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Don't know if anyone else has started a new thread .

I don't agree. We all differ in grief. There is no one way to be. They have legal freedom to comment in public if they want to. Just because someone else might not or most people might not is not relevant.

Yes Sos we need some Lark Ascending now

Yes calm now and not judging... breathe breathe breathe

You're right they do have the freedom to comment on whatever they like but I just don't think it's good for them to be all over social media right now. Theyre going to read things they don't like & it's going to mess with their heads

Connie has just asked someone what is the difference between her home and a hospice? Where are her people to calm her?

I feel so, so sorry for the pain that Connie is clearly in. A PP commented that she is stuck in the anger/denial part of the grieving cycle, which I think is clearly right. I hope and pray that she can eventually move on and let herself process what is happening, but she's clearly completely beyond herself at the moment. Lighting a candle for all three of them.

And as other PPs have said, there's probably a lot of hanging around in the family room while the medics do their stuff. I can't imagine she's wanting to flick through crumpled copies of Grazia.

The trouble is, she is reading and responding to the most vile of comments. It can only serve to cause her more pain. SM is the worst place for her right now.

Why are The Sun and The Fail both reporting about the rooftop picnic that they had for Charlie months ago?

"Connie has just asked someone what is the difference between her home and a hospice? Where are her people to calm her?"

Yes - it's not about judgement but I'm sad for her that she apparently doesn't have a mum figure to give her a big bear hug and confiscate her phone. Everyone has their own coping mechanisms but I can't see how obsessively reading comments slagging her off on the Sun website is going to help her.

Ok I've read the link now - the family seem to have just now released a load of pictures and video.

RebeccaMumsnet I think our posts crossed. I hope I haven't breached something. It is worth pointing out that when people are under EXTREME anguish and stress they do behave in ways that even they wouldn't expect. Looking back in retrospect in my own life at some very very difficult situations. Also watching patients and relatives in very sad/ intractable situations. A long way in the future they will know he was here they loved him they really really tried. If people could have willed him better there were many thousands trying. I wish them peace

C&C need someone to tell them to ignore all social media whether "supporting" or not. I hope they do nothing but spend their last few precious hours with Charlie who they clearly love so so much

Does anyone think CY has read these threads?

Do you know what she may well have who knows

Thanks, Creme. Putting head above parapet to repost this link.
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/mumsnet_campaigns/2990380-Fundraiser-for-GOSH?watched=1
Also, if I'm not being presumptuous, would it be nice to support the little ballerina's stay in hospital with cards, letters etc?
I've only heard about her on this thread, but if there is anything positive that could come out of this, then let's do it.

In Sos's absence, I recommend this piece for thought and reflection.
(The title of it is quite apt here!)

Sorry I don't know how to embed it within my post.

Why would you be on FB instead of making "precious memories" when you have so little time left?

People hiding behind SM posts can be real shits. Twitter is full of nasty nasty comments on ever topic under the sun. It's the sad state of the world.

Lets not refer to CY comments. It is clear MNHQ do no want us to mention them.

Maybe they are doing some intrusive procedures Ellie, I am trying to be generous and even if they are I would be sitting having a good cry with my mum not getting very distressed with some nutters on The Sun FB

Mam great ideas on both counts.

Would it be acceptable for me to say I also feel quite sad for the staff at GOSH, because they won't have the chance to nurse Charlie to the end?

I appreciate C&C don't want him anywhere near the place, and of course any sad feelings of the staff are nothing compared to theirs, but these are caring people and I'm sure they too will have come to think a lot of Charlie over the months they've looked after him

Mamagin i'd be up for doing something for the ballerina too. Lovely idea.
I think contacting her friend Rhodolia (sp) is a good place to start