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Mikaeel Kular's mum pleads guilty

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Groovee · 25/07/2014 10:59

[Warning added by MNHQ: please note that the content of the link given here is very distressing]

Rosdeep Adekoya has pleaded guilty to Culpable Homicide of her son Mikaeel in January of this year.

OP posts:
TheFairiesAreBack · 25/07/2014 11:06

I hope she gets the help she clearly needs/needed.

Mumof3xox · 25/07/2014 11:06

That poor boy and his poor siblings

TurboWithAKick · 25/07/2014 11:26

She's been held in a prison so not mentally unwell?

Those poor children, wherever they are , hope they are doing ok

RoseberryTopping · 25/07/2014 11:32

Oh god it's awful isn't it :(
I do feel some sympathy for her, she was obviously struggling with her feelings and anger towards him, it's just a massive shame she didn't seek more help.

Poor wee soul, may he rest in peace.

Pantone363 · 25/07/2014 11:36

I hope she rots

She was still assaulting him after the first beating because he was being sick.

If this was a man we would be crucifying him

gertiegusset · 25/07/2014 11:37

I don't feel sorry for her, she punched him to death over the course of about four days, plenty of time to ask for help.
Poor little boy.
She's being charged with a lesser charge than murder because the Judge accepts she didn't mean to kill him.

Floralnomad · 25/07/2014 11:40

I don't see how anyone can feel sorry for her and I don't see how they've accepted that she didn't intend to kill him ,she certainly didn't try to get any help to save him after assaulting him on the Sunday night .

SantasLittleMonkeyButler · 25/07/2014 11:42

Jesus. She beat him because he was being sick?

I have no words TBH.

TurboWithAKick · 25/07/2014 11:42

That's awful. He was sick and she assaulted him?

ChaChaChaChanges · 25/07/2014 11:45

That news report is horrific - I did have sympathy with her until I read it.

She sounds utterly evil.

WiggleGinger · 25/07/2014 11:45

How???
How could you EVER feel sorry for her?
She beat him as he was being sick!!!!!!!!!

She deserves to rot! That's unforgivable!

Those poor poor children!!!!!

What must have gone through the little boys mind as he was so poorly, needed help & was being beaten instead of cared for? Think about that before feeling sorry for HER!

TulipOHare · 25/07/2014 11:48

Wish I hadn't read that. I think there should be a warning that that is a distressing link tbh.

Horrible, vile woman. I don't feel a damned ounce of sympathy for her.

thornrose · 25/07/2014 11:50

I wish I hadn't read it either, I didn't dream it was going to be so dreadful.

TurboWithAKick · 25/07/2014 11:53

It's in the section 'in the news'... It's never going to be pleasant is it?

All this requesting 'warnings' etc makes me wonder why anyone would click the thread in the first place

bouquetofpencils · 25/07/2014 11:54

I am a reasonable person. I try to put myself in other peoples shoes and consider factors.

Her internet searches show she was fully aware that what she was doing was wrong.

She did not seek help. She did not want to be found out. She continued her behaviour repeatedly over time.

She was punishing her child for being ill.

She showed depraved indifference to her sons suffering.

That poor boy. What a miserable life and death he had.

I do not have sympathy for this woman.

I am glad she will be punished for her cruelty to a helpless and vulnerable child.

ChaChaChaChanges · 25/07/2014 11:54

The BBC report is virtually identical to the link above - I don't think it's possible to dress up her actions to make them more palatable.

The only positive I can find is that it seems her abuse was limited to poor little Mikaeel.

Adekoya's internet history had showed searches including "I find it hard to love my son", "I love all of my children except one", "Why am I so aggressive with my son" and "Get rid of bruises"

GiveTwoSheets · 25/07/2014 11:58

Why did I click on that link, I never knew how she murdered him until now I couldn't read the whole article its just so fucking awful. I have no sympathy for the woman she should be left to rot

MildDrPepperAddiction · 25/07/2014 12:00

There are no words to describe her. Evil perhaps? How on earth could you beat your child repeatedly whilst he was being sick. She should be tried for murder.

tobiasfunke · 25/07/2014 12:01

Actually I do think there should as least been a trigger warning with that link. It has made me incredibly upset and I am not easily upset on here.

TurboWithAKick · 25/07/2014 12:02

She had five dc I think.... But one she couldn't love. How can that happen?

ChaChaChaChanges · 25/07/2014 12:05

I've reported to ask for a warning re the contents of the link.

SouthernComforts · 25/07/2014 12:06

I really do not understand how anyone can have sympathy for that woman.

All mine is reserved for that poor little boy.

I hope she is jailed for life.

NickNacks · 25/07/2014 12:10

Really? A warning is needed? You know the child was murdered by his mother and you know the link is about what happened. Why click on it if you don't want to read the details?

thecatfromjapan · 25/07/2014 12:11

TurboWithAKick I think it does happen sometimes. One child is the scapegoat, and all the parent/parents negative emotions are projected out and away from the parent/parents as being caused by, or the fault of, that child. The parent/parents are then able to cope a lot better with their other children, and a virtuous circle is established in the parenting of those.

Of course, a vicious circle is established with the scapegoat child: they are already single out as the cause of parental bad-feelings, as a child at fault - on top of this, the constant ill-treatment will have an effect on their behaviour, and in addition, the parent/parents will feel enormous guilt, which will add to their already unbearable internal feelings.

There must be research on this, and also research on which children are most at risk of being the scapegoat child.

But we do get threads on mumsnet asking how to deal with feelings like this. I always feel so sorry for the parents who post - they must feel so out of control - wanting to stop (hence posting) but not able to do so. I hope they get help.

I have no idea about this case, at all. to be banal, I feel very sad about it.

However, I would say to any parent reading this, and feeling overwhelmed by parenting, it is OK to go and see a GP to get help. They are very non-judgmental (in the main), after a few years in practise they have probably come across it before, and will point people towards help.

TurboWithAKick · 25/07/2014 12:12

It's a certain lot who create a sympathetic attitude.... Woman on her own with kids?? She MUST have been abused or let down by a MAN.... She gets immediate sympathy no matter what

Not in my book.

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