emtee88 Thank you for your contribution.
I am a disabled adult and most of my childhood was spent surrounded by similar misconceptions and thinking I wasn't going to live to see adulthood - I didn't think my disabilities would get me, but the adults around me. I recall all the ableist comments about how unfortunate my parents are, how much better off I would be in heaven, hearing my mother rage that if I loved her, I would jump from my bedroom window and make her life so much easier. I spent years staring at the light around my door crying thinking tonight would the night. I know they tried. I know I suffered far more violence and neglect than either of my able-bodied siblings. I sometimes still get surprised that I survived this long. Having my own disabled children has just make me more sickened by what they and others still think of us and our lives.
Being a parent of disabled people doesn't make one a long suffering saint, being disabled doesn't mean one is a tragedy. The reporting around this and similar stories of disabled children and people being murdered by their parents only fuels more violence and oppression against disabled people. The media should put to task about how their horrible reporting and desire for sensationalism is hurting people. It's not helping the other loved ones mourn, it isn't helping people understand anything, it's ableist sensationalistic media misrepresentation.