MADELEINE MCCANN - News Updates (please try not to argue)

[MrsSpoon]

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Lets hope this is the one that contains the good news that she has been found alive and well.

FFS!

oh dear......................

walk away jenk walk away..........

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Does your dh know them then? Seen them in person, in private? Monitored the father's behaviour? Seen him off camera? Or - he's not one of the psychic dream weavers is he?

he's a surgeon. it's likely that he's been the one to tell parents that their children have died on his operating table on many occasions. he knows what it's like to tell parents that their child isn't coming home, so he no doubt has the ability to be calm in the toughest situations.

And falling apart won't bring his daughter home. So one of them has to stay strong.

Sadly Fin54,my hubby said this too about the Dad. I told him not to be so bloody silly. The poor man is in torment and trying to stay strong for his other children - horrible position to have to be in. Feel so sad for them.

No fin54 , not once in the whole of this terrible terrible plight of theirs. Not sure anyone else has either. Bit off the wall imo.

So is there a way you're 'supposed' to behave in a case like this? Is everyone supposed to act the same way? What would you prefer him to do? Go on camera and shake his fist like Richard Maddely did when his daughter was mugged? God there have been some stupid and unkind comments on these forums but we're starting to really dig the dirt now. Don't you think the parents would have been the very first people the police interviewed?

Sorry I did say Please do not linch me, I didn't at any time mention IVF or anything about knowing him personnaly or not, you all have had your say in what you think ( some more than others ) and not all of it nice. I do believe that EVERYONE is entitled to have their SAY without being slatted by other's because they disagree with them.

has anyone managed to read their thoughts yet or are we still just ripping away the layers?

btw - how's the knitting coming along?

There is a good piece in this weeks First magazine. They have a comments from a trauma expert who has been helpingthe family. He stresses the importance of routine in coping in this kind of situation. Going for walks, eating as a family, taking the younger 2 to the creche etc It is all to help them keep going

Someone mentioned on here the other day, wasn't it Sara PAyne that said she had to be so very strong in appeals and couldn't afford to break down otherwise her message would have been lost

No one knows how people would react to this situation and I hope no one else has to ever suffer in this way. I have strong views about some of the actions of the parents in the very beginning but how can anyone comment on how they look in the press is beyond me. They are in purgatory right now

I really would suuggest you go for the smear...

opps

sorry wrong thread

Jajas - yes, I've been there too. I think the best way to describe is "going on autopilot". People deal with extreme stress in different ways, some of which may be unexpected, but all are valid.

PMSL Wotz - that is a brilliant put down - perfect for stupid threads full of nutters!

why are you continuing with such horrible insults DimpledThighs. there is something seriously wrong with you hun; you have been following this thread with some bizarre need to linch anyone that dares comments. What the heck is your bag!!!!!!!!!!!! You need to go shave that black thing off the top of your lip hun! do as I do/say or die from insults!

Jajas,
goodness - you and I had exactly the same reaction. My father died of cancer very suddenly and I was actually out of the country when it happened. I felt incredibly disconnected from the whole thing - it was a bit like watching something being played out.I now realise ( three years later) that I couldn't cry and couldn't let go because I knew I would never be able to function and I couldn't do that to my children. My eldest was struggling, middle son is severely ASD and could not understand where grandad had gne and youngest was just plain mystified. We all react to trauma and shock differently.
i also remember when my son was diagnosed with ASD and hub was very focussed on getting a plan - a therapy plan, a care plan. It was only a year later when I snapped at him about something stupid that he completely cracked up. i thought he was having a heart attack and then I realised he just could not stop crying. He had been doing the man thing - being strong for me - trying to protect his kids. He had been totally devastated by our sons regression but had tried to hide how he felt as he knew how hard I was struggling.
How strange and sad that others expect pain to be a Jeremy Kyle show. It is soo much more complicated .
I have no idea how I would behave in the face of such a terrible trauma. I don't think anyone can unless they have experienced it

wolfgirl - I think you might be confusing me with someone else - I have not been on these threads - I was on the cervical smear thread with Wotz and saw her rogue post on here and wanted to take the piss out of her.

In fact wolfgirl I remember comending your good grace at some point.

what black thing on my lip?

LOL.

I am full of grace hun; just dont like being called a nutter. not when its my day off, anyway.

you can tell me off for calling you a nutter - I hold my hands up to that one - but being accusing of "following this thread with some bizarre need to linch anyone that dares comments"

not me!