A thread to discuss DEVELOPMENTS regarding Maddie McCann

[jampot]

We can discuss parenting styles in a few weeks

enid. succinct and spot on.

I'm very puzzled by the posters telling other posters not to comment further. After all, this case is being discussed in playgrounds, parks, cafes, pubs.... etc. There won't be many parents in the land who aren't talking about it, and they're not all telling each other to shut up and leave it etc. As usual, MN turns it into a bun fight. Does it not happen all the time on here? Regardless of the topic. I frequently feel that you're not 'allowed' to express an opinion because certain posters won't agree with you and will do their damndest to stamp all over you and shut you up. This is a public parenting forum, we're all parents, we're going to want to discuss it because it's a scary thing and perhaps those we meet in our everyday lives aren't going to want to talk about it, so we come on here looking for a bit of solidarity only to be ganged up on.

Anyway, enough now. As long as there are only 'discussion' postings here, I don't see why anyone, including the McCann family or their relatives should be offended.

People are going to want to discuss this, we're not just going to ignore it.

competitive grieving is spot on is it?

In what way? We are not 'grieving' We are hoping for good news on Madeleine. We are caring about her and her family.

Sorry, but what the hell has it got to do with you?

Thanks for that PedroPony. Next time I need to be told what to think/feel, I know where to find you.

oh COME ON!!!

you are not caring for her, you DO NOT KNOW HER OR HER FAMILY. children are kidnapped, enslaved and dying all over the world as we speak why are you not in a state of mourning and protest at that?

what you are caring about is yourselves, your own families, your own children, how easily this could happen to you! she is white middle class, pretty and they are a normal family and therefore it is easy to relate to them and what must be a horrendous time for them.

gah.

I agree enid and pedro - we all want madeleine to be found, but it does feel a bit ghoulish. I hated the Princess Diana stuff as well, it felt like intruding on William and Harry's genuine grief. I know it's so close to home for lots of us, but it now feels like 'rubber-necking' on the motorway when you pass a crash.

Sorry.

of course the police are unsure of whether she is alive!!!

that is not a devlopment, it was there at the start

noone knows anything

"competitive grieving"?

Utter rubbish.

You are turning this discussion into something it isn't. I just hope when YOU want to talk something through on Mumsnet, other posters aren't told to 'stop it'.

Read back, that sounds heartless - what I mean is, it's totally tragic, but it's not MY tragedy, and making it into MY tragedy feels like it's taking away from the McCanns.

yes I agree tortoiseshell

it does somehow feel as though people are 'muscling in' on the mccanns grief

almost wanting to be a part of it

sophable - please do not tell me who I am or am not caring for. You do not know me or my thoughts.

Ladies ladies - some decorum please !!

STOP BLOODY SQUABBLING !!

Madeleine is still missing - put your energies into positive thought waves or go and do something moer interesting - but just stop this puerile squabbling ! It is so not dignified !

ok quietmouse. of course you are struck down with grief because of a total stranger, nothing to do with your fear and horror that this might happen to you.

i find it really abhorrent when what is an unimaginable horror to those involved gets publically owned like this. SHE IS NOT YOUR DAUGHTER. you can have no idea what they are going through. all you can know is the shudder of fear that runs through you at the thought of it happening to your child.

The media is portraying this story in a certain way to create as much publicity as possible, which will hopefully bring it to a swift and positive outcome. The journalists out there are reporting it as a story we can all relate to - if the abduction became another story in the horrific mix of children being snatched, dying, being trafficked etc then it would not be at the forefront of our minds and it would drop out of the public eye.

It's not as clear-cut as you're making it Sophable.

yes adn I hate that they call her Maddie in the newspapers - someone else has mentione dthis too

her name is Madeleine you do not know her

in the sun it is Little Maddy

it's jamie rather than james all over again isn't it. he was never called that.

dont

No one is claiming to 'know her'!!!

She's being called that in the press so she's portrayed as a real child, not another statistic.

??

somehow Madeleine isn't 'real' enough?

I keep clicking on this thread to see if anyone knows of any developments

But you're all just arguing.

The press are trying to sell copies. Certainly the tabloids. 2 children murdered in London have received little coverage. It was the same with the Soham murders.

we're all looking, it's car-crash MN, isn't it? Let's be honest!

I'm worried for the little girl and hope she's okay, but if I'm honest, I don't know her and therefore my concern is almost entirely motivated by the fact that it could have been one of my children and it's that which bothers me! How can any of us truly care unless we know the family?!

Much of the coverage has been sensationalist and having it as a top news story is not going to help her cause, it may however feed into the imaginations of any watching/planning paedophiles.

What I mean is that if it was being reported in a very emotionless way, with no emotive phrases like "little maddie' then the public would not latch on to it, it would subsequently drop out of the news and the chances of finding her would decrease.

This is why her mum was shown holding a picture of her, why there are continous press releases.
The more exposure there is the less chance there is of her being taken out of the country.

Does no one else see this?