A thread to discuss DEVELOPMENTS regarding Maddie McCann

[jampot]

We can discuss parenting styles in a few weeks

Plenty of people have empathised.

Why not here?

Shall we start deciding which topics can't be discussed because they might be construed as offensive by someone?

i suppose i was actually more comfortable with the idea that people were prompted to discuss their approach to child security, but that was stomped on because it was apparently judgemental. so i'm not saying that the situation isn't up for discussion. but i agree with oliveoil that the hand-wringing is icky. am aitch, btw. i just thought i'd bagsie this name when it occurred to me.

Sorry but I find it offensive that people are suggesting those concerned are only posting on here to be seen to be concerned.

Sorry but you are talking out of your arse.

if people are concerned, which a lot of us genuinely are, then we should be allowed to post about it.

And I think all the smiley faces and winks lower down this thread are completely inappropriate.

If you want to discuss and have a laugh about the media you should not be doing so on this thread.

It is icky and distasteful to me as well, but to someone else it isn't.

So far be it from me to censor them in that respect.

expat - you can disucss sll you want - I just htink that I want to hear real news now not see 'the tears in their eyes'

because i think the being seen to be concerned is weird, that's why. i just do. i feel huge empathy/sympathy for the couple but i don't get the desire to emote on MN about it when there's absolutely ntohign can be done about it.

Marina - I didn't like the play, it annoyed me but it ahs so much to say about how our society has become - and this is a perfect example

hhhhmm nutty, you don't sound very sorry.

I'm with you there, PR, but apparently it helps others.

I felt the same way with all that Princess Di business, but as evidenced by the number of flowers and outpouring of grief others did not concur with me in that.

but why is that wanting to be 'seen' to be concerned??

some of us have no one to discuss this case with it and find it helpful to talk about it with other concerned parents. As parents we should be united, shouldn't we?

Ok, you are talking out of your arse, and I am not sorry for saying it, satisfied now ?? God you name certainly suits you.

beety, I don't think for a minute that anyone here wants to see "the tears in their eyes" either. We just want to hear that they've found her and that she's alive and we keep touching base looking for that news.

Exactly quietmouse, I have no other adult here to discuss anything with so why shouldn't I come on here to discuss it ?

I also don't have the news on constantly so again I come on here to check on the latest news.

expat I was going to mention princess di but thought I'd get lynched so glad you got there first.I don't think concerned parents 'need'to discuss this particular case in this way Agree with PattieRonising

I am on my own too and am trying not to have the news on too much as it upset my ds as she looks so similiar to my dd

Yet again it is a case of some posters telling other posters what they can and cannot discuss, and I personally am sick of it.

yes, makes the site very aggressive and unwelcoming imo.

i am pattie, as i mentioned further down. try not to read to much into the name, nutty.
i amn't arguing for censorship of the threads at all, expat. quite the opposite.
and i wouldn't have mentioned about the emoting were it not for the fact that i find it ironic that the thread we are on now was started because people wished to censor the discussion around child safety that was taking place on the other thread. what's sauce for the goose...

Quietmouse - ? re use of emoticons?

Well, I guess it depends whether you are interpreting this as a personal or public thread?

For me it is an open discussion about a situation that has come into the public domain through the news. For me it is NOT a personal discussion about someone I know, or can personally feel grief for. (But of course I can feel empathy, sorrow etc for the situation of the family).

That's why there's no hand-wringing from me, but a discussion about the role of the media seems perfectly acceptable?

Buth there was already a seperate thread for the subject of child safety befote this one was started, so it wasn't that no one was allowing it to be discussed, people just found it innapropriate to post it on that thread.

but nutty, you were just very aggressive to me... either we can say what we wish or not. i don't have to understand this rather adolescent imo desire for hand-wringing to defend your right to do it. but you have to accept therefore that people will disagree with you without stamping your foot and saying people are spoiling the entire site.

And you were very patronising and condescending.

once again, am violently agreeing with gameboy...