezed unfortunately…

BornFreeButinChains · 15/02/2023 21:27

@Bellalalala.. We don't know many facts here but some do remain

A body, menapausal or full of drink doesn't make that body more likely to disintegrate or just vanish or the clothes on it not to be found.

That is exactly what people are saying on sm.

Bluekerfuffle · 15/02/2023 21:27

I would think it more likely an accidental fall in the river than intentionally going in.

SpudleyLass · 15/02/2023 21:28

BornFreeButinChains · 15/02/2023 21:25

@SpudleyLass

Sorry that sounded very callous.

I didn't mean the remark about your personal struggle 💐 more about how hers don't impact on her body being found.

No offence taken whatsoever :)

I must admit I was dumbfounded by how low the river level was but in the absence of all other evidence, I just wonder if she entered further down.

Tragic all around. I hope her family gets the closure they need,

Bellalalala · 15/02/2023 21:28

BornFreeButinChains · 15/02/2023 21:27

@Bellalalala.. We don't know many facts here but some do remain

A body, menapausal or full of drink doesn't make that body more likely to disintegrate or just vanish or the clothes on it not to be found.

That is exactly what people are saying on sm.

That’s not what the police have said though either.

Who is saying that?

Bluekerfuffle · 15/02/2023 21:29

BornFreeButinChains · 15/02/2023 21:27

@Bellalalala.. We don't know many facts here but some do remain

A body, menapausal or full of drink doesn't make that body more likely to disintegrate or just vanish or the clothes on it not to be found.

That is exactly what people are saying on sm.

Wouldn’t the clothes stay on someone?

confounded234 · 15/02/2023 21:29

Who's releasing all the pictures of her drinking to the press? Fucking outrageous. They are just pictures of her having a drink with mates, everyone has got those pictures.

My money is on the cops

Catstaps · 15/02/2023 21:30

It’s not slander if it’s true. She had problems with alcohol..the reasons they’ve told us , and they should have said at the beginning, is to make sense of it. She’s probably taken her life which now adds up. Also people were accusing locals of crime as they couldn’t come up with a better explanation. I’ve been trying to work out how she was abducted, now I think very differently. It’s been communicated badly. Honesty always the best policy.

Chocolated · 15/02/2023 21:30

The picture that the police are trying to paint is so very different from the one her partner has " what you see is what you get", " pillar of strength to our family"

RosieMolloy · 15/02/2023 21:31

The last time my menopause and mental took me for a bufuzzled walk, I walked 2 miles in my Pjs to the train station

I then walked another mile down the middle of a main road in the hope someone drove at me for an induced coma/#nof

i wonder if Nicola just needs her own time after everything
and now, her life is spread. Again all over - I’d avoid coming home at all cost….

Plitvice · 15/02/2023 21:31

The message I am getting is 'Never have alcohol/mental health problems because the Police wont really investigate it properly if anything ever happens to you'.
If you go through the menopause then it will count against you as well.

Chicca1970 · 15/02/2023 21:32

I don’t think this would be mentioned if she was just a menopausal woman who drinks too much - the Police felt it was relevant because it suggests POSSIBLE mental instability and irrational behaviour - ffs we all need to stop being so sensitive - the end game is to get to the bottom of all this and return her home safe and well …

BornFreeButinChains · 15/02/2023 21:32

@Plitvice which is why altogh am can be dreadful in something like this it's wondeful.

People calling them out...

KevinsChilli · 15/02/2023 21:34

People speculating about Nicola being drunk on the school run, I mean I really doubt Paul who was at home with her would have allowed her to do that.

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lemmein · 15/02/2023 21:34

Plitvice · 15/02/2023 21:31

The message I am getting is 'Never have alcohol/mental health problems because the Police wont really investigate it properly if anything ever happens to you'.
If you go through the menopause then it will count against you as well.

I think this is the case with most professionals tbh. If you're ever unlucky enough to experience anxiety you'll be pleased to know you can't ever suffer any other health complaint....'it's probably just that anxiety you had 10 years ago!'

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liveforsummer · 15/02/2023 21:34

Oaktree55 · 15/02/2023 19:27

Peter Faulding you utter coward. He had an opportunity to hold his hands up and apologise. Instead he implies blame lies with a shocked and grieving family (by implication blaming them, why would police share confidential info with him a non connected civilian)? for not sharing all info. The blame lies completely with PF for being unable to realise a grieving desperate family will cling to hope and offers of hope and as a result may not be completely open in case this offer is rescinded. Utterly shameful.

mobile.twitter.com/peter_faulding/status/1625920200116736002

I actually understand this. I remember him confidently stating that he'd spoke to Paul and she was happy so there was no way she'd have vanished out of choice. Of course that's misleading to an investigation

Bluekerfuffle · 15/02/2023 21:35

Plitvice · 15/02/2023 21:31

The message I am getting is 'Never have alcohol/mental health problems because the Police wont really investigate it properly if anything ever happens to you'.
If you go through the menopause then it will count against you as well.

It probably does affect their investigation to some extent, just as having health anxiety seems to get people dismissed and fobbed off by the medical profession.

Amethystanddiamonds · 15/02/2023 21:37

Could a functioning alcoholic really pull off such a perfect disappearance?

Yes. I know people in my family that had high level council positions and were teaching classes of primary children and therefore in control of a class of 30 children and no one noticed. Addiction seems to run in my family. I can assure you alcoholics aren't all sleeping rough buying cheap cider from the corner shop. There is a massive middle class drinking problem in this country due to cultural and social factors and the stress we now live under. It's highly frowned upon to be struggling though so people never admit it and can maintain an impressive facade while the rest of their life is falling apart.

We have absolutely no idea what is going on in this case though and whether she was indeed a functioning alcoholic or not. We really need to get over the stigma of mental health issues in this country.

RecoIIectionsMayVary · 15/02/2023 21:37

Plitvice · 15/02/2023 21:31

The message I am getting is 'Never have alcohol/mental health problems because the Police wont really investigate it properly if anything ever happens to you'.
If you go through the menopause then it will count against you as well.

Agree. Not related to my other post but when my teen boyfriend had meningitis and was delirious the doctors thought he was attention seeking because he was a CSA survivor and in therapy/on Anti Ds

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drpet49 · 15/02/2023 21:38

MySugarBabyLove · 15/02/2023 20:08

I hope the people who are so angry about this aren’t the same ones who post on threads suggesting that menopause could be the reason for someone feeling raging/upset/how they can’t function without their HRT etc etc.

You can’t have it both ways. Either menopause is something which has a profound effect on some people’s lives, or it isn’t. So which is it then?

In terms of the criticism of the police, a huge part of the reason for that has been the family. The family have insisted that this was out of character, that there were no issues, that she definitely had to have been taken, etc etc etc and there was a gofundme set up, they weren’t honest with PF who based his search on what the family had told him.

And now we find out that the family told the police she was vulnerable.

That there had been previous police presence at the house.

If it had been able to be made clear that she was considered a vulnerable missing person from the outset then maybe this level of speculation wouldn’t have come about.

It’s likely that the call to the home has been part of the investigation which is perhaps why the police have only just been able to release the information.

And while the police didn’t say anything, the family and friends were free to say what they wanted, even though most of it wasn’t true, even to the point of making documentaries and setting up a gofundme.

Finally someone actually taking sense.