This is a little bit like a divorce really.
With one side being rather nice, and saying "yes, off you go, as soon as you like, but before you can finalise it we really need to sort out money and the house and the children".
And the other side saying "I can go as soon as I like, I don't need you, everything's going to be fine, stop making a fuss and fgs stop going on about the fact that I'm lying about what I'm up to, covering up my spending and debts, refusing to face up to my responsibilities and not bothering to sort out any contact arrangements for the kids".
The first person is going to eventually say "well I'm not signing off on that".
Only multiplied by a million.