Having decided to do this (which is their right, no-one as saying it isn't), surely it isn't unreasonable to expect them to suggest a solution. As it is, the UK government have made no suggestion at all (if they have, please link it, because I haven't seen it). All they appear to be doing is whinging that it's all someone else's fault.
dialogues are two way, right? I see nothing from the EU either.
The EU's position is certainly understandable. But it's also the case that they alone are insisting on a border when the other two parties don't want one. God isn't saying there needs to be a border, and neither is Ireland or the UK. It's the EU.
there are smooth non-borders between non-EU and EU countries as people have mentioned.
This is a huge mess, and possibly one of the reasons you don't want to be in a union with a huge inflexible mess of 27 nations. It's mainly England that voted to leave. But somehow this is hampered because this creates a border (not at their insistence) between two OTHER nations (both on the island of Ireland)?